Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

First Email


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> First Email Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
First Email - 12/15/2007 8:00:45 AM   
temptedxdesires


Posts: 23
Joined: 6/8/2006
Status: offline 		Does it bother you to receive an email from a Dominant for the first time and in the email all it states in explicit details is what He wants to do to you?  Whatever happend to manners and first impressions :(
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 8:03:46 AM   
ghitaPVH


Posts: 1363
Joined: 11/14/2007
Status: offline 		Theres a block button. Use it. No point in wasting your energy getting bothered. At least thats my point of view.

_____________________________

Don't expect anything of me and I promise I'll never disappoint you.

"The true man wants two things: danger and play. For that reason he wants woman, as the most dangerous plaything. --Nietzsche"

(in reply to temptedxdesires)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 8:06:18 AM   
sexyred1


Posts: 8998
Joined: 8/9/2007
Status: offline 		Well, it depends. Your profile has a hot, half naked photo in it. You say you are married and seeking a Dom. No offense, but men are men and many just think with the smaller head.

Some Doms may take all that to mean you want to be approached sexually.

And, this is the internet, it is a kink site, you cannot control the behavior of those who email you, you are free to ignore them.

Expecting courtesy and manners from anyone online is a lost cause.

(in reply to temptedxdesires)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 8:09:29 AM   
DesFIP


Posts: 25191
Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		Be glad they've shown their true colors without wasting more than a few seconds of your time. Delete and block.

You might also want to search out profiles of doms that attract you and open the conversations.

_____________________________

Slave to laundry

Cynical and proud of it!


(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 8:12:32 AM   
DiurnalVampire


Posts: 8125
Joined: 1/19/2006
From: Nashville, TN
Status: offline 		It doesnt bother me to be approached by a Dom or sub with a long list of nasty, sexual things they wish to do or have done. It make sit that much easier to knock them off the list and not waste time talking to them to find out later that thats all they are looking for anyway. Think of it as saving you a step.
When you get a message like that, if you bother responding, just say thank you for your interest, its flattering, but you are obviously looking for something that doesnt interest me and I wont waste your time in your pursuit of easier tail. Or something like that. If they write back and are equally as inapropriate, you can always block them.  Some people forget that a first impression can still count.
Online, nothing truly bothers me. I dont know these people yet, and if what they have to say doesnt interest me I dont have to get to know them. Anyone who doesnt make an effort to make themselves appealing in their initial emails is just one less person I have to worry about. Just like real life, you dont necessarily like everyone that aproaches you. Take the ones you do, leave the ones you dont.

DV


_____________________________

I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox

Snarko Ergo Sum
If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb

*Owner of Fox - collared 10/13/07*
VampiresLair

(in reply to sexyred1)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 8:19:43 AM   
IrishMist


Posts: 7480
Joined: 11/17/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: temptedxdesires

Does it bother you to receive an email from a Dominant for the first time and in the email all it states in explicit details is what He wants to do to you?  Whatever happend to manners and first impressions :(

No. I find it highly amusing. In fact, I usually respond with my own thoughts of what I will be doing to him. It scares them off pretty fast.

_____________________________

If I said something to offend you, please tell me what it was so that I can say it again later.


(in reply to temptedxdesires)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 8:33:38 AM   
CalifChick


Posts: 10717
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: temptedxdesires

Does it bother you to receive an email from a Dominant for the first time and in the email all it states in explicit details is what He wants to do to you? 


Hell no, forward them to me!!!!!!!!

Cali


_____________________________

AKA "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum". Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C. and the Judgmental Bitches Brigade, member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's and Team Troll

(in reply to temptedxdesires)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 8:41:22 AM   
domahpet


Posts: 1505
Joined: 12/3/2006
From: Santa Rosa
Status: offline 		it does bother me. so i changed my profile and now i get
no mail at all... from anyone

(in reply to CalifChick)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 8:57:25 AM   
domiguy


Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline 		sexryred1 rather nailed it....Even if you come out here and portray yourself as Mother Theresa there are still going to be those who send out sexually explicit mail. Many, like myself, just do mass mailings without reading any profiles and hope for the standard 1 1/2 % response rate.

If I read your profile and thought that a meeting should be added to the agenda, I would never take you seriously. All you really have to offer is your holes.

Live with it.

< Message edited by domiguy -- 12/15/2007 8:58:14 AM >

_____________________________



(in reply to domahpet)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 8:58:06 AM   
RumpusParable


Posts: 1923
Joined: 7/7/2005
From: NYC now!
Status: offline 		I'm with those who have expressed that it doesn't bother or upset them, rather it's a bit amusing and is actually helpful in ruling out a mismatch early on!  That and with some I do like to amuse myself over a couple emails once in a while; it can be fun to mess with their heads a little when you're taking a short break from work on the computer.

_____________________________

Relationships come and go, but plastination is forever.

I generally use fast-reply. If directing my post at someone specific I will indicate so.

Minimal summary: Artist, Disabled Veteran, Vegan, Pornographer, and Agender dominant female.

(in reply to domahpet)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 9:00:49 AM   
Qithoras


Posts: 155
Joined: 4/28/2006
From: Adelaide, Australia
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: domahpet

it does bother me. so i changed my profile and now i get
no mail at all... from anyone


When you have
quote:

At this time I am not looking to meet anyone new.
in your profile, don't expect to get messages, even from potential friends.

To be blunt, change the wording, or stop complaining.




_____________________________

Knowing others is intelligence.
Knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength.
Mastering yourself is true power.

-Tao Te Ching

(in reply to domahpet)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 9:03:12 AM   
Jeffff


Posts: 12600
Joined: 7/7/2007
Status: offline 		If all of you bitches would get on your knees now...........it would save me alot of time



Thank You
The Managment


Ignore the thank you.....not very Domly

(in reply to temptedxdesires)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 9:03:32 AM   
Sexynmentalinkc


Posts: 132
Joined: 4/14/2006
Status: offline 		While I loathe such musings on a first email, I have (early on) sent some erotic fiction writings to a s/s. Usually, it's based on some of their stated leanings and interests. It's not a "I will do this to you", etc. but something that I think helps them to see how my mind works.

Whenever I do send something like that - usually the 2nd or 3rd email - I do my honest best to have it be hot, erotic and provocative without being crass, disrespectful or overly lewd (though I can do lewd quite well too).


On the VERY first email?  Hell no. Generally, I put in whatever it was I saw or read in their profile that prompted me to write. A compliment, an anecdote or just a musing about something they might have posted about on the forums.


Having seen such comments in the past, I know how important the first email is and that you have to let a s/s know that you're not the same ol' sophomoric trogolodyte HNG they are used to hearing from...


*tips his hat*

- Mr. S


_____________________________

"I think all right-thinking people in this country are sick and tired of being told that ordinary, decent people are fed up in this country with being sick and tired. ...I'm certainly not. And I'm sick and tired of being told that I am..."

(in reply to RumpusParable)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 9:03:51 AM   
Qithoras


Posts: 155
Joined: 4/28/2006
From: Adelaide, Australia
Status: offline
quote:

No. I find it highly amusing. In fact, I usually respond with my own thoughts of what I will be doing to him. It scares them off pretty fast.


That made me chuckle, Thank you.


_____________________________

Knowing others is intelligence.
Knowing yourself is true wisdom.
Mastering others is strength.
Mastering yourself is true power.

-Tao Te Ching

(in reply to IrishMist)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 9:04:38 AM   
domiguy


Posts: 12952
Joined: 5/2/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

I'm with those who have expressed that it doesn't bother or upset them, rather it's a bit amusing and is actually helpful in ruling out a mismatch early on!  That and with some I do like to amuse myself over a couple emails once in a while; it can be fun to mess with their heads a little when you're taking a short break from work on the computer.


This is kind of funny....Not trying to pick on you, but there are many people who seem to share this common reaction when dealing with these types of people. How do you know that this is not exactly what they are seeking? And by "fucking with them" you are actually feeding the fire and by providing any type of a response that you are actually enforcing this type of behavior.

It says little about anyone who sends out this type of mail....It certainly doesn't say much about those who choose to respond to it.


_____________________________



(in reply to RumpusParable)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 9:05:20 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		Who/what gave you the idea that you'd find good manners on the internet?

Drop those false expectations and stop allowing random strangers to have power over your own feelings.

_____________________________

Find stable partners, not a stable of partners.

"Sometimes my whore logic gets all fuzzy"- Californication

(in reply to Qithoras)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 9:09:27 AM   
lanie38


Posts: 120
Joined: 9/14/2007
Status: offline 		Pffft...I don't let things like that bother me...like others said just block and ignore...but some women like that kind of approach..different strokes for different folks...

Good luck
~lanie

_____________________________

Don't be so humble...you're not that great. ~ Golda Meir

(in reply to LuckyAlbatross)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 9:11:23 AM   
grlneedstolearn


Posts: 728
Joined: 1/29/2007
Status: offline 		i've recieved a few, but i just delete and move on to the next message

(in reply to temptedxdesires)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 9:11:38 AM   
OrrisKitten


Posts: 59
Joined: 7/18/2007
Status: offline 		It doesn't bother me. I tend to laugh and send back a slightly offensive e-mail, mainly entailing how even if I were looking for a Dom I would prefer that he learn how to read before sending me an e-mail assuming he is my 'Master' and that I am even remotely attracted.

I laugh and use it as a virtual punching bag. It is the best when you get an e-mail back and they are all whiney and going on about me not being a 'true sub' and all that jazz. Use it as a form of catharsis.

(in reply to domahpet)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: First Email - 12/15/2007 9:12:28 AM   
IrishMist


Posts: 7480
Joined: 11/17/2005
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: Jeffff

If all of you bitches would get on your knees now...........it would save me alot of time



Thank You
The Managment


Ignore the thank you.....not very Domly

LOL

YOu are incorrigible

_____________________________

If I said something to offend you, please tell me what it was so that I can say it again later.


(in reply to Jeffff)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2 3   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> First Email Page: [1] 2 3   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.078