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RE: A trend? - 12/27/2007 3:51:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: Rover

I haven't noticed this to be a phenomena directly related to chronological age so much as experience and provincialism. In other words, there exists a vast difference between fantasy/theory and practical reality as it relates to actually engaging in power exchange relationships. They are generally inversely proportional to the passage of time and isolation (ie: the more you know and are exposed to, the less you tend to buy into the fantasy/theory).

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RE: A trend? - 12/27/2007 3:53:12 PM

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I'm not dead set on changing anyone. When I say I accept you as is.. i mean. the one man I do love, is at times the biggest prick you will ever encounter, and still... it is him whom i love and chase.

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RE: A trend? - 12/27/2007 4:06:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty
Young doms are in general, by force of logic and simple math, less experienced than older doms.

Strange logic and maths but I'm glad you qualified it by saying 'in general'.

I've seen plenty of people venturing to do things now they only fantasised about when they were younger and it was less socially acceptable, not that it is vastly more socially acceptable now but fewer people are persecuted by the law at least.

How long have some of modern tools of BDSM been around anyway, long enough for older Doms to gain a great deal more experience using them? I'm no expert on this I just assume technology never stands still and there is always a new experience to be tried.

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RE: A trend? - 12/27/2007 4:54:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: heartsemerge

Thank you lady hugs. I guess it does depend on the experiences and the individual themselves, not age. As someone said earlier in the thread there is a line between asshole and Dom. Some just do not know where that line is.

Psst, hi. I think a good measure is how someone adjusts to a reality that is based on a fantasy. If he is determined to lock himself in fantasy mode, instead of respecting you as a real person with unpredictabilities, then...well you know what happens!

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RE: A trend? - 12/27/2007 4:59:11 PM

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I do know, as you know.. I know? lol.... ty

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RE: A trend? - 12/30/2007 7:20:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: heartsemerge

I notice that younger Doms tend to think slaves are doormats and have no rights. While older Doms view submission as a gift, and view that the sub has the right to give her submission and to voice her feelings when things make her feel uncomfortable. I just want to get some opinions and feedback on why you may think this is happening, and if you too are noticing it. It seems that the younger the Dom, the less respect they have towards a slave.

Hello heartsemerge. In what context? Play? LTR? Casual sex?

If you are speaking about a lifestyle in which you have consenting adults, 50% of the equation (subs) seems to desire to be "objectified" when they are young (they actually want to be doormats and treated as if they had no rights)?

It seems the younger the sub, the less self respect? Unless their starting kink is to be objectified? If none of the newbie subs consented to be a doormat with no rights, there would not be ''younger Doms that tend to think slaves are doormats and have no rights.'' Get it? Older subs and doms do. Maybe that is what you are seeing in the respect department.

I think young ''vanillas'' have the same perceptions that you do, it is a question of self respect. When you set limits for yourself first, it is easier to attract ''respectful'' compatible partners. Right?

I think it is too easy for subs to blame doms for their own shortcomings. It is not a young dom issue, it is a responsibility issue. Many young dom are respectful and a lot of old doms not, just read the posts.RL.

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RE: A trend? - 12/30/2007 11:43:34 AM

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I haven't noticed a big change in how we Masters feel about their special one. There have always been extremes in how couples interact. There has always been DOM's that treat their subs badly, and there have always been subs that crave that treatment.

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RE: A trend? - 12/30/2007 4:15:26 PM

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Perhaps we're better able to tell the fantasy from the bullshit.

Put another way, we have more experience differentiating what people want and say they want, what they'd like to get and what they can really get.

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RE: A trend? - 1/1/2008 10:35:52 PM

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Youth brings inexperience. Age SOMETIMES brings wisdom.

The "gift fo submission" means nothing to a dom like myself and many others.Who do you think you are?!

On that note I bring the gift of TOTAL DOMINATION!!!

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