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Require Assistance please - 12/24/2007 8:04:15 AM   
TheKapDom2483


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Status: offline 		I am more than willing to learn from whomever wishes to speak with me and assist me.  I seek to become a more experienced Dom.  In the least in conversation and perhaps more experiences than I have had to this point.  I am a relatively young dom at 23 years old.  I've been interested in the lifestyle for about 7 years though obviously the first two years were high school and I spoke to nobody and only read on it.  I have spoken with different people and read about it and had samplings with different people regarding the lifestyle but often enough they were Vanilla women and just trying something new.  They were not true submissives/slaves.  I am seeking guidance I suppose you could say.  I have a good idea about plenty of the premises and ideas involving BDSM and D/s Lifestyle but I could use some assistance and conversation still.  Anyone's help is welcome.

Daniel
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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/24/2007 9:06:06 AM   
xiam


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Status: offline 		Your profile states that you are curious about your local BDSM community... Are there munches, parties, etc in you community?  That's always a great avenue for people just starting out.  Find a friend to accompany you or go it alone.... most groups are very welcoming to new people who are sincere in their search for more knowledge.  Good luck to you!

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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/24/2007 9:17:02 AM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Some basic tips:

1. Try to get involved in the local community.
2. Remember that there are very few, if any, one correct ways of doing anything that applies to everyone.
3. Your true sub/slave is another's fake and your fake is another's true sub/slave
4. Be willing to learn from submissive/slaves

I hope this is helpful to you.

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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/24/2007 10:24:59 AM   
peppermint


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Joined: 10/18/2005
From: Montana
Status: offline 		To locate local munches and organizations near you....

Go to www.drkdesyre.com/
 
Click on HERE
Click on Meeting People
Click on Organizations
Then click on your state
 
Most groups offer lectures and training in various aspects.  Learning from someone in person is much better than learning from online or reading a book. 

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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/24/2007 11:31:27 AM   
TheKapDom2483


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Status: offline 		I do appriciate the advice so far.  Any and all advice and conversations are welcome.

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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/24/2007 5:31:33 PM   
erebus


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Status: offline 		To the above advice I'd suggest watching and listening to those who have gone on before you.  They have much to teach you.  Of course, you have to be selective.  That's where the munches and local groups and local play parties come in.  Remember to have safety in mind for those you play with, and yourself.

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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/24/2007 5:42:14 PM   
mnottertail


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheKapDom2483

I am more than willing to learn from whomever wishes to speak with me and assist me.  I seek to become a more experienced Dom.  In the least in conversation and perhaps more experiences than I have had to this point.  I am a relatively young dom at 23 years old.  I've been interested in the lifestyle for about 7 years though obviously the first two years were high school and I spoke to nobody and only read on it.  I have spoken with different people and read about it and had samplings with different people regarding the lifestyle but often enough they were Vanilla women and just trying something new.  They were not true submissives/slaves.  I am seeking guidance I suppose you could say.  I have a good idea about plenty of the premises and ideas involving BDSM and D/s Lifestyle but I could use some assistance and conversation still.  Anyone's help is welcome.

Daniel


Now; I see all kinda folk looking for 'friends in the lifestyle', advice or whatever.......here is your advice and it ain't a joke.......


If you don't know what the fuck you are doing, for fucks sake go slow,  and do a whole lot less at one sitting than is in your imagination.

Don't see how far you can go, leave them wanting a whole lot more.

Now really, kid---
it's the holidays so you are getting far more than normal, you will be old some day.......as you view US...and you will get it...whatever....

The bottom line here, is there is this neat shit around called 'Oh my fuckin' gawd, I don't believe she was so stupid that she let me do that to her,' but you are going to find trusting folk will go a long way out there with you.


I ain't the red cross, so unless you bring your slaves to me to suck my dick in repayment for the years of wisdom I got..........or unless you got cigarettes  (if I am in the 'social abeyance center')..........you are probably going to have to spend a great deal of time self taught, read and a conversation or two, there is rarely anyone take you under their wing, simply cause they want to make the world a better place for kinksters.

Ron 

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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/24/2007 9:35:37 PM   
Knightenslaves


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Status: offline 		Best advice is probably already written here but...
1. Go to your local munch/group, make sure you read the rules first/get invited to some demos and watch closely
2. Take some classes/do some research on the human psyche
3. Do some research/take some classes on anatomy
4. Have fun and always play safe/sane/consentual
5. Stay the fuck away from the Vault in NYC...no really

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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/25/2007 2:23:55 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheKapDom2483

They were not true submissives/slaves. 
  Best advice I can give you is lose the above phrase and never utter it again. "True" should never be used in that context. What is a "true" Dominant to me, may not be to someone else, so use of the word "true" will earn you a good tongue lashing from many members of the community.

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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/25/2007 3:15:17 PM   
Guilty1974


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From: Den Haag
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quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Best advice I can give you is lose the above phrase and never utter it again. "True" should never be used in that context. What is a "true" Dominant to me, may not be to someone else, so use of the word "true" will earn you a good tongue lashing from many members of the community.


I second that.

The only other advice I can give is to be more specific as to what kind of assistance you need and find as many teachers as possible. Some people are good at bondage, others at bullwhips, some at the practice of incorporating switching into your relationship, others at TPE D/s dynamics. In my opinion, it's often best to learn from people who specialise at that what you want to learn the basics from. They tend to know the basics really by heart and to have given things a little mor thought.

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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/25/2007 5:56:28 PM   
sexyred1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Knightenslaves

5. Stay the fuck away from the Vault in NYC...no really



As far as I know, the Vault closed years ago, really.

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RE: Require Assistance please - 12/25/2007 6:04:22 PM   
lronitulstahp


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quote:

  I seek to become a more experienced Dom.  


"Experience is the name every one gives to their mistakes.”
~Oscar Wilde
best of luck as You travel Your path....

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