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How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 11:45:23 AM

grlneedstolearn

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i've seen some profiles where the person is 65+ years old and looking for a Master/Mistress/sub/slave and it got me thinking. Will you always be in this lifestyle, even when your 70 years old? Will you still be playing at that age? Or will you "step down" and leave the lifestyle but continue talking about it and meeting new people? Because i am still young, i have not yet decided about whether i would step down but continue talking about it. i think it would also depend on the relationship that i would be in at that age. It just got me interested in knowing what some of you think about it.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:10:15 PM

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Will you always be in this lifestyle, even when your 70 years old? Will you still be playing at that age?

I plan to continue in the lifestyle as long as my mind is working right. I am 61 and Hubby is 65 and we have more fun now than we did in our 30's and 40's. I think the dynamic will always be there but the positions are different than when we were younger. This isn't something we just do, it's what we are.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:17:32 PM

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proudsub, i am glad that your both still going strong and continue on playing

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:17:47 PM

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Interesting question. I suppose it really depends on how well I maintain my health, and my ability to perform in general. There will always be the desire, but wheather or not I can do anything with it remains to be seen.

I have noticed a change in the number of people who are seeking slaves in my age bracket, and I imagine that will get worse as time goes on. (Seems no one wants an older male sub or slave.) Such is the youth-oriented culture of America, I guess.

But, I'm not going to worry about it: in this day and age, death can come swiftly, and without warning. Best to just live as well as you can, for as long as you can, and not sweat the distant future.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:18:21 PM

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My question is why would people quit being who they are because they are older? Do you have the same question in your mind about vanilla old people that date, or even get remarried? I am really trying to understand, do you think the need for companionship of a lover is something one gets 'too old' for?

I suppose it was something I did not think about much when I was extremely young, old people's sex lives, but sex and BDSM are just part of what we do... there is the relationship that makes it worthwhile to do in the first place (at least for me).

I may not be able to be masochistic the same way I am now as I age, but I can still enjoy a relationship built on power exchange no matter how old I get.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:19:35 PM

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I look at people like Dossie Easton , Fakir to name two off the top of my head that are no spring chickens but they are still very active and teaching others and having a blast doing it .Age is just a # and all how you feel as to what extent your bdsm can entail .I hope to be bound humm maybe mumified in my coffin .

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:20:18 PM

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The private club we go to has a wide array of age ranges who come. I have seen several couples who appeared to be 65+ and it made me smile. One older lady was alone at a recent party. She removed her clothing, displayed her very pretty nipple clamps and chain and just hung out. I smiled because I KNOW I will still be enjoying this lifestyle when I get further up in age. It's comforting to me to see the older generation still enjoying the kink scene and lifestyle.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:23:56 PM

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I'm not bothered about "the lifestyle", there's too much of the group involved in that for my liking, but if I'm not caning some woman's arse when I'm 75, then I'm going to be more than slightly disappointed.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:24:15 PM

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ITS some thing that crosses my mind occasionally,as long as my health let me maintain the kind of life I am leading now then yes I will continue to be active in this lifestyle I love.When you just give up then all you are doing is waiting to die...I will still be the kinky ol' man at 70 good Lord willing as I am today....

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:34:48 PM

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My plan is that when I'm 70 I'm experienced and well known enough not to have to expend effort looking, so that I can spend all my time reaping the rewards of fawning admirers...~teasing grin~

No seriously, I think this will be a part of me, whether I have a partner or not, no matter how old I am.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:37:22 PM

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Is it really all to do with age and health? And anyway what does it really mean to 'be in the lifestyle'?

I never signed up for membership in this lifestyle, I just joined it and got involved. I also never signed a contract with anyone to remain 'in the lifestyle' until a certain period of time.

All I say is BDSM is a part of my life, which it is. Being in the lifestyle is when you're submitting to someone or dominant to them as part of your relationship with them. Therefore I'm only part of the lifestyle when I'm submitting to someone or when being in the lifestyle is bringing some sort of benefit to someone else and me.

When I quit is easy. It's when I'm not in the lifestyle and living in the past. This is something I wish to avoid. Nothing to stop me quitting more than once or coming back.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:41:57 PM

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What does age have to do with it? My Master is 59, and still going strong...don't believe me ...

just take a look at the welts and bruises on my ass! Trust me when I say 'Age has NOTHING to do with BDSM'!

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:44:15 PM

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I tend to agree that age is only a number, and I think most will continue some form of kink pretty much right till the end, the types of kinks one may be able to perform may change but I believe there is enough variety to find something to continue in that will still keep the batteries charged, heck there was one couple wife recently passed away but they were nearing 70 and still doing suspension bondage, but modifications on how they did changed with age

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 12:51:43 PM

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grineeds,

For most of us I believe it to be a lifestyle commitment that does not consider age as a limiting factor, other than the age of death.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 1:03:32 PM

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Hey, I'm 112 and still going strong!

But seriously, a D/s relationship rises above the kink. When I'm lucky enough to find the One (yeah, yeah, I know), I hope she will be loving and serving me and I will be her caring, protecting Master until...whatever comes next.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 1:05:42 PM

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W/we are who W/we are no matter the age. I recently met a Domme that was at least in her late 60's. She was wise, mystical, and magical in her demeanor. I can only hope for the beauty and grace she has when I reach that milestone. She yields a mean flogger too!

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 1:29:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

My question is why would people quit being who they are because they are older? Do you have the same question in your mind about vanilla old people that date, or even get remarried? I am really trying to understand, do you think the need for companionship of a lover is something one gets 'too old' for?

Exactly. Does getting older mean you don't still have desires and needs? No, it doesn't. Getting older doesn't mean that you have to give up things. Master is 56 and I am pretty sure he doesn't think he needs to slow down or doesn't have the need for the same things a younger person does.

If someone is healthy enough and willing to still be able to participate in lifestyle things , then more power to them. The life expectancy is 78+now and with medical therapies and technology people are able to live longer productive lives.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 1:33:48 PM

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i am not trying to put anyone down regardless of their age, and if it seems like i am i apologize. But when your 85 and 90 and your still swatting your sub/slaves ass with a cane will it still have the same impact on you mentally and physically then it did when you were 20 years younger?

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 1:39:59 PM

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i don't know about mentally, but with viagra, physically, it will.....

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 1:40:12 PM

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haven't thought about when i'm 64 (and beyond) yet ...i'm trying to live for today because tomorrow is not promised to me or anyone else.

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