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RE: A few questions - 11/30/2007 10:46:41 AM

DesFIP

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I find most men don't want smart women. Most meaning 80 out of a hundred. They prefer being with a woman dumber than they are because it makes them feel smarter. It doesn't actually do anything to make them more learned, wiser etc.

Being with someone your intellectual equal means you will be challenged. But to like that, you have to be confident in yourself and your abilities. When people are insecure, they don't feel able to accept information from others, you have to manipulate them to get them to think that the right thing to do in a situation was their idea from the start. I have no interest in that and I lose respect for the insecure types fast.

I know I don't know everything and I have no problem asking those who do to explain things. People who are insecure can't admit to areas of low knowledge nor separate knowing from feeling.

I've never paid attention to women's dating habits to know if they also prefer dumber partners.

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RE: A few questions - 11/30/2007 10:56:14 AM

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Wow..nice sweeping generalization. I don't like stupid people men or women and I certainly would not be involved with one.I would be suprised if 80% of men would.

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RE: A few questions - 11/30/2007 11:00:35 AM

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Your experience differs drastically from my own.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I find most men don't want smart women. Most meaning 80 out of a hundred. They prefer being with a woman dumber than they are because it makes them feel smarter. It doesn't actually do anything to make them more learned, wiser etc.

Being with someone your intellectual equal means you will be challenged. But to like that, you have to be confident in yourself and your abilities. When people are insecure, they don't feel able to accept information from others, you have to manipulate them to get them to think that the right thing to do in a situation was their idea from the start. I have no interest in that and I lose respect for the insecure types fast.

I know I don't know everything and I have no problem asking those who do to explain things. People who are insecure can't admit to areas of low knowledge nor separate knowing from feeling.

I've never paid attention to women's dating habits to know if they also prefer dumber partners.

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RE: A few questions - 11/30/2007 11:10:27 AM

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Hello Teles

When you ask for essays - are you meaning fictional or practical?

As for message boards and communities - I have to say I haven't found anywhere as interesting to post as here - so I cannot help you there. Maybe you might consider starting your own online blog and writing your thoughts etc? Keeping it open for others to contribute to?

I also haven't had the problem of dominants not liking intelligent submissives. Of course you get the odd person who do not like it when you disagree and might throw a few insults your way but that's their problem to deal with and I wouldn't say it was dominants only who act like that.

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RE: A few questions - 11/30/2007 11:16:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: Teles

Just curious to know other people's opinions.

Does anyone know of a good place to find essays relating to bdsm? About anything, really. Punishment, psychology involved, anything.

Does anyone know of any other good message boards or communities where people talk about BDSM?

Why is it that though daddy doms/little girl subs are found pretty frequently in BDSM, there isn't a lot of erotica relating to that dynamic?

I've run into a lot of doms that don't like intelligent subs. Not wayward subs, or argumenative subs, but good subs who just... are smarter. Is it the norm for slaves to be considered better slaves when they don't have voices?

If anyone wants to talk person to person, I'm also leosunflowers on AIM. =)

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I'm only going to address the last question/comment. How can you communicate effectively when you don't have a voice or opinion in the relationship? You can not. Slave does not equal doormat- someone to be stepped on and kicked around that makes no noise. You seem to have the intelligence to know what to look for in a Master. (Thanks to the great people here that have posted resources, you also know where to look). Don't "dumb" yourself down for anyone. Eventually, you will lose all respect for them because they not only lack the IQ you hold, but other things as well.

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