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Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 10:18:11 AM

slave4SadistMiss

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Why are there so many females on this site claiming to be sadists when they're not? i have spent three days with 2 women, both claiming to be very sadistic, and yet i received no pain from either one. Are they lying about it, or are they clueless about what a real sadist is?

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 10:27:27 AM

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Not all sadism involves physical pain. Perhaps they choose to manifest their sadism by not giving you that which you so clearly desire?

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 10:36:08 AM

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Let's see...... You met TWO women who didn't give you what you were wanting. And, based on that VAST experience, you have determined that "many" women on here are lying about being sadists or don't really know what a sadist is? Interesting....

If you showed up at my door demanding to be tortured, I would probably have you serve me coffee and give me a foot massage also. A sadist doesn't respond well to a demanding bottom. If you didn't demand anything, then I would say you should have spent more time talking to the women first to know what they had in mind when you went to visit them.

Either way.... using your experience with two women to form an opinion of "many" is just ridiculous.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 10:38:56 AM

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The question is too open ended to speak on. You see, I consider Myself a sadist, but that doesn't mean that I fulfill everyone's wishes in being a masochist.

Perhaps the ladies you met with weren't a good match for you. Perhaps the energy wasn't right. There are a thousand reasons that people don't 'click'. Perhaps you weren't exactly what they expected either, and it didn't work.

No matter what the reason, I wish the best of luck to you. Not everyone is for everybody else, but when it happens, it's worth the wait.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 10:39:19 AM

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Gee...three days with two Women!! And your needs weren't satisfied??! Might it be that it is you who are lying about being a "slave..." , or even understanding what it really means to be a slave? Maybe you should hire someone and write up a script for them to follow. Maybe you shouldn't be posing as a slave at all. Best of luck.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 10:42:11 AM

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LOL And what's with the ice cream cone?? it is hardly a vanilla type person. Ah well...maybe that's another lesson about preconcieved notions. it stands corrected. <wink, wink>

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 10:43:09 AM

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 10:51:46 AM

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Of the potential "submissives" I've had the displeasure of encountering in chat and online, if I ever meet any of them, I'm sure I will fulfill their sadist fantasies. Mostly because "they" have been cancelling/making excuses/ or being complete "wankers". Obviously, I don't have anything nice to say about the little masochists, so I'll stop while I'm ahead.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 10:52:54 AM

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Got it. Thank You kindly, and it promises to refrain from posting superfluous comments just to get out of soft-serve.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 11:00:18 AM

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I also consider myself a sadist, but lets say a carefully sadist. There are so many slaves that claims to be masoquist but they are are not, that iv learn thats better to proceed carefully. Unless I know that person or has been recommenden by someone I can trust, never give extreme pain in first play.

I give medium pain and see how it goes so i can move further or not. I make sure they can handle it, and also see how much fun im having. Then I decide to go further or not. Usually extreme pain is second or third session.

Previous post are right when they point out that chemical is important. Usually im much more sadist to those man and woman that have certain reaction to pain. For instance i just get wild when see a mans hard one after SEVERE beating, and the same when see girl dripping when his ass is sooooo red. I mean, its not that i dont enjoy hard beating with people who dont act like that but certanly i tend to ho harder with certain reactions while other ones (like crying) turns me a bit off. So, its also a matter of making "click" to the right parthner.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 2:04:24 PM

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You said you spent three days with two supposed female sadists and are now complaining that they didn't spend that three days focusing their sadistic attention on you. For being foolish to agree to spend three days with people you did not really know, for failing to negotiate prior to staying with them and lacking general common sense, I suggest you received the very best sadistic treatment they could have provided.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 2:21:17 PM

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Who expects sadism on the first meeting? *raises eyebrow*

Aren't you supposed to, like, get to know the person and stuff first? If I wanted something to be sadistic to me anytime *I* wanted it, I'd just get a cat. You hold it for a minute longer than it's comfortable, and it'll slice you up nice and good. :-)

So, if you know exactly what you want and you expect to get it when you want it... Then go buy a cat...or better yet, go visit a Pro-Domme.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 4:21:50 PM

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I don't do alot of intense play with people that are new to me either as a sub or domme. That may or may not be the case here. Denying you the very things you desire is in and of itself a form of sadism and a reminder that it really isn't about you.

Sadism is not just isolated to physical pain it can be emotional pain, denial, objectification, humiliation or any other variation of things that cause discomfort/pain/frustration. I would suggest if you are looking for someone that's a physical sadist you should ask very specific questions. I am a masochist. I always ask do you have a problem with inflicting moderate to severe physical pain? Do you desire it? Does it excite you? What type of activities are of most interest to you? I enjoy x..how do you feel about that? etc.

However, I wouldn't assume a first play session is an indication of the relationship. It may look easy, but reading a person you don't know is really a challenge. I would never assume that two women means "so many women on this site". It does not.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 4:34:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Shawn1066

Who expects sadism on the first meeting? *raises eyebrow*

My previous mistress was a sadist, but for me to find out on the first meeting she would have had to start whipping me at TGIFridays! Hmm..then again, her making me eat their food was pretty sadistic!!

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 4:36:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: stef

Not all sadism involves physical pain. Perhaps they choose to manifest their sadism by not giving you that which you so clearly desire?

~stef

That's exactly what I was thinking.

Since the OP used the dreaded term "real" in the title he/she may want to look into the term sadist a bit more carefully. By itself it is just an enjoyment of inflicting pain. In BDSM we modify this by thinking about consent.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 4:43:14 PM

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True mental cruelty can be much worse than the physical.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 4:43:57 PM

MissMagnolia

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Gee. Mistresses who don't fulfill your fantasies the first time you met. Did you fulfill theirs?

I'm clueless as to why you call yourself a slave, when you are clearly just a "do me" type.

Mistresses aren't here to make your world better.

Edited to add, the "weal and twue" sadistic Mistresses are down the hall, thataway >>>>>>>

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 5:24:12 PM

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I'm really bisexual, but I don't generally fuck everyone in the whole wide world to demonstrate that, either.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 6:35:56 PM

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Face it, women plain just dont give us men what we want.

I'm sure they feel the same about us.

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RE: Real female sadists - 12/5/2007 6:52:35 PM

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Hah, this make me laugh a little.

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