okay, here's the deal. your concern is understandable.

if you feel it best if you have a cell phone keep it on you.keep in contact with a friend(good friend who knows where you will be going,when you will be there ectera.

yes there is potential for any kind of situation.

as a friend of mine told me before leaving Seattle to come to Pa,"if i did not talk to Him(my Lord) and talked to you i would not be comfortable in letting you go". we had not met face to face before.my Lord and His wife made the choice to bring me out when they did instead of waiting until later.it was a risk but we took it and all is well,very well in fact. we met for the first time at the airport when He picked me up to ride in His car for another 2 hours to come to His house.(3,000 miles from all i knew).

just take precautions that's all. before now has there been any contact than other than online?

anything is possible good or bad,if you don't feel right or ready to do this than let Him know.

beofre coming here we had several conversations on the phone,He has sent me snail mail on a couple of occassions and i had His phone number for work and His home,photos, the whole 9.

out of all of that , i was not frightened outof my wits about it.my close friends felt comfortable about my leaving and so did/do i.

what made it so interesting was that my Lord and His wife were more scared about wether i would actually get on the plane to come here.they've had one before who would come half way and that was it on several occassions until they finally called it all off.so they were weary if i would actually come.

but as it's been said,sometimes there are bad situations and sometimes there are good situations,make your own judgement call on this,if it doesn't feel right don't go.

if he wants this as you do he will understand where you are coming from.

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster
Well, unless you have real experience with cases this, I don't see how you can make such judgments.  Sounds like a pair of preconceived notions to me--and questionable ones at that.  From what I've seen, most law-enforcement agencies are pretty eager to pursue internet-related crime.

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

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ORIGINAL: lilredny

Kali, although I really do appreciate your concern, please understand He is not pushing me into anything. We've been doing the onine thing for a while now. I think it's time for us to meet, just the fact that it's in his "turf" makes me nervous. Again, thank you for your support. I am a newbie and these forums are my bible

How could the forums be your bible?  How do you pick who to agree with?  We don't know what's going on with most of these people that ask questions, while I think they are a source of information and exploration, a bible is a stretch really.

I would really consider the public meeting and see how it goes.  Although you've been online for awhile, people lie or turn out to be much different in person when emotion and attraction are added into the mix.

Be careful!
l

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ORIGINAL: secretagentgirl

So where did you meet?  And was there any action?
(Sorry, inquiring minds want to know.)

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ORIGINAL: lilredny

I will ask His permission to satisfy your inquiring minds secret and laurel

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ORIGINAL: justheather

Well, I hate to spoil the safety party, but...
I met my Dom two years ago and proceeded with a three-day suitcase directly to his home where I stayed for those three days.
Not only did he not kill me with a dull, rusty axe, but we are now happily married.

Yes, I had a friend call me at an appointed time (Okay I forgot she was in a different time zone and the call was actually an hour late, but she did call, and continue to call until I told her to STOP IT) and I did have his name, address and telephone number.

But more importantly, I had peace of mind and a calm feeling in my gut because I was satisfied with the degree to which I had gotten to know him online and on the telephone is the weeks prior to our meeting.

I would venture to say that most people who end up in bad situations do so after having ignored their gut about entering said situation at least once. When people pay attention and really follow their intuition (which assumes that people are attending to this sense before the situation arises, as in every day of their lives), it is my belief that they are less likely to be taken by surprise by the bad guys. Not saying its 100 percent, but it's a huge part of making good choices.
Just my opinion, based on my experience.
Glad to hear the meeting went well!
H

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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam
If you were dating a vanilla man, would you go to his house for the first date having NEVER met him before?

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ORIGINAL: lilredny

Thank you all so very much. I am talking to him about it and he doesn't want us to meet if I have ANY doubts. I really want to meet him though...very confused indeed.