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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/5/2007 11:20:37 AM   
wisteriaV


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Status: offline 		Okk hold up, what's this about ironing underpants?? Folding them a certain way is one thing, but I think I just got a new hard limit when it comes to ironing underpants.LOL If that were the case would it be the Dom testing the slave?

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/5/2007 11:26:05 AM   
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Okk hold up, what's this about ironing underpants?? Folding them a certain way is one thing, but I think I just got a new hard limit when it comes to ironing underpants.LOL If that were the case would it be the Dom testing the slave?


You mean you wouldn't iron underpants? Then i'm sorry but i'm left with no alternative but to say you are so not a 'twue slave' lol.

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/5/2007 5:11:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		actually IT does have a lot to do with real life experience. Can you name a CEO of any company that was elected under the age of 25 in the us. Power is in experiences. You can read all the books you want. Go through four dozen post. But if you do not know how to apply the knowledge you gain. It is useless why do you think it takes eight years to go through medical school. How about even to be a astronaut . 

  Proof is in the pudding.  I like to model things after people that been their done that cause they know. Long term bdrm  couples  with at least 25+  Some of them have been around sense the Earlie 60S  So they would know.  If you want to reinvent the wheel. Go ahead. But at your expense  
   No one cares . So what ever lol

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/5/2007 5:21:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Most of the long term BDSM couples I know engage in loads of sarcastic smart ass humor. They might agree that it's a good idea to avoid people who go out of their way to use language to seriously put other people down, but people do that with total sincerity as often as not.

But that would necessitate stepping away from the computer and talking to people to know, perhaps.


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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/5/2007 6:07:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just to clarify Latex, are you stating that because you are older than me you have more experience and wisdom of the lifestyle?
The rest of your post is irrelevant i think!! Not sure because your grammar, spelling and punctuation are atrocious.

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/5/2007 10:34:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am stating that cause. I have been in the lifestyle for a long long long time before a lot of people on here even knew there was such a thing.  But that is besides the point. The thread was simple and so was the concept of looking for a good partner. shrugs so to wrap things up all I have to say is doing the right thing starts at the frist part of the day.
in the end. You only have your self to blame

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 4:04:19 AM   
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Status: offline 		missturbation, I sent you an e-mail. Youll find it amuzing.

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 4:14:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: wisteriaV

Okk hold up, what's this about ironing underpants?? Folding them a certain way is one thing, but I think I just got a new hard limit when it comes to ironing underpants.LOL If that were the case would it be the Dom testing the slave?


I guess ironing socks would be a limit as well? LOL

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 8:59:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		Length of time in the lifestyle does not equal wisdom, knowledge or anything else. The concept you are presenting of im more knowledgable than you has everything to do with this if you ask me. Have you not yet learnt the concepts of each to their own? Your kink is not my kink?
 
What if i get off on gettting involved in complicated relationships with married people? Is it healthy? Probably not. But is it my choice to do so? Abso-fuckin-lutely.
 
What if i enjoy nothing more than a cruel sadist with sarcastic humour? Is it healthy? I personally dont see why it isnt. Is it my choice? Yep.
 
You cannot and i state cannot with vigour stand in this forum and tell everyone to live as you do because your life choices and only yours are right.
 
For me this lifestyle is partially about learning and growing as a person. I was very judgemental when i first started coming here and even now can be so, but have LEARNT that just because i would not choose to do certain things does not make others that do wrong. Hopefully through this i GROW and understand people better.
 

 
 

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 9:00:32 AM   
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missturbation, I sent you an e-mail. Youll find it amuzing.


I got it *giggles*

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 11:35:37 AM   
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A lot of it is really simple Logic people make it more difficult then it is. YOu can say what ever. I do know that life experince can teach you this. I have a whole lot of it more then you could ever know. So what makes me and expert.

I was doing this before you were thought of.. I have learned from my lessons Now common sense can work like this. You can learn from someone elses Mistakes or you can make your own. No one cares either way. That is reality just how it is. when people read something they take it to much to heart fine. It just dose not bother me iether way.


I done a lot of living as well and have made some pretty big mistakes that I paid dearly for,  in my 30's I thought I had it all figured out, I wouldn't take any unnecessary risks and play everything extra safe so that I would never get hurt again and that is what I did for the next 15 years and learned it is a very lonely place because I narrowed my parameters so much and was so busy trying to analyze everything someone said to me  that even if they sounded the slightest bit risky or said something that was conflicting I would push them away refusing to take chances because I was not going to give them a chance to hurt me, I ended up forming a cocoon around me that was keeping people from approaching me or causing me to push them away.  Finally in my mid 40's realized what I was doing and also came to the conclusion that everything about life is about taking risks and sometimes one will get hurt in the process, but better to get hurt a bit than to be alone because you refuse to take any risks or to take lessons for the pain as  it would be extremely rare to find the perfect match, so sometimes one needs to look outside the perfect ideal and determined how far outside that they are willing to look.   It does not mean I have to throw all caution to the wind but that I do have to give some people benefit of the doubt and that I have to be willling to trust at a certain level.  And I have become a much happier person since I realized that and even if not all become good fits I am making a number of friends in the process,  and even when relationships do not work out they can be positive learning experiences.  My first D/s relationship was with a married person , his wife knew , for me it was a safe entry  as I knew he had things to lose if he played  unfairly  as a result allowed me to learn what the lifestyle was about and I went into it knowing that no commitment would be achieved it was simply a way to get my feet wet, learning  the basics and rid myself of some of the fears of what I did not understand, even though as a D/s relationship it ended a few months ago we remain friends and I can turn to him to for advice and also know that if needed he would be available as my safe call contact , so what you view as a negative became a positive for me.  Currently involved in a long distance relationship , maybe it will work maybe it won't only way to know for sure is to be willing to give it a try, biggest risk it time to develop which is something I currently have on my side while I am waiting and recovering from a couple of  surgeries, by the time  I recover  should know whether I am ready to take to real time


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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 7:47:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		   No one is saying do not take risk. The thing of it is  Know which risk to take or which will give you the better odds. For example ( A Dom or sub or domme comes to you. They have been through so many people they have never stayed one person long enough to build anything) Now Lets say you are looking for that end all be all long term. Would there be a match Hell no.

      What I say to a lot of people may sound negative. But it really is Simple logic.
(Someone who is been in jail a dozen times. Chances are he will go back.) So then would you let him around all your most prized items.  There is some common skills that can keep you from disaster. That is what life experience does teach.  Everyone's  relationship has to start from square one. There is Some type of introduction. So what things are going through your head on that introduction  (via email or phone or rt ) Chemistry, Things that make a relationship glue together.  No matter what type of relationship it is. They all use a common elements.

(Now people can manipulate this in to he said she said but if you take all the people concepts out of it and leave it black n white. You can see what I mean)

         I do judge but that is for me and me alone for my purpose.  ( I judge to make choices for me that is it )  I really believe we all do. Other wise it would be a big fuck fest and some Dom's domes or subs may want that.  Austin powers and all that.  I just have a lot more value of what i am and who am. ( i am not saying that no one else does) But sense people seem to keep over analyzing things  Instead of using the KISS approach  KISS= Keep it simple stupid. By using the Kiss approach you then take out jealousy betrayal dishonesty and replace it with being focused centered spiritually and mentally. It is how every great person has done this. Every Billionaire with drive and passion and focus  ( do you think if someone got between them and making that dream happen  what would they choose lol ) It is the same in all things  

  do you think that wisdom alone was a key? Wisdom is a starting point a ignition source for passion and drive trial and error and the true teachers. Thats how you learn the lesson. But some do not want to learn it. They are so hard headed that they like being in misery  ( I do not understand that It does not work for me) Who wants to be unhappy. that is kinda mental) Having the tools to avoid such things as drama ,depression ,  Mental strife.. Things will rock for you.
But do you what you want. In the end it all comes out one way or the other
it really is a two sided coin.  Now matter how many ways you flip your life.
It will always come to a conclusion.  
  
       Let people lead you into mud or rise above it. Choice is yours always  

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 7:51:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: wisteriaV

Okk hold up, what's this about ironing underpants?? Folding them a certain way is one thing, but I think I just got a new hard limit when it comes to ironing underpants.LOL If that were the case would it be the Dom testing the slave?



I guess ironing socks would be a limit as well? LOL

Ohh yess lets not forget the socks! The heals and toes have to line up and be folded so the folded part is facing the front of the drawer....I dont iron t-shirts either lol

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 7:54:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		Life is seldom black and/or white....its mostly greys and variations there of.

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RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 9:19:51 PM   
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  • bad sarcastic Witt while most Dom's are sadist your looking for the warm person who cares about you or what you do as a person  ie Nilla things 



    • Hey, I resemble that remark! Oh, wait...I have good sarcastic wit, nevermind.

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    RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 9:58:08 PM   
    LATEXBABY64


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    sarcasm(sär'kăz'əm)
    1. A cutting, often ironic remark intended to wound.
    2. A form of wit that is marked by the use of sarcastic language and is intended to make its victim the butt of contempt or ridicule.
    3. The use of sarcasm. See synonyms at wit1.

    [Late Latin sarcasmus, from Greek sarkasmos, from sarkazein, to bite the lips in rage, from sarx, sark-, flesh.]

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    RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/6/2007 11:09:35 PM   
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      But do you what you want. In the end it all comes out one way or the other
    it really is a two sided coin.  Now matter how many ways you flip your life.
    It will always come to a conclusion.   
      


    This is the most important thing you have said so far. It is up to everyone to decide what they want to do with their relationship or partnership. What you want to do with yours is fine and what others want to do with theirs is fine to if it makes them happy. As others and I have told you before, yours is not the only way. For you this is all about a romantic relationship, for others it is not, that is the important thing to remember. Imagine how you would feel if I came on here and posted that all men should be Dominant because that is how I live my life. You would be pretty pissed off because that is not how you live yours, but that is exactly what you are doing here. You are telling people to live their lives as you see that they should.

    Take a step back and look at all the different boards on this site. Read about all the happy people in those threads where people do not live as you do, those in Poly relationships, those that are in Dom/Dom relationships that are looking for a submissive or the other way round. They are all happy but just not in the way you have decided you want to be.

    So while you can say what you want, STOP telling others how they have to live in their lives.

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    RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/7/2007 12:15:06 AM   
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    ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64
    1. Married or attached looking for an escape (unless you are married or looking for escape)
    2. Pro Dom's or domes with a lot of subs at there feet (again unless you are not looking to get attached and just want to experiement)
    3. bad sarcastic Witt while most Dom's are sadist your looking for the warm person who cares about you or what you do as a person  ie Nilla things (some people arent looking for the warm fuzzy and some people are much more massochistic than you i suspect)
    4. lazy dose not work user persona (unless money is not an issue for whatever reason)
    5. Conservative or Liberal   very important if it dose not match your value system(what about the people who dont have a polical kink? i would agree though that core values should be similar)
    6. Distance reality check   While long distance relationships are OK they never really work for ever we are a people of touch and feel(what about those who have relocated because they found the person of their dreams but lived on the other side of the world. I have heard many long distant successes here in the forum and, reality check, a great deal of real time relationships fail too)

    Now while this is not 100 percent on the nose. It has helped me in the past avoid  bad conflicts of interest.. This is just way to keep people honest.  You should know after the Frost couple response if a person is going to match with  you. Once  you do both people have to work at it. But the road  you will travel will be fun how ever the relationship morphs Great advice here ... you never know when the "it" factor will happen


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    ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64
    Wow  I guess even in the most common sense form people got lost.  (i love how much respect you show other users .... oh wait that was bad wit ... and from a submissive!! thats got to say something.)Some got it correct.  Sarcasm from the point of view I said is bad. The reason why  it is always about someones Mistake, Failure or hurt. only a dumb ass never feels that of which they do to others. Karma gods are always cool at setting that record straight. (or they send you)those that do unto others get it done back. As For the rest is was quiet clear.
        It Did not take rocket scientist to see. it is all about finding the right person to bond with up front. every Relationship is an investment.(yes they are but not all relationships cost the same and just like eggs we will buy whichever one suits us at that time) So if your going to put all your trust like money to a bank. YOU better make sure that person is worthy of that trust.

           Hence the points i Listed. Very simple and logical. No body wants to be hurt or taken advantage of unless  your mental.  We all want good things in some way or form. I am not buying that well what if they want that bull shit. So just move on down the road cause your poisoned. You have more baggage then people at airports. (seriously i am gathering from all of your experience that your bags are stuffed and the closet needs spring cleaning .... we all have baggage)


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    ORIGINAL: LATEXBABY64
    A form of wit that is marked by the use of sarcastic language and is intended to make its victim the butt of contempt or ridicule.


    This definition sounds a little like humiliation.

    LatexBaby i really think you need to learn to judge a little bit less and allow people to  make their own choices. You come across as very sanctimonious. Your experience is more relevant to you than others nor do you know what experience life has given us. You have a tendency to preach what you have learned but i question if you have decided to quit learning now as you dont seem to take into account what others are trying to teach you. And yes you can learn something from a child so you should be able to learn something from grown adults with a lifetime of their experiences too.



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    RE: Testing the Dom and Domme - 12/8/2007 2:50:39 PM   
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    Status: offline     		Every thing in life is up to interpretation . No matter who says it. The critical point of it is what you do with. If  you put out negative energy. Do you think people would hang around for long unless they want that abuse. Which is unhealthy  I am not going to get into semantics cause this thread is to find positive people not BS in the D's. Go ahead be apart of the illusion delusion factor. In the end it only equals one thing your life what you make of it for you

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