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RE: Other states - 12/17/2007 1:16:49 PM

MasterFireMaam

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Both slave girl anne and slave bruce live in AZ. I lived in NC when both relationships started...but they did NOT start online. BOTH started after meeting at Butchmanns. With anne, it became a collared relationship before I decided to move. With bruce, we knew I was moving when it started.

However, had I stayed, there were two there whom I would have collared. I still might with one, we shall see.

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edited for horrible spelling and using wrong words. I pulled an all nighter.

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RE: Other states - 12/18/2007 4:54:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: Ryugen

I'm traveling across the Pacific Ocean to collar someone. It's funny really, this whole getting together across long distance is so unlikely to happen if it wasn't for the internet. Perhaps many years ago, before the internet and well established international travel, people made more compromises? That also makes me wonder if people did not look as deep into others to try and find 'the one' back then.
Distance is no longer such a great barrier, and I think it's awesome that people from different cultures and upbringings can find love in each others hearts.

It is incredible to me how small the world is getting. When my son can go on XBox 360 and play Halo 3 against a kid in Japan ... how can that not be just fantastic? I have email buddies all over the world, just as I'm sure you all do - I can easily see lust/love blossoming long-distance. I do think people settled more in finding 'the one' just a generation or two prior. They didn't get to meet many people as it was, so the pool was generally smaller.

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RE: Other states - 12/18/2007 6:53:29 PM

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I live in the boonies. Nice lifestyle but not much 'lifestyle', if you know what I mean. The odds of meeting someone kinky and compatible here are pretty slim. I don't do online relationships but the 'net is a good way to make initial contact.

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RE: Other states - 12/19/2007 10:13:48 AM

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i have found most of my slaves have been from other places,new york,europe,Cleveland,Uk,i seem to attract those to me and we mesh well as oppossed to who is in my neck of the woods,so i travel and search worldwide!

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RE: Other states - 12/19/2007 12:10:15 PM

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I was living in Ohio for most of my life till I moved out to Florida just days before my 23rd birthday. After a few months there, I moved into my current home with my owner where I've been ever since.

I've noticed that of both Ohio and Southern Florida.. that it was somewhat difficult to find a Dominant of any gender (even Trans) in the surrounding areas I was living in. If I could find one, they were most certainly not the type I was looking for. Another factor to add to this distress was that of the cities I lived in, or those around.. there were groups that were apparently very closely knit and difficult to get into.

Then tack on the fact I have HPV on top of all that difficulty... and one can see how hard it is to find a match. I moved from the southern end of Florida to New York state to find a Domme worth her salt, and I've been happy ever since ... even if we fight like cat vs. dog at times. (Or more appropriately, Jaguar and Wolf. lol)

I see it like this though. Any worthwhile relationship will take worthwhile effort. Anyone is free to quote me here, mind you. Anything with great reward needs a great effort. If you can't put anything into something, then you obviously do -NOT- deserve it. I burned the final bridges to my hereditary family and to those I could fall back on, AND travelled two thousand (rounded down) miles to start a life in a new home, in a place I've never known like I have known Ohio (my homestate and place of birth) to be her submissive switch. The rewards are well worth it for me, and for her.

I repeat. "Anything with great or worthwhile reward needs great or worthwhile effort, or it is not deserved or earned."

My two cents and mini-story addition,
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RE: Other states - 12/19/2007 12:43:28 PM

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I guess i was one of the lucky ones my first (late) Master lived about an hour away. My current wonderful Master only lives 2 towns away. I wanted a Master i could see at least once a week i found a wonderful one i can see every day. It is hard for me to travel with work and school so i was lucky i found someone local.

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RE: Other states - 12/19/2007 8:44:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07

i have noticed that most people who have D/s relationships that start on line are involved with people who live in other states. Why is it so hard to find one in your own city? i found this to be the rule. Everyone who lived close to me was not for me. My Owner lived about 200 miles from me. Which is relatively close compared to some that are out there. i wonder why that is. Does anyone else find this to be true for them?

I find in general that for myself, I have little to no time to devote to things like a bar scene, local dating niches, you name it. I could have looked locally, but frankly that strikes me as limiting.

As it stands, my girl is at this moment in another country, not just another state. By bad luck she has to stay there until January 2. Then she is coming to me and living with me. We met online. It gets me funny looks. Oh, well.

I don't care because she's the one I want. I don't regret for a moment looking online instead of locally, all local might have yielded would be short-term [and possibly lousy] sex. Now, I have the girl for me.

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RE: Other states - 12/20/2007 2:17:06 AM

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i have wondered for years why i would get emails from Dominants in my own state who would write "wish you weren't so far away" This would be true of Dominants who were only an hour's drive away. i have not had a real partner within my own state. no one from my munch group, regional events, etc. i really don't know why.

Perhaps it's that the commute. Driving a couple of hours every weekend can be viewed as more trouble or even more expensive than flying to another state every other month or so.

There may even be the problem of letting life get in the way. With a more local interest there may be the thought that since it's so close, one can "get around to it" sort of like how people tend to not go to their local tourist attractions because it's always there and one can always get around to going but just never do.

The good news is that people don't have to rely on only meeting local people.

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RE: Other states - 12/20/2007 4:14:21 AM

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there is no scene to speak of in my town (Maam Jay her Master and myself and a couple of married guys are about the extent of the local scene) . The main scene is about 4 hours away and while I could have had my pick of Doms from there none of the seemed "right " for me. Sir however is perfect for me, sadly he is a 15 hour drive away for the moment but that wont be forever.

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RE: Other states - 12/20/2007 5:04:36 AM

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I guess a lot depends on whether the person wants an online relationship or real time, distance is not any kind of problem for someone who is content to have just and online relationship

I started off with meeting a few local dominants, out of them only one was of interest but even then it was decided on being temporary, I had no intention of looking for someone any distance away since I had no desire to relocate. But I happened to get into online chats to chat as friends and from there a mutual attraction occured with someone in another country, at first I was pretty resistant but I found myself being like a moth attract to light and kept wanting to flutter back to the light, finally we just talked about my concerns about relocating and not wanting just an online relationship and how to resolve should things proceed further, there is a bit of short term time frame in place with regards to taking from online to R/T. it is longer that I would normally feel comfortable with, but not his fault I ended up requiring surgery so had to wait for a hospital opening , surgery and then recovery, the nice part in all was that a week after my expected full recovery date I have 2 weeks vacation so that becomes our first real time meet timeI made the decision to wait the after recovery, if it does not occur and get pushed back to far, I can then most likely assume that he was just toying around and never intended for it to turn to real time then I know it is time to move on with my search, around the time I was just starting to get to know him online their were a couple others that are closer that expressed an interest, they backed off when they understood that I was going to give this relationship a try, other than an occasional hello and to wish me luck and to see how my surgery went and to give me a reminder if things do not work out let them know. When I read about others whose relations have gone on 1 or 2 years online when they want real time and they are forced along with the bait of promises to one day meet I feel somewhat sorry for them, it is not something I would want for myself for that reason I needed after a bit a time frame for a meet so that I could have some assurances that the other person is sincere and if they do not follow thru I then know it is time to move on, I am not nailing the other to a specific date as I understand the need for some flexibility but if they can't fit me in within a certain time frame then it is doubtful that over the long haul it can work. I accept that a LTR is more difficult, I accept that online a person can say whatever they want you to hear, I accept that until a actual meet occurs that the person may not be sincere in their intentions as a result expect to have a meet time frame in place so I am not wasting months or years, if after the person drags the next meet plans for months later, then I would have to ask myself is it really worth it? Even though emotional involvement may occur it is still necessary remain level headed and not look at life thru rose colored glasses but the same is true even with local relationships. If it does not work out, it is not the end of the world, take some time out if necessary and then move on.

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