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laurell3 -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 2:34:17 PM)
RedMagic, you are in fact hot. If you don't think so, you need to cruise a few more male pics on these sites. Jeff...you're clearly insane. OP: today I received this jewel of an email in mailbox: "I want to train you into a slave-whore. I'm interested in having you totally taken advantage of by groups of guys in your area. I can arrange for it to happen if I know you're willing to attend. Does that interest you?" I laughed and sent back a one line reply saying "not even remotely." While it may be discouraging that one has to develop a thick skin to be on these sites, that's exactly what you must do. It's a sex shopping site for many, if that's not what you're into, tell them no and move on. I agree your profile needs work if you want to attract quality people communicating your own quality is important. Sub, slave, Dom, Domme, Gorean, gay, straight, bi, alien from Mars...no one deserves to be treated badly, however, instead of looking at ridiculous emails as abuse, look at them for what they are, ridiculous emails with not a prayer in hell of catching the attention of any sane person.

MadRabbit -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 2:35:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 P.S. MR, we were waiting for you in the pseudo intellectual Knowledge is Power section and you never showed. Now how many hamburger buns are in a pack? Only a Meta-Master would have that answer and sadly, I do not qualify.

Sinergy -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 3:35:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff To the OP......you might as well lighten up....cept for me...and maybe Ron....everyone else here is fake Jeff I dont feel fake. Sinergy

Jeffff -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 3:37:56 PM)
see?....thats the problem we don't recognize it........luckily, people stop by and point it out to us...:) Jeff

RedMagic1 -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 3:49:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 RedMagic, you are in fact hot. Aw, shucks, Laurell. I'm nominating you for that Twue Switch of the Year award now, for sure.

laurell3 -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 3:55:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 RedMagic, you are in fact hot. Aw, shucks, Laurell. I'm nominating you for that Twue Switch of the Year award now, for sure. Yay! What do I win?

Jeffff -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 3:56:37 PM)
You win a certificate of authenticity....:) Jeff

Sinergy -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 3:59:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff see?....thats the problem we don't recognize it........luckily, people stop by and point it out to us...:) Jeff From a software coding perspective, a "meta" whatever would be that software construct which refers to another software construct. So the "meta-Dominant" would be the one pointing out to the Dominant that he/she/it was fake. Clear as mud? Sinergy

LadyChef -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 4:11:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MadRabbit I think we need a new section on these forums where everyone can post their whiny rants about how dominants are all so obnoxious, there is no real slaves out there anymore, how all the submissive women aren't really submissive, how annoying it is for the slaves and subs to post in the "Ask a Master" section, how everyone is picking on them because they are young, how everyone is ignoring them because they are old, how male dominants just want sex, how female dominants just want money, how pro female dominants are just silly whores, how nobody uses the real true Old Guard definitions of the labels that they thought up one night on the can, how crappy Collarme.com is, how crappy the people on Collarme.com are for being snarky, how all the fake submissives are posing as meta-mega-ultra-slaves, how everyone on Collarme.com is a fake, how all the dominants are wannabes, how much it sucks to be fat, how much it sucks to be skinny, and how hot dogs come in packages of 6 and hotdog buns come in packages of 8. Then, at the very least, I won't have to waste time clicking on the threads in the hopes of something interesting to read. You really are MAD aren't you?!!! [:D] This brought such a smile to My face. To the OP- it will ease up soon.....or maybe it won't. Either way, have patience; it's one of the first lessons you should learn as one who is calling themselves a "submissive".

Missokyst -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 5:00:51 PM)
I feel deprived. I haven't gotten one weird offer yet! sniff Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Everyone gets weird offers; you would freak if you saw some of the ones I get, just laugh it off.

Lumus -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 5:06:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I feel deprived. I haven't gotten one weird offer yet! sniff Kyst How do you feel about hedge clippers? [:D]

charmdpetKeira -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 5:19:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: womyn No, I think I might not have made myself clear. I've been getting really obnoxious emails with offers for plane tix, money, etc. and it's really insulting. Perhaps my the heading was too generalized. For any unintentional offense I may have given to the REAL Doms (mes) my apologies! No, the problem is, too many people seem to think that just because something can’t be stopped by an individual, it should be accepted. Don’t apologize, your definition of “slave” or “submissive” in a bdsm context is just as valid as the next person’s. k

crouchingtigress -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 5:20:28 PM)
hedge clippers....gosh that gave me a chuckle. op you are new here, and although you are pretty much getting lambasted on this thread, its kinda an initiation of sorts, if you stay you'll find we are a pretty fun reasonable and gasp intelligent bunch youll learn lots and youll develop a thicker skin which obviously could not hurt. welcome to the forums... as to the movie club...i volunteer my hot tub, and i think the first pic should be that one where Elisabeth Taylor is used by her gay uncle to seduce and procure young boys for him...and the mental break down she has because of it..... what was that one called?

DesFIP -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 5:33:09 PM)
That's not pushy, that's rude and it shows you the lack of ability they have in making and keeping relationships. Don't get upset, be glad they've shown their true colors this early, block them and move on.

lovingpet -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 5:51:50 PM)
Welcome to the totally subjective world of really funny and twisted stuff!!! I will agree that OP was rough on the slave sect of our contingency, but give her the benefit of the doubt that she did so without a good working knowledge of the term. Still education and appropriate apologies will assist in recifying the problem. Let's also be fair to some of these "obnoxious" Dominants. Most are low life idiots with no social skills, but some, like yourself in your post, have made newbie mistakes in attempting to make some of their very first ventures into this world as well. It does not grate on the nerves any less, but everyone has to start somewhere. I am, admittedly, a newbie myself (see my vanilla cone), so I have some fair ability to explain the complete lack of experience and understanding to know what is going on. Further, in all aspects of life, quality breeds quality. If you want to best out of this experience, put the best into it. Your perfect Dominant is not necessarily going to be the one that looks the best and has the specific skill set you seek. It will be the person with whom you make a deep, trusting connection and are able to, in that context, grow together as both individuals and as a couple. This takes a level of depth that your profile currently does not contain. I would want to know more about who you are and what you seek than what you look like and who looks like you. I do not mean to be tough on you, but these relationships are not for the faint-hearted and require a high level of maturity if they are to be successful long-term, or even in the short term. I wish you the best and I know you will make the needed adjustment to bring you the kind of attention you desire. All others, just ignore and move on. Okay, love? Warm wishes, lovingpet

kc692 -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 5:56:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: womyn please no hostilities. I OBVIOUSLY have never been a slave. I am trying to learn the ropes (excuse the pun) so to speak, but I feel uncomfortable (and a little uneasy) when I am pushed into it. But the in the future I'll follow that advice about just ignoring some of those emails. I am not here to cause any trouble, nor am I here to say ALL doms (mes) are pushy. I am here to get more input about the M/S relationship. Here is some input about the M/S relationship; just because someone identifies as a slave, submissive, or dominant, ALL are due courtesy and respect. No, you didn't get it in the emails you spoke about. You didn't give it here either, speaking in a condescending manner about you were not a slave. We get that; but you intimated that a slave was not due courteous behavior because they identified as such. That is rude and condescending in the same manner of the emails you received. In a counter rant, dom/mes get rude mails on what a sub or a slave who is 'gracious' enough to have picked us out expects us to do to them. Ignore the emails, and welcome to the boards, but you will not find a very warm welcome when you presume to decide how you think a group in our community should not take umbrance where you did simply by how they identify themselves in and M/S relationship. Just because a slave is a slave, does not mean they are MY slave, just as because a sub is a sub, does not mean they are MY sub, and NEITHER deserves any more respect and courtesy than the other.

girlygurl -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 6:04:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Oh fiddlefuck, another newbie posting about whywhywhywhywhywhywhy is the internet so bad and horrible to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! OP, get a clue, this is ONLINE, it is kink site, people are going to do what they want, regardless of what you tell them in your profile. You are on post 3, good. Keep posting and hanging out on collarme and hopefully you will get the hang of it, if not, join the waaa waaa club. I just love "fiddlefuck" SR!!! I still think it sounds like candy. [:D] OP~ as soon as I read your post I knew you were in for a tongue lashing, and I'm not talking the good kind. You will find (if you haven't already) that slaves have a voice and a pretty loud one at that! In the few short months I've been on collarme I have read some very insightful posts from slaves and submissives, but don't ever think that because one is a slave one has no voice... they will put you in your place and you won't even see it comin. Any how... welcome to collarme, and don't stop sharing... just remember, slaves, submissives, Dom/mes and Masters all have something wonderful to share... and if you allow them, they will even share some of their knowledge with you. After all, isn't that what life is all about??? Learning from each other and becoming better human beings? Well, except for SR she's already as hot and full of knowledge as she could possibly be. hubba hubba baby! [:D] girly

chathamvahere -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 6:05:36 PM)
Hi, I understand that a lot of people on CM do not know the difference between sub and slave, when we look at profiles we generally try to read everything and make a judgement depending on the persons real time experiences, there will always be newbees, trying to get thier feet wet, the world of cyber is well interesting for lack of a better word, do not take everything personally, if you get an email you do not like delete it, keep searching and you may find one you like:) however be warned, just because that you think the person on the other end is real and perfect(if you find him) this may not be the fact, real meeting is the only to know how compatable two people are that is what makes CM intersting:)

girlygurl -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 6:09:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 RedMagic, you are in fact hot. If you don't think so, you need to cruise a few more male pics on these sites. Jeff...you're clearly insane. OP: today I received this jewel of an email in mailbox: "I want to train you into a slave-whore. I'm interested in having you totally taken advantage of by groups of guys in your area. I can arrange for it to happen if I know you're willing to attend. Does that interest you?" dang laurell, that's hot! [:D]

Griswold -> RE: What's with all the pushy doms???!! (12/19/2007 6:12:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: womyn Obviously the people who look at my profile do NOT read through it. I get so many obnoxious people calling themselves dom (mes) that seem to think I'm a slave and can order me around! I am a SUBMISSIVE NOT a slave....yet! Why, WHY are people so disrespectful?! They're Democrats. (It's not their fault).

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