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sexyred1 -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/2/2007 9:17:49 PM)
I am so sorry for your loss; you are very lucky to have had such a wonderful friend.

mistoferin -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/2/2007 10:01:15 PM)
Yes, yes I am...very lucky.

yourMissTress -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/2/2007 10:30:52 PM)
erin, My deepest sympathies for your loss. The loss of such a dear and close friend is a terrible thing, and her young age only makes it more bitter and difficult to accept. Treasure the memories, laughter, tears, joys, and moments that you shared with her. Be as good a friend to others as she was to you, and you will honor her memory by keeping her in your heart. In Sympathy, Tress

ownedgirlie -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/2/2007 10:59:25 PM)
I'm sorry for the loss of your friend, Erin. Although she remains with you in many ways, as your life has been touched by her, and you will carry that. I have not lost a "lifestyle" friend, but I would imagine losing someone who has been a confidant, and who has shared many similar types experiences that you uniquely relate to, would have a strong effect on you. When I'm trying to process something in my slavery to Master, it is those friends who most understand my slavery that I share ideas with. Losing someone like that would be a very big loss. Big hugs to you...

Vendaval -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/2/2007 11:04:35 PM)
Erin, I feel your loss of a friend and confident, someone who accepted you as you are and who shared the lifestyle with you. About a month ago I lost a dear friend and mentor due to complications following surgery. The death was quick and unexpected. His slave/wife is devastated and coping with the support of friends and family. But life will not be the same for any of us who know and love him. You are very kind to assist your friend's Master with the necessary arrangements. Do you feel like writing the eulogy, speaking or perhaps making a scrapbook? Peace and prayers, Vendaval

Mastaziel -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/2/2007 11:16:58 PM)
I like to make people laugh, or at least smile and roll their eyes. I don't like people unhappy or sad. But I don't want to even try to take your pain away, because it's a sign of just how special your friend was to you. you will carry it always, but eventually it'll die to an ache, a permanent reminder of the love of friendship you both share. Be well little girl, big hugs and soft kisses on your palms.

dovie -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/2/2007 11:19:37 PM)
erin, sorry for your loss...YES!! she is listening..keep talking to her, she's as close as your breath......warm light blessings. dovie

adoracat -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/2/2007 11:20:08 PM)
gentle hugs may your pain ease, and the wonderful memories of your friend remain, erin. kitten, who is near a one-year anniversary, and a three year anniversary, and hates both

CuriousLord -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/2/2007 11:35:33 PM)
I guess it's just harder to lose people that are close to you.. even if that close bond is due to a common interest in lifestyle.

angelslave77 -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 1:17:28 AM)
my most heartfelt sympathies to you in this time of grief

petpete -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 2:44:13 AM)
my sincere condolences for the loss of your loved one. Sharing your thoughts with others is a way of releasing pressure of Yourself. And it is thoroughly recommended. Grieving is also a way of releasing pressure also. They are natural ways for humans to react in such times of despair the memory is haunted by most memorable moments of the loved one and the vacuum created from missing them is somewhat to hard not to feel it.. take care

MaamJay -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 2:59:05 AM)
My condolences erin, it's hard to lose someone so special and so unexpectedly, no time to bid farewell. My heart goes out to you, but I admit, My next immediate thought was for her Master. He must be gutted, for if she was as special as she was to you, doubtless she was the reflection of His life to Him. I hope you can be a special support to Him, someone He can talk about her freely to, remember her with. May that bring both of you some sense of peace. Huggsss Maam Jay aka violet[A]

orfunboi -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 3:06:59 AM)
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your friends family in this very difficult time. edited to add: this post was in reply to the OP, not sure why CM said i was replying to LadyHibiscus

LadyHugs -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 3:11:55 AM)
Dear mistoferin, My sincere regrets concerning the passing of your close friend and peer. I will not attempt to compare what losses I have had in my life, as I grieve in many ways and differently, to which I have come to realize with others in the same situation; can never be exact. The slaves I have lost through death, the many Master friends as well as slave friends passing away--each left a part of them with me and at times grieve deeply and cry all over again when thinking of them. Some left too early and some left when they were expected. It is when the soul twin spirit--the mirror of you, dies--its like loosing one half of yourself forever and anybody else is a mere bandaid--not replacing your conjoined twin spirit. Just some thoughts. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

mons -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 3:40:26 AM)
misforien i am so deeply sorry you have lose you dearest friend i understand in a way my sister who like many of use when your in the lifestyle many do not understand what we are truly about and who we are. i did not sleep for four year at night we talk in the day time. so i was told to get my sleep pattern back but it was so so very hard. yes when we had a true friend who understand and knows us for whom we are and never judges to lose them is so very hard/. you have my deepest sorrows my prays are with you , i believe that a loved one never leaves us they are there when we need them . when you dream of her it is truly her coming to you and i hope you do not mind me saying this please take baby steps during this time of pain and slowy work towards it. take care and my god hold you in his arms mons.jane

TysGalilah -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 4:00:09 AM)
Erin Your words of love and friendship are beautifully said. Thank you for sharing them here. I am moved to tears thinking of the loss you must be feeling and I am sending you my condolences and sympathy. Offering you a hug of comfort and support and an ear or shoulder if you ever need it. As for it feeling a"special" loss because of the lifestyle> Velvet touched on something and I share her sentiments.. Your dear friend embraced a special part of your life that, perhaps, doesn't get shared with many others. Not only were you able to find a confidant in her, sharing lifestyle experiences..but she also embraced them and affirmed them ! That is, indeed, a very special and unique kind of friendship and kindred relationship. Your offering to comfort and support her Master, during your own time of greif, is so giving and self-less.. What a very special spirit and strength you have. You and he will work together making her arrangements, but also will be celebrating and honoring her in your own way coming together in this. You will shed tears, remember something funny she did and laugh a little, shed more tears, offer each other a shoulder and lean alittle against each others strength that is there because she existed in your lives. She will be watching you two and smiling. Only time truly healed my own loss.. But, it did help me to talk and share my thoughts outloud. I needed to honor his exsistence even tho' I was dealing with his passing out of my life. This site helped me so much and so I will pass it along in case you are interested. Home Page - GROWW - Grief Recovery Online the memory wall and sharing my words of tribute, was very cathartic. with sympathy, Cyndi "When it seems that our sorrow is too great to be borne, let us think of the great family of the heavy-hearted into which our grief has given us entrance, and inevitably, we will feel about us their arms, their sympathy, their understanding." Helen Keller edited to add URL address: http://www.groww.org/

Hergirl0824 -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 4:15:19 AM)
Mist i am so sorry for your loss. There is nothing i can add to what has been said here by so many others except i hope you see that the outpouring of support in this forum shows just how much you are thought of and respected here. And i am sure she thought as much of you as you did of her. Carry her memory in your heart and remember to be extra kind to yourself while you are grieving your terrible loss. Stay well

JinxsAria -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 4:32:02 AM)
I recently lost my first Master the Monday before Thanksgiving, His favorite holiday. His death hurt me more then losing anyone yet so far, even family, even though He had been sick for 5 years and it wasnt a total shock. I'm not sure its a bdsm thing, per se...but rather something that goes hand in hand with it-I was so attached to Him, had such a bond, that even with His death, they struggled to break. I'm sorry about your friend, erin, but you can atleast take comfort in the fact that she knew she was loved. Another thing I learned from hospice is that the body cannot physically "pass on" if it's in an immense amount of pain, so even if your friend died in an unpleasant manner, she wasnt in a lot of pain just before she left this earth.

HalloweenWhite -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 4:36:28 AM)
I'm very sorry for your loss. I hope in time the pain you feel at the moment eases.

Yourlittlething -> RE: A hole in my heart (12/3/2007 4:39:58 AM)
I am sorry for your loss mistoferin..my condolences Many people walk in and out of your life...but only a few will leave footsteps behind

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