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first meeting - 12/1/2007 12:29:50 PM

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I would be interested in hearing masters tell of their first meeting with subs not none to them. I have had only one sub and she was a friend first. How did you first meetings go

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RE: first meeting - 12/1/2007 12:48:10 PM

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I meet a lot of subs at munches but these meetings are not meant for them to be mine. Of the last two prospective subs for me, one was at a restaurant and it went poorly, probably because of a recent breakup with my last sub. The second, I spent a lot of time talking to her online via emails first and then flew her out to meet me. This went a lot better and she is now thinking of being my new sub for good.

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RE: first meeting - 12/1/2007 6:04:30 PM

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searching,

For me, my approach is always casual and will never envolve a session. Just a eye to eye meeting.

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RE: first meeting - 12/3/2007 5:09:07 PM

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CP,
so how do you set up a first meeting

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RE: first meeting - 12/4/2007 12:03:55 PM

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My first meeting with my current sub was casual. It was more of a get to know you, play around a little with D/s to see how much stimuli she could endure, etc. We discussed things in depth prior to meeting, but I insisted on a very light-hearted first meeting, to make sure we both were comfortable in the new situation. There was some playful spanking and more love-making than anything.

The first meeting was as predicted: it was very nice, but could not compare to the subsequent meeting, where I tanned her pretty little ass red, slapped her lovely face, blindfolded her, roughly ate her ass, pulled her hair, had her lick my cock clean, and face-fucked her, forcing her to worship my hard cock. She seemed to enjoy meeting #2 just as much as I did.

By the way, I met my luscious little pet here on collarme.

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RE: first meeting - 12/4/2007 12:35:13 PM

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Well, isn't that just lovely........

OP, the majority of first meetings will not result in a connection. Most of the time, one or both of you will decide that you are not a good match. Usually, if the sub is not somebody that I already know, I will exchange a few emails, IMs, phone calls first. Then, if all is going well, I will suggest a meeting at a local function, a munch or at the local dungeon. After that meeting we decide if we want to pursue any deeper involvement, perhaps a dinner date, to allow quality 1 on 1 conversation.

I prefer the 1st meeting to be very casual, not even a "date".

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RE: first meeting - 12/4/2007 4:12:21 PM

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Well, isn't that just lovely........

OP, the majority of first meetings will not result in a connection. Most of the time, one or both of you will decide that you are not a good match. Usually, if the sub is not somebody that I already know, I will exchange a few emails, IMs, phone calls first. Then, if all is going well, I will suggest a meeting at a local function, a munch or at the local dungeon. After that meeting we decide if we want to pursue any deeper involvement, perhaps a dinner date, to allow quality 1 on 1 conversation.

I prefer the 1st meeting to be very casual, not even a "date".

from the sub's side, i agree with this method. Daddy and i exchanged many emails, and hours of IM's before the first phone call...then probably 10 hours of phone calls (total over a week or more) before we met in person.

i've done casual meets at a mcdonalds and sat for an hour or so talking to see where things might go, that just really didnt connect. its like any other process in finding a partner, sometimes you're going to click, sometimes you arent.

i went into things with low expectation on first meets, *knowing* that i'm difficult due to illness, and had to find someone who would be very understanding of me, and didnt expect to meet someone whom i fit with right away. i was ungodly fortunate, it took me less than a month.

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RE: first meeting - 12/4/2007 5:40:45 PM

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searching,

the how is by telephone and that only comes after a good bit of time getting to know each other.

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RE: first meeting - 12/4/2007 7:13:32 PM

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I would be interested in hearing masters tell of their first meeting with subs not none to them. I have had only one sub and she was a friend first. How did you first meetings go

My former sub and I chatted via e-mail, IM and phone for a couple weeks, but our first face-to-face meeting was for play. I think we both knew what we wanted from of conversations, so it was a highly satisfying encounter for both of us.

But that's probably the exception rather than the rule. I prefer to meet a sub in person casually first, then see how things develop.

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