|
TemptingNviceSub -> RE: am i an ass? (12/7/2007 10:34:12 PM)
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: secretagentgirl
I agree that the manner in which he communicated was a bit over-reactive and harsh. So in that regard I'd say you're better off finding out sooner that he can blow up like that.
On the other hand, I personally don't like profiles that state their "ideal" but then say/imply that they're open beyond that. As a prev poster mentioned, either have your limits and stick with them or don't post them.
To anyone who is not your ideal, you have now made it clear right from day 1 that they are less-than-desirable to you. And who wants to feel that way? Or rather who gets excited about that? Certainly not me.
When I read a profile that says "I prefer blonds but brunettes are OK too" I just move on. I'm a Brunette. Why would I want to be with someone who I know prefers blonds. I'm sure many men prefer blonds but they haven't explicitly stated it since they're open to brunettes too.
I went through this recently with a guy who's profile said something like "I prefer women big and young," He'd contacted me and I pointed out that I am small and older (well, I hate to use that word, but at 43 I don't think I qualify as young any more!)
He emphasized that he was still interested in me, but how could I get excited about it, knowing I was opposite of his preference? Granted, I didn't write a nasty note back, just a firm one urging him to stick to the standards he'd posted.
I agree with your concept of why have the prefernces if they are unimportant..no one likes to feel as if they will simply "do"..However, your stance is coming from a submissive viewpoint. I personally would prefer a Dominant to view the preferences, and if a fairly close enough match to them ,to take confidence in hand and give it a shot..This Dominant was showed interest, even being outside stated preferences, which should of showed him that he had captured her "mentally"..but he then went into "wuss" mode and backed out..Now logic would say,more than likely he initially lied about his age to begin with and was far from stated age and upon perusing preferences, knew he could not pull a huge fast one in that arena and decided to "save face" and put the onus upon her..So now you have a Dominant who now lacks confidence..possibly lacks honesty..and more than likely is unable to accept responsibility for his own actions and plays the blame game upon the submissive...This particular frog needs to go back to the pond...Tempting
|
|
|
|
