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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 1:42:39 PM

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haven't thought about when i'm 64 (and beyond) yet ...i'm trying to live for today because tomorrow is not promised to me or anyone else.

Exactly.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 2:09:13 PM

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i am not trying to put anyone down regardless of their age, and if it seems like i am i apologize. But when your 85 and 90 and your still swatting your sub/slaves ass with a cane will it still have the same impact on you mentally and physically then it did when you were 20 years younger?

I did not think you were being insulting really, just not thinking the question through, because not everyone is into S&M, and really that would be the only part of the lifestyle that could be impacted...There is still bondage, discipline, mind fucks, dominance and submission, humiliation, age play, and a host of other kink activities that a person could do no matter what their health condition is or their age is.

There are also ways to cause physical pain without even a mark.

So I suppose the reason for my response is that this kind of play is all about the dynamic between me and my partner no matter what, not about the ability to do sexual gymnastics. So if the desire for companionship and sex is still there, why wouldn't the desire to do kink be there?

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 2:11:33 PM

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What does age have to do with it? My Master is 59, and still going strong...don't believe me ...just take a look at the welts and bruises on my ass! Trust me when I say 'Age has NOTHING to do with BDSM'!
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I have cared for the very old in my life, and yes, geriatric S&M may not be the best idea for most people on the receiving end of it... skin thins and bones become brittle as we age.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 2:21:28 PM

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Well, my mom will be 90 in February. She can still swat my butt and it has the same effect it did when she was younger. Its not the empact per se but the principle and meaning behind it ( I swore in front of her once with my back turned and she swatted me with her hand). I'll be 45 in March and I can only hope I can be as fiesty and young when I get to be her age!

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 2:24:03 PM

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Will you still lead me, will you still beat me--when I'm 64?

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 2:28:56 PM

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i think 50 it too old. but that's just me. i plan to 'retire' at the time.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 2:32:48 PM

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save yourself a lot of energy....quit now.

Just because some of us were doing this while the better part of you ( generically speaking, not directed specifically to you ) was still running down the inside of your ( see prior disclaimer ) mom's leg....we should quit?

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 2:56:28 PM

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Will you still lead me, will you still beat me--when I'm 64?

Yeah, but it might be difficult to sell our activities to the nursing home staff!

ROFL 50 is OLD? hahahaha

Seriously, as with all things as long as it continues to be something that's healthy for you that you enjoy age shouldn't matter.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 3:21:57 PM

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i am not trying to put anyone down regardless of their age, and if it seems like i am i apologize. But when your 85 and 90 and your still swatting your sub/slaves ass with a cane will it still have the same impact on you mentally and physically then it did when you were 20 years younger?

I did not think you were being insulting really, just not thinking the question through, because not everyone is into S&M, and really that would be the only part of the lifestyle that could be impacted...There is still bondage, discipline, mind fucks, dominance and submission, humiliation, age play, and a host of other kink activities that a person could do no matter what their health condition is or their age is.

There are also ways to cause physical pain without even a mark.

So I suppose the reason for my response is that this kind of play is all about the dynamic between me and my partner no matter what, not about the ability to do sexual gymnastics. So if the desire for companionship and sex is still there, why wouldn't the desire to do kink be there?

i'm not neccessarily talking only about S&M but any aspect of the lifestyle

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 3:24:35 PM

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i've seen some profiles where the person is 65+ years old and looking for a Master/Mistress/sub/slave and it got me thinking. Will you always be in this lifestyle, even when your 70 years old? Will you still be playing at that age? Or will you "step down" and leave the lifestyle but continue talking about it and meeting new people? Because i am still young, i have not yet decided about whether i would step down but continue talking about it. i think it would also depend on the relationship that i would be in at that age. It just got me interested in knowing what some of you think about it.

Excellent question.

I've decided to quit when I'm 53.

(That's when I figure I can pay cash for a Mercedes soft top).

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 3:50:00 PM

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i think 50 it too old. but that's just me. i plan to 'retire' at the time.

LOL...when you're 50 you will remember what you just wrote and wonder what in the hell you were thinking when you did it.

Gladly 50 is not an official cut off age as i didn't find my Dom till he was 64 and i was 54. We have a great D/s relationship. He hasn't lost his flogging or caning technique. We have wonderful...and i mean fantastic mind blowing sex. Why should we quit if we're having fun?

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 3:57:19 PM

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i'm not neccessarily talking only about S&M but any aspect of the lifestyle

Okay...let's make a deal. We'll hang up the floggers if you agree that you are entirely too young to reap any benefits from D/s at this time of your life. One must be at least 40 before being mature enough to understand and have sufficient talents to engage in that sort of relationship. So.....give it up until you are mentally and physically prepared.

Sheeesh.....don't you have anything more to be concerned about than the ages of others who do this? If it bothers you so much then make sure you don't attend events that may have your elders there. What i do and the age i am when i do it is none of anyone else's business.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 3:59:41 PM

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Haven't you heard? 60 is the new 40. =)

But isn't the image of a very aged D/s couple (80+) funny? I can just picture it:

"Stella, you old whore! Best get ready to poked and stuck in all the right places, 'cause the Doctor's in!"

"Yes, dear, I'll make the appointment tomorrow...."

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 4:00:02 PM

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LMAO, I loved that, peppermint

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 4:16:15 PM

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Greetings
to the OP, yes I will as long as I can lift My arm (or anything else rises to the occasion)....let's see...I am 49 look 39, act 29 but sometimes feel like 99. I am as old as My tongue but not quite as old as My teeth, I am 343 yrs old (if a dog) and still going strong....well ok not quite as strong as last decade but strong enough for Me. When scatter My remains in the cities of Dust....I hope to have gone down swinging....heh heh.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 4:19:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

i've seen some profiles where the person is 65+ years old and looking for a Master/Mistress/sub/slave and it got me thinking. Will you always be in this lifestyle, even when your 70 years old? Will you still be playing at that age? Or will you "step down" and leave the lifestyle but continue talking about it and meeting new people? Because i am still young, i have not yet decided about whether i would step down but continue talking about it. i think it would also depend on the relationship that i would be in at that age. It just got me interested in knowing what some of you think about it.

I'll still be me till the day I die. The lifestyle; or playing have absolutly nothing to do with who I am.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 4:28:11 PM

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How old before calling quits???? That would be like saying how old before not being a woman anymore. You always have the desire, no matter what.

I plan to be doing this no matter what my age, as long as there is someone who is still attracted to my old, but hopefully well perserved self.

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 4:30:47 PM

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i think 50 it too old. but that's just me. i plan to 'retire' at the time.

Uh huh. And Roger Daltry, Pete Townsend, et al hoped they'd die before they got old

. They didn't and I'm pretty sure as they got older, their views changed a bit. With years of growing and learning (hopefully), one would hope everything just gets better. Master has said He wouldn't go back to 25 for anything nor would I want Him to. A lifetime of experiences and growth has made Him the delicious, wise Man He is. He's 61 and as sexy and smart as ever and getting more so. Don't let your youth and/or immaturity blind you to the joys of growing older girl................luci

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 4:41:52 PM

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Yeah, but it might be difficult to sell our activities to the nursing home staff!

Hey, laurell, you may have inadvertantly stumbled upon a magnificent business opportunity here! We old Doms get hot young female or male sub nurses to cater to our every desire. They'll get unpredictable golden showers! Clip-on restraints! Thin titanium canes for walking for other purposes. The mind reels!!!

I'm sure we can think of something for the Old Subs' Home, too....

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

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RE: How old before calling quits? - 12/9/2007 5:40:39 PM

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There we go again. I understand where the OP is going with this; however, age is not a factor in any relationship only if they are under the age of 18.
Personally, I feel I will slow down if anything happens to this relationship.
I certainly don't want to be swinging a flogger with no teeth and white hair.
My mentor is 65.   A lot of older lifers make great mentors.
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