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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 10:44:02 AM

KindLadyGrey

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I will reply to a person without a picture on their profile, but only if their message is interesting, intelligent, and says something about themselves. Also, they need to have a reasonably detailed profile.

What typically happens is that I get a message from someone that reads "Hi, would you like to talk?" or even "You are exactly the mistress I am looking for and I want to fall at your feet and serve you forever and ever and do you need a kidney because I still have two if you want one of them anything for you goddess!" And there is no picture and no profile to speak of. I ignore these messages and do not reply.

But I've replied to plenty of messages from people without pictures because they sounded like interesting people to talk to.

Maybe that's just me.

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 10:58:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KindLadyGrey

I will reply to a person without a picture on their profile, but only if their message is interesting, intelligent, and says something about themselves. Also, they need to have a reasonably detailed profile.

What typically happens is that I get a message from someone that reads "Hi, would you like to talk?" or even "You are exactly the mistress I am looking for and I want to fall at your feet and serve you forever and ever and do you need a kidney because I still have two if you want one of them anything for you goddess!" And there is no picture and no profile to speak of. I ignore these messages and do not reply.

But I've replied to plenty of messages from people without pictures because they sounded like interesting people to talk to.

Maybe that's just me.

Jamie Lynn
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It's not just you. I also reply to emails from people without posted pictures if the email is interesting and their profiles peak my interest as well. What I was getting at was people who compliment my pictures, but, after email exchanges, refuse to show me theirs.

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 11:16:33 AM

KindLadyGrey

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I don't really mind if someone I'm just chatting with doesn't want to show me a picture.

But if it's someone local I'm going to meet, a picture is required. I've been chatting with one guy for a little bit and he is very hesitant about sending me a picture. I've sent him mine, and I think he is worried because we already know each other and he is nervous about outing himself to me.

This has actually happened to me a few times on CM. The poly/kink community here in MD/DC tends to be fairly well networked, so every once in a while I'll send someone my photo when they request it and I'll get a reply that says "Holy crap Grey, it's [insert acquaintance or friend here]! Hi!" I also once ran into someone who worked with my father at a kinky party. That was really weird. Anyway, this is why I don't have a photo up on MY profile. My family is pretty well socially networked around here and a lot of people would probably recognize me. The last thing I need is some guy that works with my dad going "Hey Grey's Dad, is this your daughter?" My parents know about my lifestyle, but it would still embarrass him. I don't mind so much when my friends or coworkers recognize me, but it's still a little weird sometimes :)

Not that that is really all that relevant to the OP's question. I'm just saying that there are plenty of reasons someone might not want to send a picture, and I'm generally okay with that until the time comes to actually meet.

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 11:25:56 AM

Cissykay1999

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Well boys and girls........It's nice to see that some of the women on the message boards are stll here, and still think it's OK to pick apart everyone's threads except their own. The next line asked if anyone wants to be the bride. It was a joke aashka. It was meant to show a sense of humor. Suddenly, i remember why I stopped posting two years ago.

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 12:17:20 PM

SolangeRichards

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With all due respect, why blame AAkasha for a misunderstanding you created?

She's asking something I was wondering about myself....

We're all online here. Someone may be smiling when they write something which they consider to be a jest, but I can't see their face to understand that. When someone writes something, I'm taking it at face value unless it is so outrageous that it can't be anything other than a joke.

Plenty of folks getting married this weekend troll these sites you know!

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 12:30:30 PM

MistressPav

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Usually, someone only takes those types of drastic measures (causing you to lose your job) when they feel like they have been severely wronged.
I don't condone the Domme's actions, but I am very curious about what the OP did to piss off the Domme in the first place.

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 12:55:50 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressPav

Usually, someone only takes those types of drastic measures (causing you to lose your job) when they feel like they have been severely wronged.
I don't condone the Domme's actions, but I am very curious about what the OP did to piss off the Domme in the first place.

P

The OP seems to want to play the victim and do the blame game in more than one area.
It doesn't matter if your picture is on collarme or not. If a woman you have been seeing for any period of time has pictures of you, whether via private email or on this site, she can destroy your life. The manner in which she got them isn't relevant. Partner selection is what is at issue here. I agree we are not getting the whole story.

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 1:09:21 PM

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You lucky they didn't end up on wall poster prints, magazines, newspapers... Think of so many other interesting places..lol

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 2:06:25 PM

GoddessDustyGold

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I don't have a problem with no picture initially, but I do expect one eventually, especially if I have Mine posted and the correspondence is going wlel and leading to a ral time meet. I have also had some hwo will not send a photo here, but will send it to My private meial address. If I am at that point, I am fine with that also.
I do find Myself wondering how intense, initmate and long term this relationship was if you felt confident enough to share your business info with Her. To share that would mean that you felt you knew Her well enough to be trustworthy. Although you can be taken by surprise, that was a pretty vindictive thing to do, and had She not had your company info, the photo would never have had a place to go. Yes?

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 3:05:43 PM

beeble

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quote:

Cissykay1999 wrote: I have answered literally hundreds of profiles from women

Maybe that's why you're not having much luck?

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 5:23:17 PM

petdave

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i don't get it. If you create and share compromising pictures of yourself- say, in sissy dress, with your face visible and unobscured, it doesn't matter how you share them- photobukkit, CollarMe, email, IM, putting them up on your own domain... once somebody accesses that picture, they can save it and do whatever they please. If the picture is just you in a vanilla setting, it doesn't matter where the picture is posted, because without a court order (and most often, even with) it cannot be proven that you put it there. i'm sure i could come up with enough information about my immediate co-workers to create reasonably convincing profiles for them (age, height, location, couple of hobbies, and it'll be fun making up the likes/dislikes... i just *know* my boss would enjoy being anally fisted). "Oh, so-and-so just *happened* to come across my profile on this site? What kind of weirdo is she?? I've never even heard of this crap!" *shakes head in disapproval*

Seems like a no-brainer to me... is there something i'm missing?

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 8:10:45 PM

LadyHugs

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Dear Cissykay1999, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I would never send a photograph that would link me to my profession and also never a photograph that would embarrass me in any shape or form (unless I mixed earrings, one silver and one gold, have leafy greens in my teeth, etc.)

Once a photo leaves your control--its subjected to abuse and or misuse--its in the public square and in all the theaters.

The same goes for E-mail.

I would also have an E-mail address that does not connect to your job period.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/4/2007 8:15:26 PM

Ecossaise

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Cissykay1999
Ecossaise,
P.S. I just love your accent.

Och away, ye daft gowk! {blushing}

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/5/2007 11:18:56 AM

Cissykay1999

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Lady Hugs,
Thank you for your input. It is appreciated. I know we can talk about this from here to eternity, and I guess the bottom line is that I made some mistakes. Thankfully, everything turned out for the best.
My main reason for the thread in the first place was to tell people that there are valid reasons for some people not to want to post a photo on collaeme. Putting a face to a profile is important, and some of the stories that people tell about the weirdos out there give one pause. I clearly state in my profile that I will not post a photo here, but I also say that if a domme is interested I will send one to her by other means. I would just like to give dommes and subs another option. Just because a person is nervous about posting a photo doesn't mean he or she is a game player. As a side note, I've met a very special and understanding lady because of the posts. She would like a photo of me in the near future, and I will see that she gets one. Because of her interests, and some other things we talked about last night, the chances of us being any more than just friends are not that good, but she took the time to talk to me, and that's very important to me. Thank you Mystress.
Ecossaise: I still love the accent, but what the hell did you say? hehehe Thanks to all who took the time to give us input again.

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/5/2007 11:29:52 AM

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I give out photos in my emails when requested. They're usually just my plain, vanilla face pic. More than that only occurs with people I've known for a length of time. However, I never mention where I work.

How does some stranger go from having pictures of you, to sending them to your place of employment? Perhaps the problem isn't so much that you have a profile and a picture floating around on collar me, but that it's easy to be blackmailed if you give out that much info?

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/5/2007 12:33:04 PM

Cissykay1999

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The domme I was referring to and I knew each other for about five months. We talked on line, and on the phone, and I visited her twice. We were considering me relocating to be with her. In the course of our time together, we discussed what I did for a living, and where I worked. This wasn't a "Hi, my name is, and I work at" situation. We knew each other quite well. The rest of the details are private, and although some have asked what I did to piss her off, I guess when I said I didn't think it would be a good idea for me to pack up and move when she wanted me too, upset her.

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/5/2007 12:44:25 PM

burningdesires47

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another term I love is SithPussy (or SithCock as the case may be), for those petty, cruel, and all-around horrible ex's (what's worse is when you can call them that when they're not even ex's yet!)...

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/5/2007 12:45:43 PM

GoddessTeaze

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What unbelievable, that people do that kinda shit.
I don't have My pic on here, because I wan't them to read My profile,
and not just look at My looks, and respond with thier dick or cunt.

I love to see whom I'm talking too, and they've the opertunity to send
Me a pic on collarme or to My private mail, and then I reply. People who have a problem with that hon, well they don't have a genuine interest in you at all is My opinion.
So wait for that Dominant, who can understand you, and take it from there.

People who r out there to hurt other people, in what ever way, should be banned off here. That's also My opinion.

B safe hon & goodluck

GoddezzT`

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/5/2007 12:48:37 PM

GoddessTeaze

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you deserve a good spanking you brat!!!

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RE: I'd like to ask this again..... - 12/5/2007 2:44:31 PM

solvr70

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been there, had something similar, but nearly to the extreme extent that happened to you, myself.

so, i prefer to get to know P/people first, then if there are shared interests (more then just D/s like the beach, diving, etc) perhaps a G-rated webcam to show who i am, what i look like.

O/one cannot be to careful

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