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RE: How to address a submissive the first email? - 12/26/2007 12:26:23 PM

Maya2001

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From a former post which covers a lot of the complaints subs have with doms addressing them by email

A "hint" for Doms looking for subs...http://www.collarchat.com/m_346909/mpage_1/tm.htm

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RE: How to address a submissive the first email? - 12/26/2007 12:50:29 PM

CalifChick

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While I prefer someone to say "Hi Cali" or "Hey Cali", I don't mind if they just start off with whatever is on their mind, as long as it is obvious that they are really speaking to ME, such as "I saw what you wrote in the forums about (whatever), and I just had to say...."

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RE: How to address a submissive the first email? - 12/26/2007 1:18:52 PM

DomMeinCT

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I don't think it's too much to ask for "Hello" and my username (capitalized just as I have it, thanks).

Creepiest thing I get? Someone who asks right off the bat where I live. Why would I tell that to a complete stranger when it's clear it's omitted from the profile.

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RE: How to address a submissive the first email? - 12/26/2007 2:25:55 PM

subsong

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    I find being approached by someone friendly , non-suggestive , assertive , and polite works best for me   ( same as if in person ) .    Acceptable :    " Hi ss , or subsong , or song , or beautiful - or just "Hello" , or " I enjoyed reading your profile ( along with some indication that they actually DID ! ) " , etc .

     Turn-offs are being overly familiar - or just too much too soon - "darling/lover/slut/subbie" ( ick , I so don't like the word subbie ) ...
       And there's nothing particularly flattering about someone obsessing over a body part in a picture - so much so , that that becomes all they want to talk about . Ugh.

     I really like when someone takes the time to write and SAY something , instead of just " Hi" , or "How ya doin ?" - or "nice legs" .   Or if they have a specific question for me about something they saw in my profile .   It helps to have something to respond TO - something conversational that begins real communication !

    And I completely agree with earlier posters - good spelling and grammar show caring and intelligence , and are very appealing to me !

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RE: How to address a submissive the first email? - 12/26/2007 2:49:10 PM

BBWnNC72

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i can tell You how not to message a submissive!!
i recently got a message that stated "i want to cum in you, i want to get to know you"
of course that got the responce "it is obvious that you did not read my profile at all or you would have known that would NOT get a positive responce"
i then got another message that read "i want to cum in you, i want to get to know you"
which then got the responce "welcome to loserville, population one" "*brought to you by the letters F and U and the number 2*"
i didnt get a responce back, LOL

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RE: How to address a submissive the first email? - 12/26/2007 3:03:23 PM

trueshadow

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I agree that a nice, friendly first e-mail (and second and third) are appropriate. However, I do melt when a Domme calls me a boy or a sub or demands that I address her in a particular way.

I take orders well, and respond well to an assertive tone.

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