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RE: Simple query asking for insight. - 12/28/2007 3:31:11 PM

trueshadow

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I'd suggest attending a few play parties after you've attended a few munches. Watching others play can really be instructive. Be sure to be quiet an observant and not intrusive, which you might feel like doing since you are excited about the lifestyle. Take it in a cautious manner, and remember to approach any relationship as you would vanilla style. Also, listen to your gut feelings. If you hesitate, then it's probably not right for you.

Be safe above all else.

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RE: Simple query asking for insight. - 12/28/2007 3:45:49 PM

jakeskajira

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I suppose when I initially realized I wanted this lifestyle out of the bedroom and 24/7 with my husband, I was in a shocked state, for 6 months I did nothing but research research research... ask questions, did my best to educate myself and after about 6 months of research, I finally felt ready to tell him. and then I did jump in with both feet, but with my eyes wide up. --- and waited for his response LOL (I emailed it to him rather then telling him face to face... while he was at WORK no less... man I was a chicken.)

Just be smart, you can do things with your eyes wide open, just don't settle for "anyone"... make sure you make informed educated decisions..you can be excited and hyper and any other of the frenzy symptoms, as long as you make sure you protect yourself, and be aware of anyone you get invovled with, make sure they are willing to take it slow and let it "wear off" to make sure it is what you really want, don't get yourself into a situationy ou can't get out of...

Is it just the kink play side of the lifestyle? or the power exchange, mental/emotional aspect you crave? The first can happen easily, goto munches, people always like new meat to beat on, and it takes time to get invited to private play parties... remember to talk to the people before oyu play, make sure you understand each other and are on the same playing field...

if it is the second, that takes time... going into a Dom/sub or Master/slave power exchange relationship outside of just the kink play.. can take weeks.. months.. even years to cultivate. it is a never ending journey.. always a work in progress....

Just make sure you know what you want, go in with your eyes and ears open and make rational logical decisions.

I would read everything you can possibly get your hands on... a great starting point is this site : http://www.enslavement.org.uk/iefaq

regards, slave emma

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