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s it that the world has become so bad that we think of cheaters only and not of honest people,of people who fail to keep their words and not of genuine people any more

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ORIGINAL: rugenuine

Respected MisPandora
thanks for Your comments but the problem is She hasnt opened my last six males although there was rather an encouraging  last mail from Her stating that She would like me to implement certain things in my daily life as Her on-line sub.But She didnt elaborate further and i was waiting for Her next mail, but alas!though She is visiting the CM site , She hasnt opened a single mail from me and thinking She would like to see my devotion and seriousness  i continued to write as many as six mails within the last two weeks but no response.Earlier She had even sent her pic too following my pic mailed to Her.
can You please advise what should i do please?
With regards
rugenuine

Not to be rude, but does someone need to hit you over the head with a load of bricks??  Until a person responds to your most recent email, you normally don't send them 5 more.  Perhaps you might wait a week or two and then send another one inquiring whether they received your last one as they do get lost in the system here on occasion (okay, sometimes frequently when the system is acting up because the subs haven't been feeding it properly). 

The real point is, if someone is genuinely interested in you, they don't ignore your messages to them.  Chances are that by now your messages are being blocked by the woman in question.  It's time to forget about her and move on!  At the very best, for a short period of time, she was amusing herself by toying with you.  

Chasing (a.k.a harrassing) a woman with countless emails like you describe is a really big turn-off and quite annoying to all of the women I've personally corresponded with here on CM (I'm sure there's an exception hiding someplace in the crowd).  It tells them you have no self-respect or self-esteem and clearly can't get the very loud message they're sending you that they're not interested by not replying to your emails!

Sorry to be so blunt, but it appears you weren't getting the message the woman was trying to send in her own manner.  Many here and elsewhere just can't or won't come out and say they're no longer interested or that they've found another who seems more suitable, etc.

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave


Not to be rude, but does someone need to hit you over the head with a load of bricks??  Until a person responds to your most recent email, you normally don't send them 5 more.  Perhaps you might wait a week or two and then send another one inquiring whether they received your last one as they do get lost in the system here on occasion (okay, sometimes frequently when the system is acting up because the subs haven't been feeding it properly). 
 
The real point is, if someone is genuinely interested in you, they don't ignore your messages to them.  Chances are that by now your messages are being blocked by the woman in question.  It's time to forget about her and move on!  At the very best, for a short period of time, she was amusing herself by toying with you.  
 
Chasing (a.k.a harrassing) a woman with countless emails like you describe is a really big turn-off and quite annoying to all of the women I've personally corresponded with here on CM (I'm sure there's an exception hiding someplace in the crowd).  It tells them you have no self-respect or self-esteem and clearly can't get the very loud message they're sending you that they're not interested by not replying to your emails!
 
Sorry to be so blunt, but it appears you weren't getting the message the woman was trying to send in her own manner.  Many here and elsewhere just can't or won't come out and say they're no longer interested or that they've found another who seems more suitable, etc.
 
 - pixel
 
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ORIGINAL: dreamysubmale

I think it is important to be you and be genuine (IMHO). Don’t try to pass yourself as something you are not. Be patient and attentive. When you are true to yourself, the people you will want will find themselves attracted to you. Make every effort to be the person others would want to be around, like be honest, positive respectful etc and be open to other possibilities…do not count out those who you don’t see as potentials. Even thought this site is a BDSM site, I found (in my experience) that both dom/mes sub/slaves seek also friendships. And I’ve been lucky to have made those which I come to treasure and let them know that my home is open if at any time they wish to visit and that courtesy also been extended to me even though we are oceans apart.

Oh I totally agree!  I've made countless friends here on CM that I hope to meet at some point in time; with several whom I regularly correspond with on the other side!  They're great friends to have.  When I came to CM, I was initially drawn here by the great discussions on the boards.  The many friends I've made have been a wonderful side benefit which I wasn't expecting and am oh so very greatful for.  They've been a wonderful addition to my life that I probably wouldn't know what to do without.

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ORIGINAL: PsyVamp

pixel,
You usually give sound advice and this time is no exception. 
 
OP,   There are times when I will not bother to open an email, and then the person sends another, and another, and another... *sighs*  I don't bother blocking people usually but I will delete the emails unread.
Then there are times where my life intrudes and I have no time for emails.  Yes, I may be "on" collarme, but I may be here on the boards and not near the other side.  Sometimes I have even left the site up (horrors) while I go do something else.
 

Thank you for the compliment Lady Jag.  BTW, lovely photo you've posted too!   It's always nice to see a real photo associated with a screen name instead of an avatar.  

Many of my friends know that I frequently drop in read a few messages on the forums and perhaps post a reply to one or two while I'm at it along with reading their message on the other side.  They also know I won't likely reply to their message until I have the time to compose the kind of response it merits.  Like you, I do have another life away from the forums too, and there will be times when I don't get here at all or only for a few minutes.  My friends understand that.  Strangers should too!

One would logically think that anyone contacting another for the first time here would recognize they're not likely to get an instant response.  I guess testosterone too often allows the little head to do the thinking for the big one; either that or to prevent any thinking at all.

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ORIGINAL: dreamysubmale

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave
Oh I totally agree!  I've made countless friends here on CM that I hope to meet at some point in time; with several whom I regularly correspond with on the other side!  They're great friends to have.  When I came to CM, I was initially drawn here by the great discussions on the boards.  The many friends I've made have been a wonderful side benefit which I wasn't expecting and am oh so very greatful for.  They've been a wonderful addition to my life that I probably wouldn't know what to do without.

Hello pixeslave, its not my intention to highjack the thread, but can you please explain the “other side”? I seen it mentioned often.
 
I also notice in some posts the “Edited by so and so for whatever reason” Is that put there for fun by the poster or is it something they add on afterwards to correct their post?

No problem with the sidetrack/hijack.  I'm sure others will benefit from the explanation as well.
 
The message boards here at "collarchat.com" are separate from "collarme.com" where one can see member's profiles and send private messages to them by clicking on the "Read Mail" tab.  Some refer to that as "email", but it's actually CM's own messaging system for those who have profiles on "that side" of CM, thus the reason it's referred to as "the other side". 
 
When sending a private message on collarme.com, you're not actually sending email.  For example, you don't have an email address here for "dreamysubmale at collarme.com", instead an internal message similar to what you send here on the boards is being sent to another member.  So rather than confuse as to whether or not one has sent an actual email to another, members often refer to "the other side" to help distinguish between the two.  As an aside and not to confuse, but one doesn't actually need to have a profile on collarme.com in order to post messages on the boards here on collarchat.com.  There are some who do that in order to avoid the barrage of posts to them "on the other side" which are received regardless of what they put in their profile.  It does however limit their contact with other members to only public messages on the boards.
 
As to the "< Message edited by pixelslave -- 12/19/2007 1:00:09 AM >"  question, which you'll often see at the bottom of a message; one has about 10 minutes or so to click on an "edit" icon which appears in the upper right-hand corner of their message after they've pressed the "ok" or "submit post" buttons, to begin to make any corrections theu feel are necessary or might have overlooked when composing it.  When a message is edited like that, a tag is added to the end of their post.  Some members will add a note above it (at the actual bottom of their post before pressing the submit button) stating why they edited their post; such as for spelling or grammar, or to remove references to the OP being a jerk.   Whether or not to add such an explanation line is entirely a personal decision.
 
I hope this answers your questions clearly or at least lessens your confusion a bit more than if you were submerged in a pile of mud.
 
 - pixel
 
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ORIGINAL: rugenuine

Respected MisPandora
thanks for Your comments but the problem is She hasnt opened my last six males although there was rather an encouraging  last mail from Her stating that She would like me to implement certain things in my daily life as Her on-line sub.But She didnt elaborate further and i was waiting for Her next mail, but alas!though She is visiting the CM site , She hasnt opened a single mail from me and thinking She would like to see my devotion and seriousness  i continued to write as many as six mails within the last two weeks but no response.Earlier She had even sent her pic too following my pic mailed to Her.
can You please advise what should i do please?
With regards
rugenuine