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anticipation - 12/2/2007 4:48:55 PM   
ELUSIVE1


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Do you enjoy the anticipation of a scene as much as you enjoy the scene itself? Do you get yourself all 'prepared' mentally and physically long before the agreed meeting time? Do you run fantasy versions of the upcoming encounter through your mind time and again??

I loooove the anticipation of pain, its ALMOST as exhilarating as the pain itself...and I LOVE that I am seldom disappointed...I love to feel the 'top' pull back his arm...then hold for a moment or two, make me wait for the satisfying sting...

so what is better for you, the anticipation of the pain and the headspace it puts you in ? or the pain  itself?


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RE: anticipation - 12/2/2007 5:24:52 PM   
Elorin


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Status: offline 		Anticipation helps me to get centered in a mindset where I can accept pain. As a top, it helps me to plan out what I'm going to do. I've found that anticipation helps me to scene a LOT, so I am in the right mindspace, otherwise very little things can set me off and leave me unable to play for one reason or another. Knowing when is pretty important.

While spur of the moment play can be a blast, for something that I really want to go well, I need at least a few days notice to get myself geared up for it. But I definitely enjoy the scene far more than the anticipation.



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RE: anticipation - 12/2/2007 6:43:25 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		A majority of my scenes aren't planned at all- so I can't say anticipation is a big thing for me.

But I certainly do ENJOY knowing a scene will happen, and on occasion will definitely employ anticipation as part of the fun.

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RE: anticipation - 12/2/2007 7:26:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am not a pain slut but I do love anticipation. I love knowing I will be seeing him and getting ready for how ever he wishes to use me. Some times he gives me very pacific things to do to prepare for him so I may I have a hint of what he has in mind. Other times I know nothing more then he will arrive with in a certain time frame. Sometimes by the times he gets here I am ummmmmm lets just say I am sitting on the end of my seat with anticipation.

Seeing him and having him use me as he sees fit is always the best. Anticipation just adds a little something extra at times.


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RE: anticipation - 12/2/2007 7:34:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		i always anticipate whatever we're gonna do....and sometimes it is a good thing and sometimes it is much better in my head (depending on who we encounter when we go out to play with us or not). The actual play never pales but the interaction with others is usually disappointing....

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RE: anticipation - 12/2/2007 8:04:10 PM   
ultsub


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Status: offline 		For me, there are two types of anticipation -- the aniticipation of the scene and then within it itself -- both have their special appeals..but i prefer the anticipation of how hard, soft, sharp, dull, the next step will be...

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RE: anticipation - 12/2/2007 8:17:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		i will always try to get myself mentally prepared for the upcoming meeting time and will yes run through different scenarios beforehand, especially in my sleep. i would have to say the anticipation of the pain is what i look forward to the most, with butterflies in my stomach and being hooded yep that will surely get to me.

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RE: anticipation - 12/2/2007 9:25:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I love the anticipation as well as the actual activity.  Daddy knows this and will usually call me several times prior to, and just check on me to see if I'm still giddy about what is going to happen.  He laughs when I get giggly and I think he knows that this just adds to the pleasure of the whole scene or activity.

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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 5:39:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am a "PLANNER" by nature, and I LOVE to work out the scene in my mind first. I have fun shopping for outfits to wear for it, accessories, props, etc.
 
 
I walk thru the scene in my mind beforehand. I like to tease my playmate with hints of what is to come.
 
 
(Perhaps "layout" the gear the we will be using, his wardrobe--if any, stuff like that.)
 
 
We go to dinner, and I begin the building process there, sexually tormenting his body by touching/stroking him, his exposed skin, running my hand up his thigh over his trousers...
 
 
<<< Sometimes leaning over and whispering how I'm gonna fuck him in the ass during the play that will ensue when we get back "home". >>>
 
 
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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 7:40:40 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Amtisipating gives you time to improvise more.

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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 7:50:31 AM   
HardnRuff


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Status: offline 		I Love the anticipation of having her lay all of My tools out for Me while I step out for a bit , Knowing what time it is when I get home. The look in her eyes when I arrive home to play is incredible...I Tend to be fairly spontaneous ( SP)?? ...  I Know where I will start in a scence but have no clue how far I will take it.... good thread !!

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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 7:51:40 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Considering that I'm coming from the other side, this may have a different angle for Me.

In many circumstances, I don't plan the specifics of scenes.  I don't mentally tell Myself, ok, I'm going to warm up with this, then use that, and finally, I'm going to mark him good with this particular weapon or that.  A lot of My play comes with what I feel at the moment.  It has to do with what I feel at the moment and what kind of feedback I'm getting.  I was once called a miniacal artist, who searched for the proper brush to paint on a living canvas.  It's a very accurate description.

I consider that a bit different than anticipation for a scene,.  Yes, the mental thoughts of what is going to (potentially) happen, excite Me and thrill Me.  Just because all of the details haven't been laid out in advance doesn't change that.  I know something wonderful is going to happen.  That excitement has no comparrison.


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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 8:10:30 AM   
Tigrita


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Status: offline 		Hey, what about non-pain scenes, or non-scenes for that matter? 

I am a total anticipation slut!  I love that excitement that builds before you can finally get together (maybe part of the reason why most of my relationships have been at least 45 minute drive away and I only like to see people once a week or so?).

And, taking it to the next level, I love to be teased even once we're together.  I love him to hint at what he wants to do to me, or just do anything to work me up, give me deep kisses that last only a few moments and leave me wanting so much more,  touch me just enough to get me squirming and craving but not anything satisfying, touch my body through my clothes but not touch my skin... The teasing and anticipation can go on all day, and ends up driving all reason, logic, and composure from my mind, things I value so very highly, and usually give me the edge over people.  I love feeling a man take me from a logical, reasonable, composed, flirtatious woman in control of herself, her thoughts, and her interactions... to a ravenous slut who is begging to be fucked, who thinks she will die if she doesn't get fucked, who wants to devour him, except he is strong enough to hold her back.  He is strong enough to bring out all this passion in me and control it, when I'm not strong enough to master it myself. 

This is never a disappointment.  The anticipation and the end result are part of the whole, I can't say which is better, but this gives me the strongest orgasms I've ever experienced and I fantasized about it long before I could get someone with enough self-discipline to hold back and tease me for a few hours. 

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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 8:25:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		Anticipation can be awesome, but so is catching somebody off guard when they are least expecting it.  I'm about 50% in making plans and 50% in doing impulsive things.   There are times, when I simply find my imagination at work thinking kinky thoughts.  I could be shopping at Wal-Mart see something, and think to myself that would be awesome to use in play.   Believe me, I am full of anticipation all the way to and through the checkout line.. up until the moment I use it.  

One of the last things I bought for play, was a three pack of Black Holloween slim in a can.  Something for a little added sensation play.  So right now, I'm just stock piling things up here and there for future use.     

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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 8:35:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Mmmmmm...anticipation. One of my favorite things. I was just discussing this last night with someone who asked me if I like to be surprised or do I like to hear about things prior.

I like Tigrita's explanation so much, it is almost like mind control, when your mind is seized with images of what is going to or might happen. By the time I am waiting for him to cover over, I am in total heat, raging lust.

And during a scene....that is why I love verbal. Someone skilled at the talk can make you fantasize even while reality is happening.

Being surprised is good too, but not in the same way for me.

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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 8:44:49 AM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		From the Top/Domme angle:

I do, but not in an anticipation way... rather a nervous, anxious way.  I look forward to it, I enjoy getting all made up and listen to music that gets me in the right headspace when there is prep-time before a planned one, but I also get very tense and play over possibilities a great deal.  Topping, for all that I enjoy it greatly, is very stressful and emotionally and physically draining for me.

From the bottoming side:

I enjoy the tingle of anticipation some in an energizing way but I don't think it over any.  Bottoming is such a release because I don't need to plan and direct and control the situation every minute, I just have to be a responsible and communicative bottom. 

So no, I tend to just go in with that energy of expected fun in my stomach and not think about where it's likely to go (besides any earlier negotiations, of course). 

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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 8:56:07 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1
And during a scene....that is why I love verbal. Someone skilled at the talk can make you fantasize even while reality is happening.


Yes!  Dirty talk and verbal torment really push my buttons too.  It takes me to exactly whatever place is in his head, and gets me squirming and begging for (or dreading, in a good way) what is to come.


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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 8:59:36 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tigrita

quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1
And during a scene....that is why I love verbal. Someone skilled at the talk can make you fantasize even while reality is happening.


Yes!  Dirty talk and verbal torment really push my buttons too.  It takes me to exactly whatever place is in his head, and gets me squirming and begging for (or dreading, in a good way) what is to come.



I am right there with you.... and for me, since I have such specific fantasies, when I find someone who "gets" them and can create them with me; and when I can create HIS, it is sooooooooooo good when that happens.

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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 9:43:59 AM   
chellekitty


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Status: offline 		i hate anticipation....i also hate foreplay...do you think they could be related?  don't tell me about what you're going to do, don't let me know you're going to do something, don't give me hints....i will drive myself nuts before it even happens....i am much more of an adrenaline slut (or is that junkie) than a anticipation slut....that shot of adrenaline you get when he grabs your hair and says suprise and throws you into something that you have no idea what is going on or what's coming next...yea...thats what does it for me...
anticipation will have me talking myself out of the scene before it has even started...

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RE: anticipation - 12/4/2007 9:49:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Im with chelle...Im much more turned on by the actual happenings, and I prefer surprise...fear and adrenaline only work if I dont know whats coming next...at least for me...and Im reall big on that rush..

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