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Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:18:43 PM

Aileen1968

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My man starts chemo tomorrow. I'm completely frightened and freaked out. it's not the way we want to heal him, but he has an aggressive form of Non-Hodgkins lymphoma and we can't risk running out of time. If anyone has any advice on how to weather this the best, we'd appreciate it. He plans on juicing throughout because we figure he'll be able to digest that better. We'll find out if that's true and can change that if it doesn't work. He also plans on detoxing his body afterwards. He is sickened by the thought of puposefully putting those poisons into his body. But we can't take the chance. Supposedly the type he has responds extremely well to chemo and has a successful cure rate. I'm just rambling at this point. I'm on the edge of panic.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:22:23 PM

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Oh my.I`ll pray that it goes easy on him.

Good luck,you angle of mercy.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:25:32 PM

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I dont have too much helpful advice here, though I have had two partners who had cancer, one who I went through chemo with her 3 times (12 rounds) and the other who is going through it now. All I can say is hydrate as much as possible, when you are in between rounds he will feel up and down, but its important he rests A LOT, and not try to push himself, also watch for depression, if he is used to being active and isnt able to kick the fatigue he will probablly get frusterated and depressed...Its hard and I am so sorry to hear you are going through it...just stick by him, love him, let him know when he is weak he is not weak to you...Good luck I will keep you both in my prayers

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:26:37 PM

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You might want to read Lance Armstrong's book "It's Not About The Bike" for his experiences with chemo. It might help ease both of your minds a bit.

Best wishes!

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:27:30 PM

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My man starts chemo tomorrow. I'm completely frightened and freaked out. it's not the way we want to heal him, but he has an aggressive form of Non-Hodgkins lymphoma and we can't risk running out of time. If anyone has any advice on how to weather this the best, we'd appreciate it. He plans on juicing throughout because we figure he'll be able to digest that better. We'll find out if that's true and can change that if it doesn't work. He also plans on detoxing his body afterwards. He is sickened by the thought of puposefully putting those poisons into his body. But we can't take the chance. Supposedly the type he has responds extremely well to chemo and has a successful cure rate. I'm just rambling at this point. I'm on the edge of panic.

I am so sorry, my friend *hugsssss*

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:27:58 PM

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I'm sorry Aileen. I can't tell you what type they went through, but I do have several friends that has non-hodgkins lymphoma and are in complete remission now after chemo. My best wishes to you and him.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:28:39 PM

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No advise for you but good luck and hugs are sent your way.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:34:45 PM

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Thanks all for the words. My mind os just going a mile a minute and it has been for the past few months. This is the main reason I deleted my original profile was to just regroup.

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I'm sorry Aileen. I can't tell you what type they went through, but I do have several friends that has non-hodgkins lymphoma and are in complete remission now after chemo. My best wishes to you and him.

Laurell...the only reason he decided to go through with the chemo was when his oncologist point blank told him that the biggest shame would be if a man his age died from a curable disease. He is lucky in that it is one of the curable ones. We're just scared and don't know what to expect. I figured the broad base of people here would have some experience and it seems that once again the cm people come through.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:39:22 PM

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Well first of all you are both in my prayers. My aunt had the same and my mother has had chemo several times for other forms of cancer. My aunt after a treatment would go home and sleep for a few hours and feel like she had the flu as did my mother who was on very aggressive chemo. Yes, chemo is strong stuff and it needs to kill off a lot to kill off what we want it to. That being said, today's chemotherapy is not like yesterday's. Should he become ill following them there are many good medications out there with minimal side effects which can ease or erase the symptoms. I have treated many who I sent to oncologists for, what turned out to be, chemotherapy and most weather it quite well.

A whole body approach helps immensely. Up the antioxidants radically in foods eaten such as blueberries and pomegranate juice. Eat a well balanced diet and as much of it organic if you can. Good vitamin C support and a very good mulitvitamin as chemo leaches vitamins from the system. Very warm showers, cool showers for fever. Plenty of sleep and exercise such as walking or simply loads of fresh air as tolerated by him. Traditional Medicinals Ginger Tea is wonderfully soothing as well as immune system boosting and helps stomach upset. No peppermint tea for stomach upset as it relaxes the stomach's sphincter and can allow acid to flow upward.

Keeping a journal is also excellent to do where he can write all of the good and bad things to his illness and chemotherapy, same for you.

I am happy to report that both my aunt and mother are fine and have been for 17 years each now. Should you want to talk I am here and check my messages daily.

I Wish You Both Peace and Wellbeing,

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:50:42 PM

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Okay, first of all, if you are catching it early enough, your Doc is absolutely right. Although chemo is a trial on you both, the decades of life you are almost certain to gain is well worth the struggle. I've had two close relatives undergo this treatment, and yes, it can be difficult as hell. But please try to remember, the difficult times are temporary, and once he has recovered you will both, in all likelyhood, be a good deal closer.

I remember reading Campbell's "Hero With 1000 Faces" and the part about how the hero's journey inevitably takes him through a dark place, only to emerge on the other side trimuphant and trancendant. This is both his, and your dark place. Confront the threat, fight, and win! Take a deep breath, tell each other that nothing is going to drive you away from one another, and work your way through it.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 7:57:16 PM

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Yay, Aileen, What a great idea to post about this. You're already hearing success stories about other survivors of non-hodgkins lymphoma. I think you'll get a lot of support here, and hopefully more people with knowledge of this will come forward to post.

The outlook is bright. : )

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 8:12:29 PM

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My father beat it, and he was in a weakened state when he went through it. Natural detox, and melotonin should help quite a bit. Many people do not realize the benfits of melotonin http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/melatonin/NS_patient-melatonin

Positive thoughts hekped my Dad, and I am positive they will help your SO as well.

Live well,
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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 8:22:57 PM

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If you have not already begun one, consider starting a MEDICAL journal and take it to every appointment, every treatment, etc.. Keep details of treatments, drugs, amounts, prescriptions started, prescriptions stopped, etc. Sometimes things just become a blur, and the details get fuzzy. If the doctor says, "are you still taking XXXX once a day?" you can open the medical journal and look at the current list of meds to confirm.

Good luck to both of you.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 8:26:20 PM

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Best of luck to you! My dad and several friends have been down the chemo trail, and it was very hard, but it worked. It is very important that your man keep his strength up, keep EATING a little at a time, keep drinking, do all the things to keep his body healthy in spite of being poisoned.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 8:50:06 PM

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quote:

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A whole body approach helps immensely. Up the antioxidants radically in foods eaten such as blueberries and pomegranate juice. Eat a well balanced diet and as much of it organic if you can.

I second this, I have a friend whose father is undergoing chemo and that is what the City of Hope drs. told him...up the antioxidants.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 9:14:22 PM

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Both Cancer and Chemo suck.

I really hate Chemo, Radiation, and there side effects. I wish there was a better treatment and cure but nothing else has yet to have a better garuntee.

Do anything and everything you can to keep up his ammune system. Stay away from most Protien and Muscle Bulk shakes unless recommended by your Dr. Also, be sure he drinks Green Tea, Ginsing, and other herbal substances. They may not help, but herbal drinks normally don't hurt.

Feel free to look into Chemo Treatments in Mexico. There is one technique where you are placed in a white sterile room. They nuke you with more than enough Chemo to kill the cancer and your immune system. I hear that it takes about six to eight weeks before you can safely leave the white room/facility.

Any how, you and yours will be in my prayers.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 9:36:03 PM

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Hi Aileen

I found this organizational resource on the web- it may help focus you on doing something positive-
http://www.chemotherapy.com/organizing_info/tools.jsp\

They've gotten better at monitoring the doses over the years- which both improves the success rate and reduces the side effects. Chemotherapy is effectively titrating the patient- you want to kill the cancer before it gets the patient. This means that sticking to a treatment regimen improves your odds- please don't second guess and start changing doses without your doctor's approval. I'm sure your smart enough to have figured this out so I'm being redundant here- but non-compliance can be really problematic.

The biggest problem with side effects is likely going to be a weakened immune system due to the chemo. There are some white cell count boosters that may work on a prophylactic basis.

Please keep track of all the herbal remedies and discuss them with your doctor. This includes pills, vitamins, teas- everything. You want to make sure that nothing he's taking is going to have an adverse reaction with the chemo. If you can reduce allergen count- maybe with filtered air- that may be a help too.

The last bit of advice may be the toughest to take. Immune systems respond to stress- he needs to be in a stress free environment. This means that you can't transmit your fears to him- it's not going to be helpful although this may be a tall order. Maybe consider getting some outside help to deal with dishes, laundry etc? You need to focus on what will help you relax now too- you're his support here, and it'll help.

Best of luck

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 9:37:56 PM

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Positive thoughts never hurt anybody Aileen. I'll be sending some to you and yours. Beyond that, I can't add anything.

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 10:02:29 PM

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I'll prey for him Aileen, I know 2 people who got lymphoma, both went through chemo, one is cured, the other is still battling it.
He's youg and strong, got your strength to add. He'll do fine! God Bless!

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RE: Chemo - 12/25/2007 10:14:40 PM

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I wish there was something that I could add other than well wishes. My brother in law (whom I have known since I was 15) may have a cancerous tumor on his spine, this has happened rather suddenly, and he goes to the oncologist next week. He is only 45.

Like I said, you and your man will be in my thoughts, and know that you are not alone, people live with cancer and are cured of it every day.

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