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should I go back - 12/9/2007 3:53:30 PM   
valleyslave


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Status: offline 		2 weeks ago My master and I got into an arguement and when he went to work I took off his collar and cut it up and  put it on his bed. He now says he forgives me, should I go back or should I
be expecting to get any punishment?
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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 3:57:03 PM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		Ok, i'm officially confuzzled. You say in this thread you and your master have split and yet in other threads you are asking questions as if you have a master.
To be honest judging by all the diff questions you seem pretty mismatched as a couple.

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 4:05:37 PM   
mercurialis


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< Message edited by mercurialis -- 12/9/2007 4:29:39 PM >

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 4:07:01 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		How would we know if he plans on punishing you?  Why would you even ask such a question?

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 4:15:51 PM   
dawndewdropbaby


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Status: offline 		Well its not like you would be in any pain cause apparently he can't inflict pain on you during punishment because he loves you? At least thats what your other thread said.

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 4:18:06 PM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh the confusion

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 4:19:41 PM   
domahpet


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Status: offline 		just tryed to open the OPs link, "profile not found"
whats that mean???

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 4:19:53 PM   
valleyslave


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Status: offline 		thank you, you are right he will love me more since i 'm coming back to him, just needed some advice

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 4:21:35 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

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Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh the confusion

With the way this one has been lately...all over the place that is...I perfer confusion to trying to decipher her so called relationships.

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 4:22:11 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: valleyslave

thank you, you are right he will love me more since i 'm coming back to him, just needed some advice


WHAT?  I think you maybe need to take a break and get a grip.  Going back should not be a decision based on whether you are getting punishment or not, it should be on whether the relationship works for you.  He is not going to "love you more" because of a breakup.  Can you accept what he has to give and does the relationship fit your needs?

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 4:26:14 PM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		Valleyslave, you remind me so much of satyrsnymph who posted here for a while. She was up, down and all around like this. Would be intersting to see how she got on amidst all her dramas. Maybe she could offer you some advice, she was just as confused and confusing as you.

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 6:36:24 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		So you now have a thread on complaining and then I see this. If I cut up my collar then I wouldn't expect to come back. I think you both have deep issues that go way beyond complaining and cutting up a collar.

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 6:38:25 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

Valleyslave, you remind me so much of satyrsnymph who posted here for a while. She was up, down and all around like this. Would be intersting to see how she got on amidst all her dramas. Maybe she could offer you some advice, she was just as confused and confusing as you.


Oh shes still around. New people in her life and new problems.

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RE: should I go back - 12/9/2007 6:40:42 PM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		Sheesh!

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RE: should I go back - 12/10/2007 4:39:47 AM   
fsub4use


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Status: offline 		i've read this post and the other. 
valleyslave - perhaps a bit of time apart, figuring out what you each want might be in order.  Perhaps some honest adult conversation might be a good idea without bringing D/s into it.  When we speak honestly about what we need and want it allows us and others to make informed decisions.  Without that, we make decisions based on fantasies in our heads.  You are talking about real people who have real feelings and real reactions to situations.  There are repurcussions to what we do.

If the two of you do in fact decide to stay together or renegotiate or try again or whatever, you might want to consider learning about fair fighting and conflict resolution and patience.  Drama is not pretty.  And more importantly, it hurts... needlessly

Good luck. (and where IS your profile anyway?)

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RE: should I go back - 12/10/2007 5:35:01 AM   
IamJustMe2C


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Status: offline 		Im sorry but if I ever had it out with a slave to the point where she cut up my collar and left it on my bed there would be no going back for here. But then again Im not one to place a collar lightley. And to think that if you break up with someone and go beck to them it will make them love you more. Who do you think you are a godess that cast a spell over him and this is how you hold your power over him?

Why you broke up or what your problems were we have no idea. But if they were that bad do your self a favor and just leave you obvisouly dont truely love him so find someone that you can love.

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RE: should I go back - 12/10/2007 8:13:47 AM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		with out much info here i am going to have to dr phil ya:

what has he done to prove that things are differnt?
what have you done to prove things are diffent??
what saftys have you set in place if things are the same?
have you talked about your future goals togeather? what do you want to accomplish in your realtionship?
what does 5 years from now look like with this partner?



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RE: should I go back - 12/10/2007 11:13:49 AM   
mhawk


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if it was too a point where you felt you needed to walk out and take your collar off and leave it there like that,,i think it's time to really evaluate.

personally i know if i was to take mine off,forgiveness,caring for me or not,there would be no way i would be allowed back.to myself adn to my Lord and Mistress,taking a collar off like that and walking off would be the equivalent of taking off a wedding band and leaving it on the nightstand.



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RE: should I go back - 12/10/2007 12:38:44 PM   
beltainefaerie


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Status: offline 		I can't imagine throwing a temper-tantrum like a two year old, destroying his property and then being taken back. If I behaved in that fashion, he would not be interested in pursuing a relation with me.  I would be concerned about the authority of one who was ready to take you back after such childish behaviour.  Since no profile exists, perhaps you not actually experiencing these problems, but have confused collarme with secondlife and are just pulling our chain?

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RE: should I go back - 12/10/2007 12:49:06 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: valleyslave
should I go back or should I be expecting to get any punishment?


While everyone is at it - should I expect sunshine, sleet or a blizzard on Christmas Eve?

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