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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/20/2007 1:53:30 PM   
laurell3


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ORIGINAL: SlaveTiffany

Hi everyone!  I've got a quick question....can you still consider yourself a slave if you don't enjoy or recieve beatings?  My Master and I don't usually use physical punishment often and I've been told by more than a few people that I should stop calling myself a slave unless I recieve regular beatings.  It's the first I've heard of it....I thought that being a slave was a mental thing more than a physical thing....but maybe I'm wrong.  I'd love to hear what everyone has to say.  Thanks!
Ta!
Tiffany Angel


Hey send those people that say that to this forum would ya?

Labels mean nothing.  Find what works for you and find a partner that is compatible for those needs.  Avoid anyone that tells you that you are not good enough or slave enough or sub enough because you don't want to do things they desire.  However, keep in mind that what one dislikes when they enter the lifestyle is not necessarily going to remain constant so keep an open mind.  Open mind does not mean compromising what you believe keeps you safe emotionally and physically.

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I cannot be defined by moments in my life, but must be considered for by the entirety of my existence.

When you fail to consider that I am the best judge for what is right for me, all of your opinions become suspect to me.

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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/20/2007 2:38:26 PM   
LittleWench


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quote:

can you still consider yourself a slave if you don't enjoy or recieve beatings?


I can call myself a rock star, that doesn't make me one....

Just giving you a hard time. 
It's a label, something that only belongs on the inside of my kids undies so they don't lose them at swim practise.

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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/20/2007 2:52:18 PM   
trueshadow


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Joined: 1/1/2005
Status: offline 		As others have pointed out, the best slaves are those whose mindsets have adjusted fully and totally to serving the Other.  If the slave is performing very well and has the proper mindset, discipline and punishment can be rare or non-existant.

The larger point is not to let others interfere with your slavery in any way, except, perhaps, to spare you from serious, permanent harm and that's pretty rare (I hope).

Enjoy your slavery and please find fulfillment as a devoted slave.


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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/20/2007 8:56:35 PM   
MasterofScyn


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Status: offline 		Most the time I ask for my spankings. My punishment is for the most part isolation, I can't stand not being touched when I'm bound. But as far as that goes I haven't been punished in a very long time, not even really sure what it was I got punished for the last time now that I think about it. I have to be in the mood for the pain, sometimes it is the only thing that turns me on, other times just some nice tender love is all it takes. I can't take a lot of pain, definatly don't call em beatings. M'Lord would never beat me. He feels the same ways as Ownedgirlie's Master does. I feel the same way to be honest.
 
All in all I have to agree with others here, just because you don't take a flogging or any kind of pain type action, that doesn't define your status to your Master. A slave is alot more than that... It's the loyality you have to submitt to the one you call Master, or whatever it is you may call him. As well as his acceptance to you being his slave.. I' know there's alot more than that.. but I have to go to bed... a very.. very.. long drive for me in a few hours and I AM the one that has to keep HIM awake!!!!! (Must be creative here...)
 
Scyn ~

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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/21/2007 2:07:24 AM   
michelleryder


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Status: offline 		I don't understand why people think slaves have to spend all thier lives cowering in a corner getting beatings. As others have said it's more a mind thing. For me it means i chosen to give up control to my master in all areas. It's that simple. He says i do even if i;m not keen on the idea.

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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/21/2007 11:08:56 AM   
gorgeous1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveTiffany

Hi everyone! I've got a quick question....can you still consider yourself a slave if you don't enjoy or recieve beatings? My Master and I don't usually use physical punishment often and I've been told by more than a few people that I should stop calling myself a slave unless I recieve regular beatings. It's the first I've heard of it....I thought that being a slave was a mental thing more than a physical thing....but maybe I'm wrong. I'd love to hear what everyone has to say. Thanks!
Ta!
Tiffany Angel



I don't think you need to be defined by anyone else's opinion of what you are aside from your Master. Do you strive to please him? Is he pleased with you? Does he enjoy calling you his slave? Do you consider yourself his slave? Well, then you are a slave. It's YOUR relationship dynamic, the two of you are the only ones who have the right to define what it is. It's all relative.

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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/22/2007 1:28:10 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		I know too many masochistic Masters and sadistic slaves to believe what they are telling you. I also know couple who have no SM in their relationship at all. In the end, I feel what makes us Ds or Ms is that we have a transfer of authority inside an agreed upon structure.

Master Fire


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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/22/2007 6:26:03 PM   
Sirsinini


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveTiffany

Hi everyone!  I've got a quick question....can you still consider yourself a slave if you don't enjoy or recieve beatings?  My Master and I don't usually use physical punishment often and I've been told by more than a few people that I should stop calling myself a slave unless I recieve regular beatings.  It's the first I've heard of it....I thought that being a slave was a mental thing more than a physical thing....but maybe I'm wrong.  I'd love to hear what everyone has to say.  Thanks!
Ta!
Tiffany Angel


Dont listen to them...listen to him.
 
Some people will say only the abused get beatings.
 
Define "beating?"
 
It's all about you and him...not anyone else.
 
Sir's devoted property
 

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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/22/2007 6:52:32 PM   
opensoul


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Status: offline 		beatings a word feared ,misused and thankfully my Master also does not like or use it on me. I openly became his slave early on for i found i enjoyed serving and being his totally. I try to do my best to please him, I make mistakes, as we all do. When this happens my Master looks for the reason and helps me understand why I did it. He does not feel that beating me would correct it but maybe shut me down again.Thankfully He knows me better than I know myself.
Pain is not the driving force for me much, its pleasing him.
Being a slave is what you and He choice not anyone else. Enjoy yourself and follow your Master's leadership

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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/22/2007 7:21:21 PM   
Daddyscologirl


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Status: offline 		Absolutly not!!!! It doesn't matter what O/others think. M/many think that i shouldn't be considered a slave but should be considered a switch. If you Master considers you His slave then that is what you are. No O/one elses opinion on your station should matter but His.

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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/22/2007 7:43:03 PM   
Peridot


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Status: offline 		This must be an old one
 BUT ... I've got to say it -
 
" It has a good beat and you can dance to it"

boo, hiss

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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/22/2007 8:27:36 PM   
Shammon5


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Joined: 7/17/2007
From: Ohio
Status: offline 		I definately think that sub/slave comes from way deeper than the nerve endings on your buttocks. There will be times where we have a longish break in between scenes, but I still consider myself as Ian-sama's sub, and he does likewise. It has nothing to do with the times we play, it has to do with how we treat one another. I am still show respect to him, obey him, and try my best to please him in everything I do. Yes, being beaten definately puts you in a submissive position, but the sub or slave mentality comes from deeper inside you. Don't let people who are not in your relationship label or define your position with your Master. :-)

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RE: No idea what to call this post.... - 12/23/2007 10:27:22 AM   
littlebitxxx


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SlaveTiffany

Hi everyone!  I've got a quick question....can you still consider yourself a slave if you don't enjoy or recieve beatings?  My Master and I don't usually use physical punishment often and I've been told by more than a few people that I should stop calling myself a slave unless I recieve regular beatings.  It's the first I've heard of it....I thought that being a slave was a mental thing more than a physical thing....but maybe I'm wrong.  I'd love to hear what everyone has to say.  Thanks!
Ta!
Tiffany Angel


I've bolded what I think to be your answer.  Your slavery is whatever you and your Master decide it to be, not what anyone else says. 

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It is the meaningless little acts that become meaningful in the doing.

The people that mind don't matter and the people that matter don't mind.

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