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RE: Do Some Doms not like the idea of tying someone up? - 8/20/2005 12:16:45 PM

slavedesires

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My old dom used to say you are not a dom until you give your submissive an order and he/she obeys. No matter what was happening to them, they obey. No bonds needed.

I believe that as well. That is the true test of control. If you never achieve that you will never achieve that sort of control over your submissive.

nicely said sub....very nicely said. The dynamic is control:obedience.

edited to add....tis why i referr to us as WIITWD rather than lifestyle BDSMer's.

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RE: Do Some Doms not like the idea of tying someone up? - 8/20/2005 5:24:57 PM

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I prefer 'mental bondage' many times over the physical stuff. My favorite is to use short pieces of soft yarn tied around the wrists and ankles. Then I will tell my Sub that her arms are tied to this and her ankles are tied to that. She must exert the mental control to not move them even while every nerve in her body is demanding that she do so. This is not to say I won't use ropes or chains if she likes that too but I enjoy the extra control I have when I'm using the mental bondage.

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RE: Do Some Doms not like the idea of tying someone up? - 8/21/2005 3:50:29 AM

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

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You need to talk this through with him because I've yet to meet a sub who didn't love being bound....

I know a few who don't. I know a few relationships that incorporate absolutely no kink into their relationship.

You create a nice dynamic of always being right below though- if they don't like bondage then they aren't really subs, therefore all subs love bondage.

It's great that you love it and it's a great part of your life...but some people don't get anything out of it at all. That doesn't make them not subs or doms any more than not liking flogging does.

"I've yet to meet a sub who didn't love being bound....."

I'd just like to remind everyone that the above are my words, which are 100% true, and that the inferences and expansions since posted in response are solely the opinions of *others* and are NOT shared by me!

It's perfectly fine with me if a sub has bondage as a hard limit. It doesn't mean she's not submissive, it does mean we're not compatible - I have both limits and expectations, too! Whether her limit is for a physical or medical reason is irrelevant; no bondage means no interest on my part.

For the record and benefit of a few here, I do get out quite a bit, I've met more than one fem/sub (yes, more than two, as well, and three....) and I can even go to the bathroom unchaperoned! But do keep firing the "naive newbie" disrespect my way - it's not that I'm armour plated so much as you're shooting blanks....

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RE: Do Some Doms not like the idea of tying someone up? - 8/21/2005 8:20:47 AM

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On a whimsical note, I strongly advise bondage of some form during play if the sub/slave has martial arts training , else the Dominant's testicals may be forcibly relocated.

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RE: Do Some Doms not like the idea of tying someone up? - 8/21/2005 5:22:48 PM

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It depends as much on the submissives tastes as the Dominants. Take my Luvdragon for example, she can take physical bondage for hours on end with no problem, but if I just tell her to be still in the same position with no restraints, it's torturous. Physical binding is pretty much pure playtime for us, more of a reward. She doesn't need those restraints to find her "space" usually.

Every sub is different though. If they were all the same, then this wouldn't be so much damned fun!

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RE: Do Some Doms not like the idea of tying someone up? - 8/21/2005 6:02:02 PM

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The short answer to your question - Is Yes there are some that just don't do bondage (Top or bottom), just as there is some that are intensely passinate about doing bondage (Top or bottom). No way is right or wrong... it is a personal preference. The reasons why, well it doesn't matter except to the individual person. But I suspect the real question you are looking for is how do you get him to give you the experience of bondage and a few others things besides. Seems you need to open some communication lines on how you can both gain pleasures in experiencing your own specific desires. I don't personally look at bondage or anything as particularly kinky... Kink is a rather relative term. For a pure sexual point of view, anything beyond missionary position would be kinky, to others it is just dull and boring "Vanilla". I don't view things as kinky or not... just pleasurable or not. It's my play no one elses... depending on who I am playing with... well my play is affected. it becomes our play... I search for a flow that finds the pleasure and passion for those in the play with me. A good step is to open the communication lines on the experiences you desire to have... but also be prepared to accept that some experiences are not going to be mutual. Your partner may do some and some not so much. Acceptance as well as patience would serve you well as look to grow your own experiences with your choosen partner.

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Hi I have question, my Master likes the mental idea of bondage instead of the physical act itself. My question is do some Masters out there that think this way. I have told him that i I would blindfold myself and he said no, he said yes I own you but that dosent mean i have to tie you up. I'm trying to get him to but maybe I should just let it go for awhile and see if he get's into the idea his self.

Sincerely, Andie and her Master Hal

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