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RE: Oh so tired! - 2/7/2004 7:01:46 AM

lyxanna

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i too have a question regarding financial domination...

it was my thought that this could mean (as previously stated) giving gifts to one's top for serves and tributes....

another thought has come to minda and i hope someone can answer...

can financial domination also mean putting one's partner (bottom) on a budget, controlling where the money goes, and if the bottom has any at all?...

or even in an established relationship, where one partner turns over their paycheck to the other and sometimes get an allowance of sorts?...

just rambling but hopeing someone can answer this for me

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RE: Oh so tired! - 2/7/2004 8:34:36 AM

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lyxanna
each situation and Dominant/slave is different in Their application of Their Dominantion/Control, and a slaves relinquish of self into a total posessions place of suplication/controlled.
I personall only deal with slaves whom relinquish totally all material items and give their all to Me which include total finacial control of their lifes as well as all aspects of their lifes from what they eat to how they dress and live on a day to day basis, if they work or no and where they work and what they do and even how they breath the air which gives them life and how they experiance life how they address Me and others around Us, I take a hand at Dominating in sum kind of way. Of course for most this is extream but this is My Life and those whom are around Me and from this leval and every thing in between can be concidered items and issues that can be Dominated and suplicated to by both parties. As for gifts I only accept those from those slaves whom seek out My Kind of Dominantion befor They become My posession and tend to shy away from monitary tributes as money is NOT My main objective in aquiring Domination over one whom desires total suplication alltho it can be a side item one can serve Me in, and once Mine from that point on there is only one thing I expect from them 24/7 and thats total suplication and slavery of their total being. There are Lifestylers both Masters and Mistresses whom make Their living from Our Lifestyle and that is fine for Them and I give Them all My Support in Their Choice of Living and Lifestyle and how They earn Their keep, however there are many of Us whom are Simple People living simple lifes whom are no less Dominant nor suplicant in Our ways Experiances or Needs.
sorry ProDomme for traveling so far away from this threads issue but I desired to address lyxanna on this issue that might of been better placed elsewhere. I will turn it back to this issue now and leave it at this:If I had recieved a slant Sis I would of simply posted a new thread named: BIASED BIGGOTED NONTOLERANT LIFESTYLERS is this really what We have become?And posted the email that slighted My Trade and Lifestyle for all to read and see whom those are that are either not educated on what Alternate Lifestyle in its self means or simply have no understanding of the lifestyle therefor bring into it arcade vanilla thoughts and ways and teach em a little bit of Humiliation not to mention Humility. I am of the opinion if You cant take it dont give it mentality hence when sumone tempts to belittle My views or ways I give a eye for a eye in the situations I feel justifyably deserve it. Just My Opinion ~*wink~

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RE: Oh so tired! - 2/8/2004 7:28:50 AM

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I thank you for your thoughts. However I did not post the emails because there were far too many. Let's just say I was called several names. I did post the name of the most offensive and rude sender. But was asked to remove it by the Mods, and so I did. Before my post went up there was an offensive post about Dom/mes that practice financial control, it was removed by the Moderators. I, did not have a chance to see said post, but am told it was inappropiate. There were some questions about my post staying up. So to appease the powers that be, and to hopefully avoid a flame fest I changed my original post.

Now, as far as my area of control. When a sub/slave wishes to be taken into consideration, there are a few things that happen. First they have to tell me what it is they seek, and why. I also expect to be gifted, initial gifts are small and are rarely monetary. But do show a level of sincerity. I have a very busy life with a real job and all.;) So I do not accept many pets. There are many practicing ProDommes, that have a huge "client" list.. if they can keep up .. more power to them. I however have only a few. I enjoy my pets, and like to give them the care and attention they deserve for submitting to me. Those that are under me submit completely. What to wear, when to speak and of course how they get to spend their money. I have found a great many that desire financial control also like blackmail. Not all my pets have a great deal of money, but if they are worthy they are allowed to serve me in other ways as well. Housecleaning, yardwork, car maint., cooking for company and so on.

The point of my post was simply this.. This is not a my kink is better than yours.. and if you don't agree with me then move on. People waste far too much time being angry about others, and thier lifestyles. If they put that energy into something positive they may well find what they are looking for.
Oh and that I am tired of the bullshit emails I get, and the barrage of emails loaded with a virus.

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RE: Oh so tired! - 2/8/2004 10:40:02 PM

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Get approached a lot for Financial Domination through the web, but at this stage have yet to explore it. Mostly because the psychology behind why these subs require monetary control is not something I have explored in any depth.

One thing that appears glaringly obvious though, and detractors would do well to remember, is most men who seek it do so for reasons that is beyond everyday kink.

In a society where money is the epitome of power, does it not seem natural for some that to have their power over their own money removed is the ultimate act towards a reaching a desired level of submission? Especially if them having money equates to personal power.

One other thing detractors need to remember is the need for the Domination does not come from the Mistress but the slave yes?

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RE: Oh so tired! - 2/9/2004 6:48:31 AM

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I failed to make my point up thread; which was this;

Near as I can tell, male clients of prodommes seek things they probably could not get even in a nonprofessional bdsm context. Many really are "seeking professional help" of a sort unavailable anywhere else.

I wasn't addressing financial domination as I know squat about it; but this thought just occured to me, in relation to your observation that money, to males, is power;

That this kink is perhaps equavalant to the femslave kink of being "pimped" - men see their worth, ultimately, as what they can make in terms of money, women see their worth slightly differently; as in what men will pay to have them.

Clearly both are extremes - psycologically, if not in practice. I mean, it's not exactly horriffic to sent a domme a scarf as a token. "An it harm none, do what thou wilt."

But that's the key - and the trick to all forms and degrees of control is that first bit, especially as clients/property insist on you doing the last bit.

At the extreme of the kink on both ends, the sub gives up everything in return for nothing. They may well need to feel that they are getting nothing. But in order for it to be an ethical, fair exchange, it's up to the one in control to pick a seeming "nothing" that is actually a useful something; they are seeking a particular experience or trial; perhaps your efforts and concerns must be invisible in order to preserve the nessecary illusion, but that's why stage magicians get the big bucks in Vegas. :)

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RE: Oh so tired! - 1/19/2005 2:40:36 PM

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if You mean financial dominance in that my Mistress has ALL my money?.......yes!
if You mean by sending money out in the mail or some credit card thing......i never did.

i often wondered,........about rich guys able to throw away big bucks. i heard there are a lot of them.
my 1st Mistress is a 20 plus years pro domme.......and i know She has described some things some guys do.
just my input.
and please don't let idiots get to You.
You are better than that.
garylee
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