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Maya2001 -> RE: As a young dom... (12/14/2007 6:19:24 AM)
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Like others said you have not experienced life yet, with maturity often comes patience obviously something you have not learned if after only a couple months here you are complaining.
Guess what all of life will treat you the same, you go to get employment and become the junior employ, the other senior employees will judge you as being least experience, time served and proving you deserve acknowledgement is the only way you will prove otherwise, the same story applies if you enter the armed forces, political circuit etc, you don't start at the top because you have a title, your at the bottom till you work your way up and prove yourself (this is part of the life experience you have not learned yet)
Part of being a dom is advising subs how to better themselves, explain to me how a kid fresh out of high school is going to advice me on say dealing with or financing house problems, or issues dealing with children or investing money,managing/organizing my life to prepare for a surgery that will leave me for 2 or 3 weeks unable to handle everyday tasks afterward, your life experiences/skills do not come anywhere close to matching the level of mine , so how can you be supportive or offer useful advice to me???? I have raised a child to adulthood and now have grandchildren one nearly half your age, without out you having adult life experiences that we can discuss and share together, how am I going to be to able view you as an adult, I would simply feeling like am with a teenager and in a partnership would be more parent than sub to you, so I would not feel mentally dominanted That is one of the reason a young sub is more acceptable because of how it relates to the powerplay dynamics. Also would you be able to provide for some one , who has several years gain in employment than you do. Many of the older subs do not want play partners they are looking for doms looking to make serious long term commitments are you at 18 years old able to offer that to a 30 year old sub?
As for no receiving responses to your emails, when I was searching I turn emails filters on to reduce the volume of emails I recieve that meant setting parameters, which included the age of dom I was most interested in hearng from, so if you had sent me an email during that time, I would not have seen it.. Even as a mature sub when searching even with email filters on I was still recieving roughly 10 or more emails a day, I have an active life outside my time spent here, I don't have time to correspond with 70 people a week to see which will match me the best so I look at the profiles or emails and decide which ones are the most promising as to being compatible with me and send "sorry... I am not interested ... thankyou" to the others, the volume of emails alone that a sub recieves encourages them to be selective, and the majority of women do have preferred ages ranges just like you do, so dishing a sub about age when in your own profile you state preferred age is ridiculous, they have as much right to preference as you do [;)] no offence meant just something I noted in your profile, you can state age means nothing ..... but how likely is it that you would be interested if a 75 year old sub contacted you
My suggestion to you is , participate in the forums allow people to see your thoughts and incites, expect criticism at times your ego will get bruised by the harshness of the comments but try to understand why and use as a guide for self improvement . You may feel you have learned a lot but what you have learned is only a sliver off the tip of an iceberg , even those who have been heavily involved for 30 plus years still admit they are in constant learning. You may have knowledge of techniques but when you apply to various subs the results can be far ranging, are you prepared for aftercare for a sub that goes into a state of panic because an activity resulted in serious flash backs??? learning is not just about technique but also learning about the working of the mind and dealing with the emotions you bring out in the sub and it is also your responsibility to deal with in a manner that does not cause further harm. Have you spent time studying first aid incase a scene goes bad??? are you prepared to take that sub to the ER even if the result means negative consequences to yourself being it financially or even legal??? I have likely touched on a couple of responsibilities of a dom you have probably not even considered before and part of what life experiences teaches one, so don't let your ego get too far ahead of yourself better to be at the bottom of the pool growing slowly and learning that trying to rush to be at the top and making a serious mistake
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