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Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 8:52:55 AM   
exoticmale


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Status: offline 		i am not sure how to express this in an appropriate manner, but every time i visit this message board or enter the chat rooms, i see so many Doms. Being a submissive male it makes me wonder why i am not on the other side of the fence. It seems soooo much easier for the Doms. Maybe it's because of my fear of Dommes, i don't know. i was wondering what happened to the chat rooms as they seem to have changed things. Sorry, but i just had to vent a little bit. Now to get permission to do something much more erotic.
subslut greg~
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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 8:56:44 AM   
RumpusParable


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Status: offline 		I'm sorry but I'm really not understanding what you're saying here...

You see a lot of doms in the chatroom and so you think it's easier for them and wish you could switch to dominant, maybe because you fear dommes?

Oh, wait, did you mean that you half wish you could be attracted to males instead ecause there are a greater number of male dominants about?

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 8:59:38 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I think he wants to be a dom because then dommes would be less scary?

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 9:05:35 AM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		According to his profile he is seeking dominant women, but is tired of the "mind games and arrogance". You mean ass dommes..:)

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 9:06:18 AM   
Sevenn


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< Message edited by Sevenn -- 12/4/2007 9:07:55 AM >

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 9:08:15 AM   
Owner4SexSlave


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Status: offline 		First and foremost, have no shame in being a submissive male.  Be proud of the fact you enjoy pleasing and serving a women.   I don't fully understand your fears of Dommes, some of them are wonderful women and some of them are just bitches.  Just like us Male Doms, some of us are wonderful people and some of us are just plain assholes.   Try not to think to hard in terms of stereotypes.  

Being an asshole or bitch, is an equal opportunity thing regardless of race, gender, age or social background. 

Chat Rooms, every time I visit a chat I'm reminded of the social bullshit that it really is.  Many people enjoy cyber playing around, however it's just that Social Bullshit and play.  Try not to take the Chat rooms too seriously.  Instead spend some quality time reading actual articles and blogs on the topic of BDSM.   Message boards here tend to have social bullshit at times, mind you not as bad as Chat rooms get. 

If you are expecting to learn and grow in this lifestyle, the worse place to do that is hanging out only in chatrooms.   Message Boards are not the end all and be all either.   Some people that post on here don't know their own ass from the hole in the ground.  While others on here can be insightful as all hell.

I'm not certain what the min IQ for somebody to be able to turn on a computer and connect to the internet and make a message board post is, but you have to keep that in mind when reading things people post.   Also, look for how other people respond to other people's postings.   You'll be able to spot the idiots from the smarter ones. 

Hope this helps you...


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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 9:46:54 AM   
charlotte12


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

First and foremost, have no shame in being a submissive male.  Be proud of the fact you enjoy pleasing and serving a women.   I don't fully understand your fears of Dommes, some of them are wonderful women and some of them are just bitches.  Just like us Male Doms, some of us are wonderful people and some of us are just plain assholes.   Try not to think to hard in terms of stereotypes.  

Being an asshole or bitch, is an equal opportunity thing regardless of race, gender, age or social background. 

Chat Rooms, every time I visit a chat I'm reminded of the social bullshit that it really is.  Many people enjoy cyber playing around, however it's just that Social Bullshit and play.  Try not to take the Chat rooms too seriously.  Instead spend some quality time reading actual articles and blogs on the topic of BDSM.   Message boards here tend to have social bullshit at times, mind you not as bad as Chat rooms get. 

If you are expecting to learn and grow in this lifestyle, the worse place to do that is hanging out only in chatrooms.   Message Boards are not the end all and be all either.   Some people that post on here don't know their own ass from the hole in the ground.  While others on here can be insightful as all hell.

I'm not certain what the min IQ for somebody to be able to turn on a computer and connect to the internet and make a message board post is, but you have to keep that in mind when reading things people post.   Also, look for how other people respond to other people's postings.   You'll be able to spot the idiots from the smarter ones. 

Hope this helps you...




What he said.




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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 9:51:48 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Late at night if I am bored I sometimes go into the chat rooms here.  Few here would call me either a fake or an idiot, well perhaps more than a few would.  I get thrown out of chat rooms all the time for being "fake"...

Don't fear those "dommes" in chat rooms, most have never been in the same room as their lover, never had a relationship that wasn't filled with either deceit or drama and probably both.

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 9:55:17 AM   
mnottertail


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quote:

ORIGINAL: exoticmale

i am not sure how to express this in an appropriate manner, but every time i visit this message board or enter the chat rooms, i see so many Doms. Being a submissive male it makes me wonder why i am not on the other side of the fence. It seems soooo much easier for the Doms. Maybe it's because of my fear of Dommes, i don't know. i was wondering what happened to the chat rooms as they seem to have changed things. Sorry, but i just had to vent a little bit. Now to get permission to do something much more erotic.
subslut greg~


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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 9:56:17 AM   
laurell3


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

According to his profile he is seeking dominant women, but is tired of the "mind games and arrogance". You mean ass dommes..:)

Jeff


It's domasses Jeff.

I've never found the chat rooms here to be enjoyable.  They are privately owned and can be a bit ridgid.  As far as the forums, there are a number of male subs that post here regularly.  Hang in there.

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 9:56:33 AM   
Jeffff


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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 11:31:28 AM   
Dnomyar


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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 11:33:25 AM   
Jeffff


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are you sure?

Jeff

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 1:42:12 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		First off, I like sudoku.

Now, seriously, I'm not going to speak about the chat rooms.  Especially the chat room here, since I've never been able to get into the darn thing.  Something about a java program and the story gets boring from there.

I don't know if this helps, but the electric world isn't always the best comparrison of real life.  I can tell you that here where I am, there are more than a couple of sub males who are quite content with having the acquaintance of other sub males around.  What I'm trying to say is they aren't the only sub of their gender, so it doesn't turn out to be a male version of "me compared to the rest of them" syndrome.  I hope that made sense.


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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 1:50:39 PM   
Stephann


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quote:

ORIGINAL: exoticmale

i am not sure how to express this in an appropriate manner, but every time i visit this message board or enter the chat rooms, i see so many Doms. Being a submissive male it makes me wonder why i am not on the other side of the fence. It seems soooo much easier for the Doms. Maybe it's because of my fear of Dommes, i don't know. i was wondering what happened to the chat rooms as they seem to have changed things. Sorry, but i just had to vent a little bit. Now to get permission to do something much more erotic.
subslut greg~


Being on the other side of the fence, I can assure you that if my mentality is "I'm irritated, I think I'll go find a slave to order to do something erotic with me" would probably end up with me in some chat room begging for cybersex, instead of actually being in a relationship.

Focus on women as women, as people, and not strictly sex objects (at least all the time) and you'll probably have a lot more luck finding someone who'll see you as more than her next car payment.

Stephan


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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 1:59:10 PM   
MistressPav


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Chicks dig guys with big fonts



Jeff


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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 2:06:47 PM   
petpete


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Status: offline 		Greetings to A/all, and especially to exoticm.. i also have been in your position em and i have also found out that some D's love to explore some of the newbies nervousness by playing many games with them. From what i found out from the kinder side of the community that its not all as you see it and some love to create there own fantasy through there profiles journals and chats.. Don't take me wrong i love and thrive under theses conditions to play but for the newbies that want to learn more in a more friendly environment it can get very edgy... i thank the kind part of this community who have befriended me and with there own way of guidance have kept me in this forum. i hate to think how many others may have left or lost interest because of the side that has issues with themselves and chose to take it out on the submissives.. A big thank You again to the helpful side of the community and i found that most of them are in the message boards and thats why i'm here.

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 4:10:28 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		I have never used the chat rooms, every time I go in there, it looks like kindergarten time and I leave just as fast.  I have used a private chat with my local group to keep in contact when munches and play parties can't be attended, but that is "in addition to" as opposed to "instead of".


And Owner4SexSlave, I thought you looked familiar!

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 6:52:04 PM   
SirJohnMandevill


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ORIGINAL: PsyVamp

I have never used the chat rooms, every time I go in there, it looks like kindergarten time and I leave just as fast. 


The one time I went into the "unattached subs" chat room, three of them were talking about how they had delivered their babies by C-section. The rest of the conversational free-for-all by posters both female and male was semi-unintelligible to me. Lesson learned; I'll stay here on the boards.

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RE: Why is that i feel like such a fool... - 12/4/2007 7:27:40 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		There's plenty of submissive men around. Plenty of female Doms and Masters, too. If you want more intelligent conversation, stick around the forums. Sometimes we deliver.

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