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takenbyjohnr07 -> Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 8:21:24 AM)
if you are not married to each other do you want to be? This of course assuming that you are in a real time healthy and loving relationship.Or do you think it would take your current relationship in a different direction that you don't want to go in. .

Elegant -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 8:26:50 AM)
Master Archer owned me for 5 years before he out that miniature collar on my left ring finger. We did the official marriage thing for a few reasons: Medical Insurance To make life a bit 'easier' for the kidlets in this Stepfordesque/Trophy Wife area we live. Because we have the right to get married. Other don't have that right and if we don't take advantage of what rights we do have who is to say that the rightous folks might someday decide that kinky folks should not get married either. The biggest change it made on our M/s relationship is the reaction we sometimes get from others: being introduced as husband/wife etc in leather environments. Master/slave what we are..the piece of paper is not.

toservez -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 8:33:14 AM)
Much to my Master’s and family’s dismay marriage is not something that is a big deal to me. I do think there are practical advantages of being married in terms of legal benefits and protection and social status that I would not mind being married and would expect it if he/we wanted certain things in our life. For me no ring on my finger or collar with respective ceremony would not affect my relationship in any way. I either have my Master’s heart and hope/expect to have it going forward or I don't or will not. No ring or collar can make that happen or prevent it from going away.

KnightofMists -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 8:39:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Elegant The biggest change it made on our M/s relationship is the reaction we sometimes get from others: being introduced as husband/wife etc in leather environments. Master/slave what we are..the piece of paper is not. It is ironic that the biggest reaction is not from within the relationship but from those outside. Goes to show you that many still hold on to some mainstream thinking even when they profess they don't. I happen to be married to Alandra.... but she is no less or more of a slave as Kyra is to me.

LadyPact -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 8:56:40 AM)
No, because W/we happen to be married to other people.

hisannabelle -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 9:01:57 AM)
greetings takenbyjohnr, we have been in a real life, healthy (at least for us) relationship for almost two years now. He has been married once before, a long time ago; i have never been married (although i was engaged to my previous dominant). He does not put a lot of stock in marriage, although i would really love for us to get married. once He gets more used to having someone else in His space (He spent a lot of time alone and is getting acclimated slowly to having me around him more and more often) and i am established in grad school or have my phd and we settle down somewhere, we may think more seriously about it...but we're in no rush in that direction. for us, His ownership of me is more solid and permanent than any marriage license or ring could ever be. respectfully, annabelle.

peppermint -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 9:09:34 AM)
No marriage in the future here. Both my former husbands have passed away and Gary doesn't wish to be the third....lol. Being more serious, he has given me protection in his will so that i won't be homeless if he passes before me. It's a comfort to know i'll always have a home no matter what. I've heard of a couple cases where one partner dies and the other is kicked out into the street with little or nothing. I'd like to encourage those who have LTR to make wills.

lanie38 -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 9:12:27 AM)
No need, no thanks...

BloodLuna -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 9:23:50 AM)
luna and Master have both done the marriage/divorce thing twice. As we are not christian (We are pagan) we don't hold the same level of value on Church sanctioned weddings as others and as mentioned before - a court wedding is just a piece of paper saying the gvt says you can be on each other's insurance. Master's work has a domestic partner plan that works just fine for us. There is a level of love, respect and commitment in Master and luna's M/s relationship that she has never experienced in a marriage. Marriage seems to put a social and subconscious expectation of "equality" on a couple that has ruined two of my previous relationships. We both bristle at the same time when a co-worker or acquaintence even accidentally referes to me as "his wife" Although - he does refer to himself as my daughter's step-father because, just as we don't believe a piece of paper should magically make me "his partner" neither does it signify the special place he holds in her life. With me being the size of a whale with the nearly ending pregnancy we've had alot of pushy relatives and even total strangers, who, noticing the lack of a wedding ring, feel they must comment about "how soon is the wedding, better hurry or the baby will be here before you can do it" Since most of them have been over 60-70 (and NO, thats not a judgement on older folk - just a factual observation) my standard response has been, "no plans to get married - when's the funeral? Better hurry or death will be here before you can plan it." Master gets so mad at luna for that but luna can't stand nosey, judgemental people. luna

thetammyjo -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 9:31:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 if you are not married to each other do you want to be? This of course assuming that you are in a real time healthy and loving relationship.Or do you think it would take your current relationship in a different direction that you don't want to go in. . Aside from the fact that in my country you cannot legally have more than one spouse, I do not see the role of husband and slave as the same thing. My slave is my slave; my husband is my husband.

susie -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 9:32:41 AM)
I am in the most secure relationship I have ever been in and I certainly do not consider marriage as something that is missing or not. To us it is the relationship that counts and not the fact of a piece of paper that tells us that we are meant to be together. If it happens it does but it is not something either of us are looking for.

SingleRarity -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 9:34:28 AM)
Yes, we plan on getting married at some point in the not-too-distant future. -A&E

gorgeous1 -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 9:37:13 AM)
I waited to find my dominant so I could be married to him and we have had a D/s relationship since the first date. We're going on ten years, and yes it means everything to me. I'm a traditional sort of girl.

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 9:45:26 AM)
You seem like such a nice and special person. there is no doubt in my mind that one day you will have marriage news to share with us. He's a lucky man.

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 9:48:46 AM)
Very good advice and extra protection is always good especially if the family decides to contest the will and they win. They usually do win especially if it is a close relative like a child or wife. Be careful. My friend is going through that now.

Jeffff -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 10:26:22 AM)
I was married for 2 wonderful years..................out of 16. I can't recommend it...:) Jeff

KatyLied -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 10:34:03 AM)
I am not in a current relationship. But I wanted to put in my two cents. After being married for 19 years and divorcing, I have mixed feelings about marriage. I'm at a place in my life where I don't need it. And to go into a marriage without safeguarding some of my material things would not be an option. Also I would carefully look at the marital history of anyone I was thinking about getting married to. I will never say never. But it is something I would give a lot of consideration to before signing off on a legally-binding document. I don't need a piece of paper to cement a relationship.

wisteriaV -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 10:40:31 AM)
We believe in marriage, but not the institution of marriage. We will most likey stay shacked up until New York State recognizes us as a common law marraige..We don't need a piece of paper to prove to others we are in the relationship forever.

BeingChewsie -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 10:47:14 AM)
I didn't need to be married and spent years in his service without marriage. I don't think it changed anything except the way in which he uses me. It did signal the completion of the transition from strictly household servant to companion.

peppermint -> RE: Marrying your Dominant (12/18/2007 10:47:53 AM)
His kids not only know about the will but encouraged him to make the new will. If any of them have a problem with it then all they have to do is speak out now rather than wait and pay for an attorney's new car.

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