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ORIGINAL: MercTech

Refusal to answer questions requiring stating a preference...

M- Is there any place in particular you would like to go for dinner?
S-  Anywhere you like is fine with me.
M- Then we go to that new Thai place over on...
S- Yes, sir.  I'll just have tea.
M-  Ok, why?
S- Thai is icky.
M- Ok, where would you suggest we go.
S- Anywhere you like is fine with me, sir.
M-  <growls and grits teeth>

Nope, not playing 20 questions and pulling answeres out with pliers when all I want is a little feedback.

Stefen

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ORIGINAL: Sexynmentalinkc

~Fast reply~


I'd have to say being overly touchy or self-depricating needlessly. In other words, someone that takes most everything I talk about as some kind of indictment of their own behavior.

Example:  I bring up _________ (something that bugs me about a potential). She takes it as me saying 'you are doing this, you're bad/wrong.

This ends up feeling like I have to walk on eggshells and be constantly concerned about how I'm speaking or what I'm speaking about so as not to drive her off into "I'm to blame! He's mad at me!"-land.


*tips his hat*

- Mr. S

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ORIGINAL: subtee

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ORIGINAL: Sexynmentalinkc

~Fast reply~


I'd have to say being overly touchy or self-depricating needlessly. In other words, someone that takes most everything I talk about as some kind of indictment of their own behavior.

Example:  I bring up _________ (something that bugs me about a potential). She takes it as me saying 'you are doing this, you're bad/wrong.

This ends up feeling like I have to walk on eggshells and be constantly concerned about how I'm speaking or what I'm speaking about so as not to drive her off into "I'm to blame! He's mad at me!"-land.


*tips his hat*

- Mr. S

OMG! This is about me isn't it??!! I knew you were mad at me! It's all my fault--I keep trying not to be so self-deprecating but I just suck at it!!! Bad, subbie, bad, bad subbie!!!   ~runs to throw herself on the bed; takes a little peak to see if he's watching~

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ORIGINAL: masterlink65

slaves or just female slaves?

my biggest problem is so many subs/slaves do not know what thier needs are as a slave. i make it perfectly clear that i am not in this for sex only, and that sex is only after training and ownership. so many flakes and gamers. you dont know me, and i dont know you, so why all the phoney put on BS?

my pet peeve is dishonesty in the lifestyle.

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ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

Masters what is your greatest pet peeve when dealing with potential female or established female slaves?

I expecially want to know about female subs here. But anyone can answer about anyone

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ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

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ORIGINAL: BrokenSaint

Lack of honesty. Such can destroy any relationship.

Though I gather you were talking more about habits, and personality characteristics (I'd consider a lack of honesty a bit removed from a natural personality characteristic, and more a learned reaction to stimuli).

So lying is a learned reaction to stimuli?  I disagree.

In such a case I would have to say lack of a sense of self.

I do understand how a lack of a sense of self/worth can be a pet peeve for anyone Even men can lack a sense of self/worth.

The lack of one, is not only a profound pet peeve for myself, but also a major turnoff. After all, it's not very difficult to dominate someone who lacks any self whatsoever.

Lacking a sense of self/worth is VERY different than lacking sense.

It's like nailing the most drunk girl at the bar. Completely without effort, and far less than satisfying.

so are you saying a girl who submits to easily?

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ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

I have a small list that comes to mind.

Doormats.  Sir knows I can be a doormat....He is working with me on this

Emotionally needy.   Personally, I think the emotinally needy dont always know they are and many dont have a clue.  Others do and are learning to change it.

Self deprication.   I have always been told, if I self depreciate, that is a reflection on the Dom who chooses me for me.

Topping from the bottom.  I have never been told I do this so its a subject I dont know much about.

Honesty issues.  This topic goes without saying, IMHO

There is more on this list, but it pisses me off to think of it, lol.

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ORIGINAL: Stephann

"Masters what is your pet peeves"
Poor English skills.  (I know you mentioned subject/verb agreement chelle, but I'm a dominant man who owns a slave, so I suppose that qualifies me as a genuine Master, and that's an actual peeve of mine.)

God that drives me nuts.  I mean, a typo is one thing, but in the header of a post?  Shame....

Stephan

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ORIGINAL: Damocles809

Subs who overemphasize the, "Oh, I'm soooooo freakin dominant in my *real* life.  Subbing's only a bedroom thing...totally not who I am.  In my day job I tell everyone what to do, all the time, and then I go wrestle sharks blindfolded.  Totally not subby.  Did you just call me a sub, foo'?  I'll cut you bitch!"  

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ORIGINAL: PossiblyMaybe

subspace08 - I feel for you. *Hugs* I personally admire people who know their limits. Everyone has limits, and I'm sure the right Dom would know that he can trust you more to push limits and possibly even get you to the levels of the "perfect" sub then someone who does not admit to them now.

As for the pet peeves question.. I'm not a master, but I have "topped" at the request of another and I hate when people claim not to have any limits... To me it just means they have not put enough thought/time into finding them. I think that at the very least it is safer to start saying something "might" be a limit and then push that higher and higher.

There is also something very satisfying as a sub knowing that you've come very close to your limits or even pushed them further then you thought you could for a master :)