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RE: Unexpected Meltdown - 12/20/2007 7:15:41 PM

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Dnomyar when I look at my female friends I am shocked by how some of them really can harbour a grudge for ages and ages. I have a friend who is currently making her fellas life hell becasue he had sex with somone she knows before they got together.

And women wonder why men sometimes just shake their heads and say "crazy bitches" ?

Seriously, I've nothing but respect for a solid woman, but I do not get, or respect, the ones that act like that. It's just petty, and should be beneath them, IMO. Similar things go for the cases where there's two women bickering over one man that has led them on, turning their anger on each other, when they should be tag-team bitchslapping him back into the stone age. What women don't do in physical violence, they make up for in relational violence.

Not that men (again generally) don't have equally grievous shortcomings, mind you.

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I think when you realise that you have done wrong you should admit it and do what you can to fix it. Its if you didnt that you should feel ashamed of yourself.

Bingo.

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RE: Unexpected Meltdown - 12/20/2007 7:47:09 PM

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He wrapped his arms around me and loved me in spite of myself. He lay with me and soothed me as the sobs came pouring from me. He whispered softly in my ear and held me safely until I drifted away to sleep.

Dear WTI,

As many others have said, including you, this is the mark of a wonderful partner. I have lost my mind with Daddy on a few occasions in our time together and he has loved me in spite of it all. Who knows why we come unglued at times? It happens, we feel terrible, and if we are blessed with loving, understanding people in our lives, they forgive us even when we feel that we do not deserve it. Try to stop beating up on yourself as best you can.

One time I got really angry with something I had done and couldn't seem to forgive myself for, and after a bit, Daddy had heard enough. He had been so sweet and kind as I berated myself and told me that I needed to let it go. I didn't. I tore myself apart verbally - bashed myself for my stupidity, etc. - and it wasn't even something that was between us, just something really stupid that I did that made me feel like an idiot. He warned me to stop, that he hated seeing me turn on myself. When I just wouldn't let it go, he grabbed ahold of me and told me very sternly that "No one talks about His girl that way. No one - not even His girl." It was a wake up call for me because he knew that I was damaging my self esteem, my self worth, all of it. He then looked me in the eyes and said, "You are not any of those things you have said, and I'm tired of hearing it. If I think that you are a wonderful, intelligent woman, then all this other stuff doesn't sit well with me. I love you, now stop." After he held me and helped me put all that negative, bitter, self-hatred, I thought about what a lucky woman I was to have someone love me through such a rough time.

Sounds like your beloved is made of the same cloth. Cherish it.

Warmly,
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RE: Unexpected Meltdown - 12/21/2007 7:00:24 AM

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Thank you for that. When we looked at your post he told me that what your Daddy said to you is the same way he feels about it.

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RE: Unexpected Meltdown - 12/21/2007 7:31:22 AM

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I'm sorry for the loss you have had. I hope with time and love you are able to work it out and move on from it and remember the good things about the person. As for the anger that is part of grief. I lost a parent in 91 so the anger you speak about i understand. All the rage boils up and you lash out at the people closest to you b/c you can't be angry at the person who is gone. I'm here to say get angry at the person who is gone. It is normal. There are steps to grief and it sounds like you might be going through them.
If you need to go talk to someone about it. From what you said Your Sir sounds like a kind caring wonderful man to have in your life to help you through this. Take your time there is no time limit on grief. This might get me flamed but i'm going to say it anyway LOL There might be days that you need to take for yourself. Not taking care of anyone but yourself. I know this goes against what MOST in BDSM say or think. My reason for saying this is that if you can't care for yourself and take care of yourself how can you take care of your Sir.

I wish you well and a peaceful Christmas.

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RE: Unexpected Meltdown - 12/21/2007 7:51:40 AM

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I am taking a day today (with his encouragement) to do some fun things. I'm going to spend the day with a girlfriend making Christmas cookies and trying to get my mind in a more festive spirit.

Last night was certainly much better than the night before. I kicked myself pretty hard all day yesterday. Sir and I sat and talked for a long time last night. I am so thankful that he is an understanding and patient man, and that he is in my life. I can't begin to imagine how lost I might be right now if he wasn't. At the end of our talk he told me that I am to stop punishing myself over it now. It's done and I need to let it go. He then turned it all around on me and went about using my body, causing me to orgasm many times without stopping. By the time he was done I was really drained and feeling emotionally and physically exhausted. I was uncomfortable at first because I didn't want to experience such pleasure, still feeling like I didn't really deserve it. But Sir won out in the end, as he always does, and my body was not able to fight it. After he was done I curled up in his arms and stayed there. It was intense, emotional and healing. This morning I feel cleansed.

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