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yrstocollar -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 9:40:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross When you eat a single course meal in separate courses because the foods can't touch (that's me). When you put canned fruit in the fridge to let it get cold, and then leave it on the counter so it gets warm to be at the right "tepid" temperature (also me). When you tell your partner he's making you sick because he keeps "tapping" on the gas pedal in traffice (me again). When he's fifteen minutes late getting out the door and you have a total meltdown (yeah, me, last week) There's more, most of it's related to my OCD/anxiety issues, but then, that's normal, right? ROFL!! Less on the control freak and more on the OCD side of things... when my girlfriend has to arrange m & m's in order of colour and number of colours and then has to eat the largest number first to make them or match or has to arrange them into patterns first... oh the joys of messing up the patterns and waiting for the meltdown... I'm so cruel grin

BloodLuna -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 11:23:13 AM)
yrstocollar: I LOVE the photo - there is something so beautiful about a kiss. . . I like to play tricks on sir with mixed nuts He's a bit OCD and when I buy him his favorite treat of mixed nuts he has to eat all of one type first - he starts with peanuts, then goes to walnuts etc. Last week when he hit the cashews I tossed in a handful of peanuts and about 5 M&Ms - one of each color. Of course that night I went into the bathroom at 1am 1/2 asleep and there was no toliet paper anywhere in the bathroom!! LOL Lady Luna

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 2:14:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BloodLuna Lets see - do I have goofy control issues? Oh yes, in the car. My Dom is the safest driver I know. I'm such a control freak (who hates to drive) that he has to keep a blindfold in the glove box!! Here's a typical 10 minute ride to the grocery store. Me in the passenger seat: "Watch out, there's a cop on the left. You're going 2 over the limit" Sir: "Read your book" Me in the passenger seat "Red light. They're braking, they're braking." Sir: "Read your book" Me in the passenger seat I brace myself with my legs against the dash board and take a grip on the door handle Sir; "Read your book or I'm taking out the blindfold!!!" SunNMoon - I have toliet paper roll issues too. I've been known to get hysterical when walking into the bathroom and finding empty cardboad! Goddess Forbid I sit down first!!!! [:@] Lady Luna Luna, You crack me up!! Hope you are staying in bed!!!

laurell3 -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 2:17:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yrstocollar has to arrange m & m's in order of colour and number of colours and then has to eat the largest number first to make them or match or has to arrange them into patterns first I do that! But I eat them down to where they all have equal numbers....wouldn't want any M&M's feeling left out!

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 2:17:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: batshalom When he gives you a twisted fairy tale version of everything you say and every thought you have and every move you make and everything you haven't said / done / thought / expressed, and it all points to the reasons why you're a liar and a cheater and don't care about him at all; and he won't listen to the truth AND makes the truth sound to your own ears like a bunch of crazy excuses because he is so assured of the inaccurate monster builder in his head that he's like an impenetrable fortress of weird (but somehow logical) ideas. ~deep breath~ No. I don't want to talk about it. (But a Dramamine might be nice - that was one crazy ride.) batshalom, i told you to stop reading my mind!! (that's exactly what I used to do to my ex)

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 2:20:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wisteriaV Master has to have homemade from scratch pizza at least twice a month and it has to be on Fridays. Alternative Fridays are fish nights. Sundays are chicken and potatoes. It doesn't matter how it is prepared. Also, he has to have his t-shirts, socks and underwear folded a specific way and in the drawer in order. Freshly laundered clothing gets put on the bottom, so the clothing in the drawer the longest is used first.. [:D] So where are the control issues in that? I don't get it?

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 2:22:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael quote: When you tell your partner he's making you sick because he keeps "tapping" on the gas pedal in traffice (me again). When he's fifteen minutes late getting out the door and you have a total meltdown (yeah, me, last week) Yep, that's me! But you are never late honey... (quickly ducks)

Shawn1066 -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 2:26:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 quote: ORIGINAL: yrstocollar has to arrange m & m's in order of colour and number of colours and then has to eat the largest number first to make them or match or has to arrange them into patterns first I do that! But I eat them down to where they all have equal numbers....wouldn't want any M&M's feeling left out! I do this too. o_o

fairerthanshe -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 2:40:30 PM)
We were on our way to a concert with his best friends in the back seat a couple of weeks ago. I was driving and SJ leaned over and said, "Is there some reason we're traveling at 85 mph?" I replied, "Because I can." He was not amused. I wouldn't call him a control freak, but he does like to guide me as I drive. The last dom I spent time with before meeting SJ was riding with me once and we were in the midst of a huge arguement. I cut across 4 lanes of traffic at about 65 mph. (picture sliding across the 4 lanes, rather than crossing safely) I thought he was going to have a heart attack! He was screaming at me to "stop the car!!!" and his voice went up about 4 octaves. That was pretty much the end of things for us! lol I may have some control issues when it comes to driving now that I reflect... winks ~ fairer

subtee -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 2:44:13 PM)
My ex-husband ("the creature"), used to grind the coffee beans like this: llloooooooonnnnnggggg, short, short, lloooooonnnnng, lllooonnnnnnnggg, shortshortshortshort, lllooooooonngggg...short Kinda made me want to smash his head with a tree trunk. But that wasn't unsual.

BloodLuna -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 3:07:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch Luna, You crack me up!! Hope you are staying in bed!!! Yes Ma'am!!! I've been really good! (of course it took Sir threatening to paddlock me with an ankle cuff and a chain to the bed and leave me with a chamber pot) I see the doc tomorrow to talk about when they want to do the c-section. With any luck there will be a 5 lb addition to the family before christmas. Luna

beltainefaerie -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 3:16:06 PM)
Bloodluna, that totally used to be me! Driving is definitely my control freak moment, but I actually prefer someone else to drive. My husband is vanilla and it never would have occurred to him to blindfold me. I love that your Sir kept asking you to read your book. In our case, I read aloud to him and then I can't watch the road. Plus, he loves being read to. Sometimes he chooses and sometimes I choose, but we get to share our favorite books this way, and I don't freak out. Currently we are working on Kushiel's Chosen.

gorgeous1 -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 3:36:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross When you eat a single course meal in separate courses because the foods can't touch (that's me). When you put canned fruit in the fridge to let it get cold, and then leave it on the counter so it gets warm to be at the right "tepid" temperature (also me). When you tell your partner he's making you sick because he keeps "tapping" on the gas pedal in traffice (me again). When he's fifteen minutes late getting out the door and you have a total meltdown (yeah, me, last week) There's more, most of it's related to my OCD/anxiety issues, but then, that's normal, right? I can't have any of my food touching either, and I like to eat all the vegetables first, then the starch, then the protein. Yes, I have OCD/Control freak issues, BIG TIME. I wear latex gloves when I handle raw meat, and then there is a complete set of separate cutting boards for each type of meat and whether it's raw or not. I HATE grocery stores...I think they're the filthiest places on earth. I hate touching shopping carts, freezer door handles...I can't have a dirty refrigerator, leftovers are thrown away after 48 hours, nothing is kept that is on or after the expiration date, meat cannot be stored above other types of food. The bathroom has to be cleaned and sanitized in a particular order, I sanitize the laundry baskets (because what's the use of putting clean clothes into a basket that had dirty underwear in it?) I wipe down and sanitize all the door handles, the light switches, the phones, the computer mouse and key board every day... Yes, I am a control freak with a fear of dirt and germs, and so I spend time posting on internet forums when I need to control my urge to clean. Ahhhh... that felt really good to unload that. You guys don't think I'm a freak, do you? Thanks. [&:]

laurell3 -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 3:40:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee My ex-husband ("the creature"), used to grind the coffee beans like this: llloooooooonnnnnggggg, short, short, lloooooonnnnng, lllooonnnnnnnggg, shortshortshortshort, lllooooooonngggg...short Kinda made me want to smash his head with a tree trunk. But that wasn't unsual. Haha that sounds annoying.

laurell3 -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 3:42:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gorgeous1 quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross When you eat a single course meal in separate courses because the foods can't touch (that's me). When you put canned fruit in the fridge to let it get cold, and then leave it on the counter so it gets warm to be at the right "tepid" temperature (also me). When you tell your partner he's making you sick because he keeps "tapping" on the gas pedal in traffice (me again). When he's fifteen minutes late getting out the door and you have a total meltdown (yeah, me, last week) There's more, most of it's related to my OCD/anxiety issues, but then, that's normal, right? I can't have any of my food touching either, and I like to eat all the vegetables first, then the starch, then the protein. Yes, I have OCD/Control freak issues, BIG TIME. I wear latex gloves when I handle raw meat, and then there is a complete set of separate cutting boards for each type of meat and whether it's raw or not. I HATE grocery stores...I think they're the filthiest places on earth. I hate touching shopping carts, freezer door handles...I can't have a dirty refrigerator, leftovers are thrown away after 48 hours, nothing is kept that is on or after the expiration date, meat cannot be stored above other types of food. The bathroom has to be cleaned and sanitized in a particular order, I sanitize the laundry baskets (because what's the use of putting clean clothes into a basket that had dirty underwear in it?) I wipe down and sanitize all the door handles, the light switches, the phones, the computer mouse and key board every day... Yes, I am a control freak with a fear of dirt and germs, and so I spend time posting on internet forums when I need to control my urge to clean. Ahhhh... that felt really good to unload that. You guys don't think I'm a freak, do you? Thanks. [&:] Hon we're all freaks, it's just a matter of how and what degree....honestly reading that I thought..hmmm you should clean MY house too!

gorgeous1 -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 3:54:14 PM)
Awww, thanks for not making me feel like such a freak...I don't clean other people's houses, but I have to admit I secretly "white glove" them. I am sooooo bad. When I go to other people's houses, I do as much of the following that I can without being totally obvious: Swipe the tops of lightbulbs to see if there's dust Inspect baseboards for dust Check doors for grime Check bathroom floor for hair...sooooo gross Check BEHIND faucets to see if there's algae/mold/mildew See if the microwave or other appliances have fingerprints on them. It's like this compulsive irresitable force. I really try not to judge other people's cleaning habits, but sometimes I can't help it, but one thing I have learned to accept is that not everyone has the same (unrealistic) standards as me.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 4:03:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: yrstocollar Less on the control freak and more on the OCD side of things... when my girlfriend has to arrange m & m's in order of colour and number of colours and then has to eat the largest number first to make them or match or has to arrange them into patterns first... oh the joys of messing up the patterns and waiting for the meltdown... I'm so cruel grin I do that with skittles and arrange them into squares of 3 or 4, then eat them in sequence based on total number, eating the leftovers of the square first and saving all the reds for last. Oh and a dozen others- mostly things no one ever would notice unless they really tried to look and I've squashed tons of them over the years. I focused on things I do that flow over into the lives of others. My partner has to wash more dishes because I use more eating one meal. My partner gets the brunt of my meltdowns. My sub told me today that I am horrible at communicating when and how I need help and letting other people help me :P I've always had to be on my own and take care of my shit. I think I'm just too picky and I HATE telling someone that their efforts aren't good enough when I rationally know that what they are doing is just fine, how a normal person does them, how it would be just great for anyone else. I feel bad at criticizing just because of my own irrational standards. So unless someone is going to seriously want to be part of my life and accept my irrational pickiness and be trained, it's really just easier to take care of it myself. Which goes over GREAT when you hit that wall where you really do need help or do need a break but you've put it all on yourself and then end up feeling put upon and resentful because your own idiot ass didn't open up when you KNEW you should have and it becomes a great big mess. Fun. Luckily that doesn't happen too often.

MystressDream -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 4:08:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gorgeous1 Awww, thanks for not making me feel like such a freak...I don't clean other people's houses, but I have to admit I secretly "white glove" them. I am sooooo bad. When I go to other people's houses, I do as much of the following that I can without being totally obvious: Swipe the tops of lightbulbs to see if there's dust Inspect baseboards for dust Check doors for grime Check bathroom floor for hair...sooooo gross Check BEHIND faucets to see if there's algae/mold/mildew See if the microwave or other appliances have fingerprints on them. It's like this compulsive irresitable force. I really try not to judge other people's cleaning habits, but sometimes I can't help it, but one thing I have learned to accept is that not everyone has the same (unrealistic) standards as me. Wow.... I have to admit that even though I feel I keep a clean house, if someone came to visit me and I saw them do any of those things they would be shown the door. If you come to visit ME, it better be to see ME, not to critique my housekeeping.

juliaoceania -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 4:46:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gorgeous1 Awww, thanks for not making me feel like such a freak...I don't clean other people's houses, but I have to admit I secretly "white glove" them. I am sooooo bad. When I go to other people's houses, I do as much of the following that I can without being totally obvious: Swipe the tops of lightbulbs to see if there's dust Inspect baseboards for dust Check doors for grime Check bathroom floor for hair...sooooo gross Check BEHIND faucets to see if there's algae/mold/mildew See if the microwave or other appliances have fingerprints on them. It's like this compulsive irresitable force. I really try not to judge other people's cleaning habits, but sometimes I can't help it, but one thing I have learned to accept is that not everyone has the same (unrealistic) standards as me. People like you crack me up, there is medication for your issues you know. I shouldn't make light of it, but being irresistibly drawn to critique other people's homes sounds a little OCD-ish. I guess I am too self absorbed to give a rat's ass about stuff like this, which is a different sort of neurosis.

laurell3 -> RE: You know you or your partner is a control freak when.... (11/28/2007 4:58:38 PM)
I had a friend once with serious OCD that had cleaning issues as well, in addition, she could NOT drive anywhere. She was always compelled to turn at times that she shouldn't and would wander around the city instead of driving to the store two blocks from her house because she could only turn left on that day. She had the ability to laugh at it and was getting help, but given some of the issues I know she had and what you shared, I just wanted to say, it can always be worse.

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