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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/12/2007 1:02:58 PM

BoiJen

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I interview a ton of "submissive" guys. And one of my first questions to them as they mostly say they want to "serve" MsK is what is service?

When I start to hear about their fanatsies I tune out and block them. Occassionally I torment them. Cuz I'ma meanie.

I don't believe service is the "submissive's" fantasy fulfillment unless that fantasy happens to be one of MsK's as She dictates them to me.

That being said...I get a general "slime factor" from male "submissives" and mostly from the messages from "female" submissives (I really think some of the messages are from men who are desperate for wank material) And if MsK chooses to indulge them in their ideas it's simply because She an get something She wants out of them..."tirbute" in a way even if no cash has exchanged hands.

So on the net I tend not to like very many people to begin with. I don't enjoy the difficulty in the filtering process of the net.

Finally, bois rule. Cuz we do. And I'm the best. I interview well while painting houses. So whatever approach works for you just run with it. We all have stereotypes for a reason. And there are exceptions as stated before.

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/12/2007 1:37:38 PM

darchChylde

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much has been said of men focusing on bodyparts, and i will not deny it; whenever i meet, nay see, a woman i focus on whatever physical attribute stands out to me and i will often imagine what they might look like sans clothes... then i move on and focus on the eyes (if it's someone i'm actually speaking to) and talk, even listen to them while trying to keep certain thoughts to myself and not act predicated on merely the physical

that being said, i could go through my email and and run the numbers; but at a guesstimate, 95 percent of the emails i recieve from women mentions my hair... sometimes it is all the email is about

I know this sounds weird
But your hair is gorgeous o_o *jealous* It's prettier than mine! LolSorry!! ^_^

the above is the entirety of a single unsolicited email (minus only her username) from one dominant woman, i'm not complaining at all as i am definitely a HAIR QUEEN (albeit a generally masculine one) and can never hear enough about my hair; i mere wanted to show tht this is quite common of the emails i recieve from women
but, to those who complain that submissive men tend to focus on a body part or on the physical, remember; it has long been the accepted theory that men are generally wired to be visual creatures in much the same way that women generally wired to be emotional... saying that, go ahead and seek the rare exceptions; but please do not look down on the many men who are merely following their true natures

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/12/2007 2:39:26 PM

LadyPact

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<Raises hand>

Guilty.

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/12/2007 4:43:28 PM

Politesub53

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<Raises hand>

Guilty.

Hi Lady P..... Well at least Your hair is prettier than mine,scant consolation i know

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/12/2007 4:50:36 PM

chiaThePet

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Over time, I've come to conclude that calling one's self a submissive,
does not always a submissive make, and calling one a submissive,
does not make one such.

By the way, is that a bun in your hair? I just the love the twist and
shape of a bun in a woman's hair, reminds me of a sensual swirl into....
oh sorry, I'm obsessing, who were you again, and why are you here?

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/12/2007 5:00:51 PM

darchChylde

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

<Raises hand>

Guilty.

Hi Lady P..... Well at least Your hair is prettier than mine,scant consolation i know

i will reveal this much, LadyPact did not send that email; in fact, all of her emails to me have more to say than simply my hair, not that she neglected that subject of course

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/12/2007 6:53:20 PM

LadyPact

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<chuckles>

Thanks for those comments.

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/12/2007 8:43:18 PM

ShaktiSama

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I have rarely gotten emails from any female submissive that were genuine human communication, to be honest. Mostly it's weird wank fodder, probably written by the same strange creepy guys who send out all the weird "enslave me" spam.

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/14/2007 3:38:35 AM

SailingBum

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sheer bullshit I have had both male and female subs come across to me as the "do me types"

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/14/2007 8:06:54 AM

cloudboy

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All relationships are a negotiation. Malesubs wanting to get what they want out of a relationship is a justified concern, and it doesn't make them unsubmissive. The question is, how good are they at the give-and-take?

In general men are extremely giving (if we are going to us generalizations) so you have a lot to gain by getting to know them.

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/31/2007 5:01:45 AM

Bulyka

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everyone is different. i have never treated any woman like that on this site or in real life. while some may do this some do not, please keep this in mind as generalizations are stupid, and only fools see any truth in them. and if you are so worried about this then dont have a picture.

-Bul

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RE: Male versus female subs - different approach ? - 12/31/2007 6:59:47 AM

iwearpanties

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i know i shouldnt post here and i know you all will flame to death for my comments so i think ill hold them to my self as i see most of what i read and seen here tends too show how you feel the male sub is far less needed or not wanting to be bothered by them.. like i said i know you"ll hit me with many diffrent posting on this and just so you know not all male sub are the same!!!!!! Many postings here kinda group them that way... maybe i should just move on and not reply since it appears many of you feel sub males seek things for them selfs!!!! As I said not all of us do but thats the feeling i got form many postings here negative i should say

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