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Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:12:32 PM   
chya


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Status: offline 		Do you ever find yourself unwilling to play with or be with a potential partner for fear that they might bond with you?
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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:16:39 PM   
OldBastardly1


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Status: offline 		Okay, let's fess up. Are we having a pity party? Cuz I have nothing to wear on such a short notice.

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:16:40 PM   
DarkDaddyZ


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ORIGINAL: chya

Do you ever find yourself unwilling to play with or be with a potential partner for fear that they might bond with you?

If they are a potential partner, why would you fear bonding with them?

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:17:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: OldBastardly1

Okay, let's fess up. Are we having a pity party? Cuz I have nothing to wear on such a short notice.


Are you sure?  That whole tux/flower combo you have on in the pic seems appropriate!

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:19:05 PM   
laurell3


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ORIGINAL: chya

Do you ever find yourself unwilling to play with or be with a potential partner for fear that they might bond with you?


Why would that be a concern?  I'm not trying to be snarky but the trust required for alot of wiitwd usually is accompanied with a bond.

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:27:09 PM   
NinjaProphet


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Status: offline 		Ah, someone wants teh sexy without teh messy I see!  Good luck with that! I can only speak for myself, but I have to have some kind of affection for play partners...... 

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:31:13 PM   
OldBastardly1


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Being alone and afraid to be hurt is a serious thing. It can cripple your amorous life. A very wise man once comforted a young, heartbroken, crying-like-a-little-bich me, and told me this..... "it is better to lose at love, than to have never loved at all". Live life, take risks, bask in the warmth of love ( or even strong like ). LIVE.

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:32:10 PM   
junecleaver


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ORIGINAL: chya

Do you ever find yourself unwilling to play with or be with a potential partner for fear that they might bond with you?


Yes, when I was single anyway and I know I have been turned down before because someone knew I would want a commitment they were unwilling to make.


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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:44:46 PM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		this lifestyle requires a good deal of emotional maturity and self knowledge.....i think you have the self knowledge part, but i think you dont like what your intutive self is trying to say....to me you dont seem ready yet to explore the kind of intimacy you will find here.



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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:45:58 PM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: chya

Do you ever find yourself unwilling to play with or be with a potential partner for fear that they might bond with you?

Yes

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:47:56 PM   
LadyChef


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ORIGINAL: chya

Do you ever find yourself unwilling to play with or be with a potential partner for fear that they might bond with you?

 
See how people are so different? I am UNWILLING to even meet someone unless W/we have a bond, much less play with them. I hope to meet My slave soon, and W/we have a lot in common outside of D/s, BDSM, and kinky sex.



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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:58:34 PM   
bittermoonlight


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Status: offline 		I can't interact on more than a superficial level with anyone unless I've got a bond with them - but then again, the whiff of desperation or clinginess will send me running any day. I think they're two different things, not sure what you mean here.

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 5:59:57 PM   
Maya2001


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Status: offline 		Yes  for too long and it was the words to this song that made me realize what I was doing and also made me realize that feeling some  pain was okay and was better than loneliness

I Am A Rock (2:51)
P. Simon, 1965
Released on Sounds of Silence A winter's day
In a deep and dark December
I am alone
Gazing from my window
To the streets below
On a freshly fallen silent shroud of snow I am a rock
I am an island I've built walls
A fortress deep and mighty
That none may penetrate
I have no need of friendship
Friendship causes pain
It's laughter and it's loving I disdain I am a rock
I am an island Don't talk of love
Well I've heard the word before
It's sleeping in my memory
I won't disturb the slumber
Of feelings that have died
If I never loved I never would have cried I am a rock
I am an island I have my books
And my poetry to protect me
I am shielded in my armor
Hiding in my room
Safe within my womb
I touch no one and no one touches me I am a rock
I am an island And a rock feels no pain
And an island never cries

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 6:04:00 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Yup- they are either mature and adult and consciously choose not to see eachother because they know it is not what works for them.

Or they give into their lust and end up even more confused and hurt.

Rarely ever the former.

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 6:11:34 PM   
xiam


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ORIGINAL: chya

Do you ever find yourself unwilling to play with or be with a potential partner for fear that they might bond with you?


Or for fear that you might bond with them....

Yes, dear.  It's called "commitment issues".  :)

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 6:16:09 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		OMG Maya!  You posted my theme song!
Well, okay, its not REALLY my theme song- just the song I sing whenever I'm ready to say goodbye.

And I only play with those that have some type of bond with me.  This is too personal for me to just "give it away" casually.

-Lady Jag  (Psy)

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 6:19:18 PM   
Missokyst


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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 6:24:54 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		I meet lots of people all the time.  It would be more odd for me to only meet people who I wanted to bond with.  I kinda figure in life, you meet lots of people, potential or not. Of course I don't play with everyone I meet.  Heck.. I don't play with anyone anymore.  Mostly because I think it has to be more than casual to get my interest.  And right now, I run from even attempting to want to play or meet, because I do not want that bond.
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ORIGINAL: LadyChef

quote:

ORIGINAL: chya

Do you ever find yourself unwilling to play with or be with a potential partner for fear that they might bond with you?

 
See how people are so different? I am UNWILLING to even meet someone unless W/we have a bond, much less play with them. I hope to meet My slave soon, and W/we have a lot in common outside of D/s, BDSM, and kinky sex.




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pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding ~Gibran, Kahlil

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
― Bob Marley


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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 7:07:06 PM   
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Yes, dear.  It's called "commitment issues".  :)

I disagree. My unwillingness to play or be with someone does not have anything to do with the inability to commit to a relationship. Been there before; I choose not to go there again; and because of that choice; I choose not to play with certain people because I don't wish to hurt their feelings at a later date.

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RE: Do you ever find yourself.. - 12/5/2007 7:44:06 PM   
MsPleasure


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Status: offline 		I look for someone that I can bond with.  However, being clingy is something else.

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