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indygirl2 -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/9/2007 10:32:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AMADF be prepared, i have get answers like "i know mam just wanted to see if you wanted to do an exception" Ugh - the "please make an exception for ME - I'm a special snowflake!!" boys. Yeah, I get those, too. That's a no, Skippy! ETA: I'm seriously coveting your boots!! Mind sharing where you bought them? [:)]

mercurialis -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/9/2007 11:59:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyLegs I look at my email in much the same way I do the forums, if I don't see something that inspires me to post a reply, I don't. That's actually rather inspired. There are so many threads on the forum I have an opinion on....but don't post because it would just be a waste of time.

Elorin -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/9/2007 12:25:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: indygirl2 I know that to some extent, I share the blame for this silliness, because of my personal "no blocking except in cases of verbal abuse" policy. But really? What on earth is the point? I can't imagine there are any dominant ladies whose opinion would be favorably changed by this behavior, and mine sure as hell isn't. What on earth is the point? Negative attention is still attention. No thank you is very polite of you. But once you've gone that far, any further attention is still giving them attention, whether it's negative or not. And for some, getting some attention is better than getting no attention at all.

LadyPact -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/9/2007 2:13:44 PM)
I certainly know what you mean by this, OP. I do the same. I send the general "no, thank you" type of thing if I receive the first email. How polite My reply is will often depend on the type of mail that was written. However, once I've said I'm not interested, to Me, that fulfills My personally imposed set of manners. If My no thank you is followed by a second attempt, or some need for clarification, I simply delete the second.

fsub4use -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/9/2007 4:59:46 PM)
You know, i occasionally switch but won't put that on my profile because of the very thing You ladies are talking about. The whole, "please, make an exception" crap irritates me to no end - whether in Doms or boys.... I wonder if it is disproportionally men who have such a hard time with "no" (although there is a girl in the chat rooms who does this crap to me until i put her on ignore). If they haven't read my profile (and let's face it - we have an actual list of who has read our profiles) i don't even bother answering unless it is about something i've posted in here or we've chatted in the rooms. grrrrrrrr... *looks around for my morning coffee.

Wickad -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 11:00:21 AM)
(fast reply) Greetings, I also get all kinds of spam from men all over the place wanting all kinds of things. I also don't like to block folks and I do try to send a polite 'no thank-you, wish you well in your search' type response. Similar to the OP, I too get a small number of men who just have to push the issue. In the past I have found this VERY frustrating. I've thought a bit about the why's of this type of thing and believe it has a lot to do with the way men in Western society are socialized. Men in Western society are socialized to push, be aggressive and not take 'no' for an answer. No matter how submissive some of these men may think they are, they still were raised in a culture that rewards men for being pushy and tells them they are entitled to whatever it is they want "if they just work (aka push, be assertive, or be aggressive) hard enough". Now, granted, this is only my opinion on the matter (I have no physical data and I haven't done a study or anything - lol) but I think it's pretty accurate. I also believe that men who display this type of attitude do not fully comprehend submission or slavery. I would not claim they are all new, as I'm sure many of them are just pushy, entitled bottoms, but I do think many of them are new. I believe that they just haven't realized that conforming to the stereotype they were raised in will not win them the rewards they seek in this arena. In many ways I feel sorry for these boorish men who desperately want something that their very nature will never allow them to have. That being said, I am also very frustrated by them and would gladly 'shoot' them on any day ending in 'y' - lol. Wickad

DiurnalVampire -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 11:14:28 AM)
If you email me and offer yourself, or ask if I am interested in you... expect a snarky, potentially nasty response. I will question your ability to read. I will question your intelligence. And if you have read this, you know what to expect, if you are still brave (see: stupid) enough to try... then dont be surpised or upset when I do it! This is directly from my profile. After all the stupid emails I got, before and after the "No, thanks, I am not looking" I was inspired. Now, anyone emailing me has been forewarned to the best of my abilities. If they read the profile, and havent noticed the tons of references to my not looking, and my being happy with my boys... they deserve what they get. When they write with an offer, my standard response is "If you had actualy read the profile rather than stopping at th epretty pictures, you'd know what I was looking for. Try reading it again and seeing if you still fit that description. Feel free to write me back if you do. Be sure to point out what part of what I am looking for you believe you fit. Make my decision making easier" The majority do not respond to that, I cant imagine why... DV

LaTigresse -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 11:27:58 AM)
My profile on this site is purely one small facet of who I am as a whole. It reflects an interest in the specific type of person (submissive/slave female) I want in my life, for this facet of myself. IF a person that emails me does not fit within those parameters, or interest me otherwise, I simply delete their email. Unless, of course, I am feeling especially generous and want to explain to them what idiots they actually are.

beltainefaerie -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 1:03:03 PM)
Possibly due to my lack of picture, after I was no longer new here, I stopped recieving the crazy emails. When I still was, I would actually reply and suggest things they could do to have more success, such as reading profiles and spelling correctly. Some of them were immensely grateful and sweet, just kinda lonely and desperate. Anyway, I totally get those that simply delete the wankers, but I am too nice. Anyway, I say keep doing what you are doing and try not to let the crazy ones bother you.

MsRaisingKane -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 1:28:04 PM)
When I thank someone for inquiring and politely say I'm not interested (for whatever reason), if they reply again with pleads or anger I'll read it, and sadistically enjoy knowing this is not a submissive and they are irritated and squirming on the other end because they can't control me. There is nothing more painful to them than me not replying, even if it's a negative reply..LOL.

vampchick88 -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 1:31:49 PM)
I agree with DiurnalVampire. It takes getting snappy with them at times to get it into their heads your not looking. I have clearly posted in my profile that I'm no longer looking and have found my one and only, my profile stays up due to posting and chatting with a few friends. I've even had one ask if I would take on another if gifts were promised.....I'm sorry but what? If I wanted presents I would go to the mall, sit on santas lap and tell him my wishes. Ok seriously what are some people thinking? I know there seems to be a shortage of Domme's but is this the way they think to obtain one?

littlesarbonn -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 2:59:52 PM)
(fast reply used) I don't know what it is, but I've seen this topic so many times here. Yes, stupid guys write women and have unrealistic expectations. Others don't. That's part of the price of putting yourself out there and having a profile. It sucks, but it happens. As someone who contacts women maybe once every six months at the most, it just shows me that there are uncooth individuals who inhabit these halls. Ignore them, avoid them, or engage them. Whatever floats your boat. I can pretty much guarantee that complaining about it here on the boards is an exercise of preaching to the choir. The people that do this sort of thing don't have the nerve to post on the boards (for the most part). They're too busy emailing each and every woman's profile they can get their hands on.

LadyChef -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 3:26:23 PM)
I always know it's not only Me! I really enjoy these posts, and even more when they get comical!

morgainne -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 3:35:47 PM)
I have myself labeled as a Switch because I was tired of the emails and messages. I erased all dominant writings in my journal. I get frustrated with twerps who can't read a profile, send me messages that are poorly written AND that have spelling mistakes. It is a first impression. If you can't even show me the respect of using a spell checker then don't think that I am going to spend a moment of my time educating you or expending any energy on you. That is what the block feature is for.

SDFemDom4cuck -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 5:35:50 PM)
I sent the link of this thread to someone that just doesn't get "No thanks, I'm not looking". Instead of letting it go at that evidently it seems that they find giving the third degree will someohow change that. There then follows the questioning of why? When will I be looking again? Wouldn't I like more than one boy? etc etc etc ad infinitum. I don't even have a profile to speak of, took down all my photos and have a very clear explanation that I'm not looking and I only have a profile open for conversing with friends from CM. Yet I still get these types of emails and the follow ups. Sigh... I know, I know. The block button is our best friend. Rant over.

MsCfromMelbourne -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 5:44:52 PM)
Its really obvious from my profile I am not looking. Email goes straight to delete, unless someone is asking an intelligent question about something I posted her ein CM or my (short) profile. Any requests for chat, webcam or phone are then sent straight to delete. I have had one "you are a mean horrible person for not answering me" email. Only one. Am I just lucky?

sks247RTOwner -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 6:02:11 PM)
Worked with a band in search of a bass player once...took forever...no one knew the first thing about what we clearly required right in the advertisement, For months we worked on endlessly refining the ad copy with an eye to making it blockhead proof...until one day we realized that one of the signal traits of the true asshole is that they do not know that they are assholes, and that, therefore, the project to eliminate them was doomed to failure. Unfortunately, it respectfully offers that this bit of experimental research has its application in the present context as well. No matter how clear One makes the Desire not to be bothered by unsuitable idiots it is overcome by their ignorance of even the possibility that they might not be "Gods Gift" to any One and every One. Alas.

mimkyodar -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 6:15:29 PM)
Bass players are evil.

sks247RTOwner -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 6:20:45 PM)
And their instuments have extra long necks with especially big knobs on the end...but we digress...

MissMagnolia -> RE: What part of "No, thank you!" was in any way unclear? (12/10/2007 6:22:18 PM)
I saw "big knobs". I'm leaving now.

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