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stella41b -> RE: Should I hire a TV/TS at my salon & spa as a female (12/7/2007 2:34:01 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Cissykay1999
Dear Makeyoupretty,
Please excuse my bluntness, because I don't mean to be rude, but the question I have pertaining to your question is one. You seem to be a bit of a novice in respect to some lifestyle objectives. If I'm wrong, I appologize. You stated that a male walked into your salon, and asked to be forced feminized. Did he ask you to do a makeover, so he would leave looking more like a woman than when he walked in, or did he ask you to do something kinky, such as tie him to your chair, and do whatever you wanted to him? Unless this man knew you quite well, and had a pretty good idea of the answer before he asked the question, I doubt he walked in and asked you to force him to be a woman. If he did, watch out.
Many women, mostly through innocent play, have found that if they dress a man in female clothing and make him up to look like a woman, the man becomes more docile, and willing to do things that his macho image won't normally allow. As if my some miracle, when they do it, they get a rush that is hard to duplicate in the vanilla world. To have a man be humiliated in such a way, can make a woman seem very powerful. There is nothing wrong with that in my opinion. But, you may be able to force a man to wear and makeup as a woman, but I doubt that you can force him to work for you unless he wants to.
I think if you want to incorporate both things, you may want to try fetish parties at the salon, where yo can have men come in, make them over, and serve you for the evening in drag. I'm sure you'll find many dommes that would attend such a party with their mates. I believe that you should be very careful having a feminized man working on a 9-5 basis unless you know how your regular clients know in advance. You may lose a significant number of your regular customers that are not as lifestyle accepting as we are. There are other things to consider also. If he will still talk in a male voice, you may have to tell your customers that he/she can't speak to keep the charade going.
My advice here is to find a partner for yourself that is open to the idea of feminazation, and do it at home. Do some fetish parties, and if you want to push the envelope, and show your dominance, have him clean the shop at the end of the day in drag. I would think seriously about having a transvestite on staff. As the other comments indicate, a transsexual is a whole nother can of worms. You'll have a better chance of having her accepted if she is capable. Seperate the kink from the vanilla, and if you still think it's a good idea, go for it.
Please excuse my bluntness here... but are YOU prepared to go out and do the whole gender reassignment process and go onto the hormones and risk blood clots, permanent liver damage and sudden death? Are you prepared to live as a woman 24/7 from this moment in time until the moment you drop dead?
Begging your pardon, but this is exactly what I'm doing, and I'm doing it right now.
This isn't a game this lady is talking about.. this isn't no fantasy about no kinky lifestyle, no games of humiliation, of domination,. and I think the lady who's written the OP is pretty serious about helping someone from the Transgendered community. I'm sorry, but having looked for employment for many years I say kudos to her.
How dare you patronize the lady for being a 'novice'.. and like, you're some sort of expert on the Trangendered community are you?
I'm sorry, but you've touched a raw nerve here.. next year I will have been transitioning 10 years and have been 24/7 more or less since June 2004, and in that time I've lost my artistic career (over 10 years of artistic work, contacts, and so on), work, career, income, the roof over my head, I've lost most of my family, almost all of my friends, the better part of $400,000, and also I've slept rough on the streets, in ankle deep snow, in temperatures of minus 15-20, I've taken food out of rubbish bins, I've gained and lost over 100lbs in weight, I've been attacked, abused, had things thrown at me, I've slept behind dustbins, spent days even weeks living without an income, hitchhiked across Europe over 4 days with two large bags on a trolley with frostbitten feet..
You maybe want to take a look in my e-mail Inbox sometimes when I get called things like 'faggot', 'poofter', 'bitch', 'man', 'male whore' and much worse.
Dead right, a transsexual is another can of worms all together. I'm just under 6ft tall, weight currently just over 280lbs and you know, I take a lot of shit from people, especially men, but even more so from the closet trannies who go out twice a month to the clubs and the bars 'on the scene' and swing their handbags and just mince along but at other times they're out there with their boozy mates larging it up and nudging them in the ribs and pointing to anyone who doesn't pass muster for being female - even if she is a naturally born female - and calling out 'Ere that's a bloke', or even 'Faggot!!"
And I'm really sorry, when I read the OP and I read postings like your's a sort of red mist descends over my eyes and I start to get a little bit vexed. Oh yes, you try it when you got half the male population sizing you up and looking at your bum and body.. I get guys constantly talking to my bust, and you know what? It amuses me, because they haven't got a clue that they're still talking to a pair of silicone implants, but they're too thick to work that out, just looking for a sign or something which makes their dick get hard.
Are you really up for the 'lifestyle' are you? Only I'm not talking here about the BDSM lifestyle, the games of dressing up and spanky botty and a little bit of tie up and humiliation - I'm talking about my sort of lifestyle, the one where you're living genuine 24/7 just like any other woman, living, working, eating, sleeping, socializing, the lifestyle where just like other women you get regularly put in your place by men.. I'm talking about the lifestyle where you're not seen or treated as a human by others, but are regarded as a freak, subhuman, for daring to suggest that you want to be treated as a woman whilst still having a dick attached to your body, which is completely and totally socially unacceptable to most people, both men and women and you have to live through all the rejections and put downs as a result.
So what about it Cissykay1999? Are you really up for it, the lifestyle, my lifestyle? The lifestyle I've been living for 10 years?
This is EXACTLY what I was writing about earlier when I talked about The Penis Test. See how fragile the male ego is..? How they would be oh so willing to come and work in your shop and how so much they would want to turn it into some grotesque charade to have all the attention turned onto them?
And is there anyone out there still wondering why very few people have the courage or nerve to employ a transsexual in genuine employment? And worse still, why not many people are prepared to give the transvestite, who is even more misunderstood than the transsexual, the time of day?
there you have it ladies... the Penis Test.. I rest my case.. I have nothing against you Cissykay1999 by the way, so please don't take it personally.. all I would ask you is to stop and think about what you say and what you do because you do make an impression on people and not many people know about the real issues that ALL Trangendered people face and that impression which you leave with people affects the fate of so many other members of the Transgendered community, both male and female. Live and learn, eh?
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