brattybrandi -> RE: pain... (12/13/2007 10:12:55 AM)
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I'm not sure if all of this sarcasm is what your looking for In the post you wrote. But I know myself, find the need to explain to the Dominant I'm with what exactly it is that pain does to me & for me. Me being a masochist it's an extremely important part of play for me. Without explaining, how would my Dom know the level of intensity that I appreciate.... That mind numbing state of shock the body goes into while slipping into that surreal warm fuzzy feeling of subspace. I have been with Dom's who were Sadistic & knew how to inflict pain but couldn't push me over that threshold, for fear of harming me. That is when I realized, hmmm maybe I ought to let them in on my little secret, if this is going to be a Win Win situation ... Rest their minds at ease that I can take so much more. I found that many Dom's are afraid of doing real harm to their subs. Which is completely understandable. So to reiterate yes I like to explain to who I'm with what it does for me.There are some I've not had to tell, they just knew me so well, they could read me like a book.
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