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As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 10:52:54 PM   
kennyautopsy


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Status: offline 		It gets on My last nerve when people on this site (especially subs/slaves) kick Me and My fellow young Doms around simply because of my age. Is there some sort of random benchmark at which we are allowed to be considered competent of being an effective and suitable Dominants or is that eligibility determined by all of you older Dom(me)s and subs/slaves somehow? Now I'm aware that I will get many responses saying "The preference varies by person" and I acknowledge and thank you ahead of time (that's a nice way of saying don't waste your time posting that),but...

My question is this: If there are two Dom(me)s of comprable BDSM knowledge and experience,however one is 20 and the other 37, is age a determining factor for the effectiveness of that Dom(me)?

I ask because I am a dom. I am also 18, and age aside, I'm begining to wonder, do the general "rules" of respect and courtesy only apply to those of a certain age, or is it okay to mock those of us of a younger persuasion, or what? I'd like some opinions, because frankly it's these people with little respect and courtesy that make me lose faith in this scene and lifestyle.

Thank you,
Master Kenny.Autopsy
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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 10:56:25 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		(without posting names which violates the TOS) Who exactly was "kicking you around" and how?

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 10:56:58 PM   
ClosetSinner


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Status: offline 		I found that once you turn 21 you start to get a teeny bit more respect.  It's not about age, but experience.  Most feel you lack in experience the younger you are.  Myself included. 

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:04:37 PM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy

My question is this: If there are two Dom(me)s of comprable BDSM knowledge and experience,however one is 20 and the other 37, is age a determining factor for the effectiveness of that Dom(me)?

Master Kenny.Autopsy


Well, yes, for me, all other things comparable (as you stated), then age would be the determining factor.  Someone who is 18, as you are, and someone who is 37, are at vastly different places in their life journey.  As a certain tv personality is apt to say, "You don't know what you don't know." 

I also have a hard time taking someone seriously who is a self-appointed "Master" of anything at the age of 18.

Cali


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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:06:45 PM   
ClosetSinner


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Younger Doms:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1389238/mpage_1/key_young%252Cdom/tm.htm#1389653

Young Dom's (whats the consensus)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_327492/mpage_1/key_young%252Cdom/tm.htm#327492

Does Age Matter?
http://www.collarchat.com/m_833/mpage_1/tm.htm

Just to name three 'cause I'm lazy.

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:07:22 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I find that people earn respect through the way they carry themselves, present themselves, and how they communicate.

It has nothing to do with age. It might have to do with how you are going about communicating with others.

I personally love younger Doms and I don't discriminate simply on age. I would say, however, that 18 is probably too young for all but the youngest subs. At my age, I would not go below 30.


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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:09:23 PM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy

It gets on My last nerve when people on this site (especially subs/slaves) kick Me and My fellow young Doms around simply because of my age.


Somehow I missed that on the first go-round.  It appears that you are saying that you are BETTER than someone else for the mere fact that you have decided you are a dom - surely that cannot be the case.  I may identify myself as submissive, but that CERTAINLY doesn't make me subordinate.  Perhaps it is this attitude that is causing people to "kick" you around.

Cali
(feels a duel coming on...   at 15 paces??)


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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:10:17 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		Ok well I guess your multiple posting answers my question :

"Are any of You being met with the opposition of age that I am? I have been mocked, ignored,etc by many "subs" on this site simply due to My age. I don't by any means know nor claim to know everything there is to know about BDSM or D/s. I would say I am of average knowledge and still learning everyday. However, there are many Dom(me)s decades older than Me with equal or EVEN LESS knowledge and experience than Myself that are met with more respect and courtesy (and certainly less opposition) than I have been."



You are assuming that this is about experience when in reality it may be about preference.  I don't care if you are the best damn Dom in the world, there is no way in hell at 41 I am having sex with an 18 year old.  It's not personal.  Chalk it up to preference and keep trying.  And yes, I can read, however, this second post makes it clear you truly don't understand what preference means.  Additionally LIFE experience and compatibility are included in preference for a relationship.

< Message edited by laurell3 -- 12/13/2007 11:12:47 PM >

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:18:35 PM   
carlie310


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Status: offline 		You've been mocked? You ain't seen nothing yet. It takes more than the shift key to make a Dom.

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:21:55 PM   
LittleWench


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Status: offline 		I could not submit to someone still in or barely out of highschool.

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:30:49 PM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		People have preferences AND choices. If their choice is an older D, good luck to them. Bitching isnt going to change a thing. Ranting about how badly done to you are IS going to get you ignored as a petulant child.

*copied from the same thread under a different title. Why are you making duplicate threads?

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:31:28 PM   
kennyautopsy


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Status: offline 		Okay.
Suppose Y/you've two people. One is an 18 year old female sub. Another an 18 year old Male Dom. are there any differences in their respective capabilities and effectiveness, or is there a double standard?

Kenny.Autopsy

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:33:20 PM   
kennyautopsy


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Status: offline 		There are thousands of posts on this site. I'm very well not going to sit here and sift through all of them to see if someone has addressed My problem before deciding to post My own thread.
quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

People have preferences AND choices. If their choice is an older D, good luck to them. Bitching isnt going to change a thing. Ranting about how badly done to you are IS going to get you ignored as a petulant child.

*copied from the same thread under a different title. Why are you making duplicate threads?

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:35:28 PM   
kennyautopsy


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Status: offline 		I completely agree. You don't know what you don't know, but you don't know what I do know until given the chance to prove myself.

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:37:26 PM   
kennyautopsy


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Status: offline 		I'm hardly self-appointed. I've done much reading,studying and researching into BDSM along with My slave.I don't know about other people you've met on this site, but I certainly don't sit behind a computer all day granting Myself un-deserved titles and powers.

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:46:26 PM   
ClosetSinner


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Status: offline 		I would take the 18 y/o sub over the Dom simply because of the experience level necessary.  A submissive will know when enough is enough and yell a safe word.  A Dom may not be as in tune as he needs to be in certain situations.  I'm not going to say that his age has anything to do with it, but his experience. Yes I know experience doesn't necessarily come with age, but at the same time how much experience is an 18 y/o going to have when most people won't do anything BDSM related with someone under 18?  Reading a book only gets you so far.

< Message edited by ClosetSinner -- 12/13/2007 11:48:34 PM >

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/13/2007 11:52:07 PM   
CalifChick


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kennyautopsy

I completely agree. You don't know what you don't know, but you don't know what I do know until given the chance to prove myself.


You missed the point entirely.  I don't care what you know or don't know.  There are life experiences that you just do NOT have, and there is nothing to "prove".  Until you've had those life experiences, you don't know what you don't know.  (This feels like "who's on first")

quote:



I'm hardly self-appointed. I've done much reading,studying and researching into BDSM along with My slave



Really?  Who appointed you a "Master" then?  I've checked your membership card, and I'm not seeing the official embossed seal. 

And uhhhh, if you already have a slave, then why do you care what other people, especially subs/slaves, think of you?????

Cali


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RE: As a young dom... - 12/14/2007 12:05:22 AM   
chiaThePet


Posts: 2694
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Status: offline 		Do you have a big penis Sir? I really respect a big penis.

Seriously Kenny(autopsy makes me think you're going to snuff me)
I respect a Dominant who exudes strength and fortitude. One whom
can rise above the trivial weakness of concerning their days with
what others might think of them in context with the small items.

You are young, how wonderful for you, how marvelous that the
days before you seem now to have no end. Take and drink of
these days like fine wine, to be savored and swirled on the tongue.

So there shall be those whom judge you, for their reasons, for their
justification, for their entertainment. You will either rise to the applause,
or bow with the cat calls and curtain. Are you a Dominant? Then be one.

A big penis doesn't hurt either. (depending)

chia* (the pet)

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/14/2007 12:06:20 AM   
LittleWench


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quote:

There are thousands of posts on this site. I'm very well not going to sit here and sift through all of them to see if someone has addressed My problem before deciding to post My own thread.


She asked why are YOU making duplicate threads?  You posted this topic here and on the Master forums.  That is making a duplicate thread.

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RE: As a young dom... - 12/14/2007 12:08:17 AM   
LittleWench


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quote:

Suppose Y/you've two people. One is an 18 year old female sub. Another an 18 year old Male Dom. are there any differences in their respective capabilities and effectiveness, or is there a double standard?


No, if I switched, I wouldn't want a submissive still in or barely out of highschool either.

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