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mean on the other side you could say that someone in their 20's can spring back easier, heals faster, can take more because they are younger, they could learn faster, they could adapt easier and aren't as stuck in their ways.. I mean age at any age has its advantages and disadvantages...

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ORIGINAL: jakeskajira

I read reading a thead on here and was wondering why young Dominants and submissives are being put down so much?

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Lucious, I do agree that as you age, your sexual prime getsBETTER (not older better, stupid dyslexia, sorry fixed that typo!), my sexuality has only gotten "more" as i've aged, and I started having sex at a very young age. I haven't quite decided if I like quantity, or quality at my age more since orgasms to me aren't nessecarily an intregal part of sex for me... but the more I get laid the happier I am LOL (luckily my Master has a huge sex drive himself LOL) I heard a woman's sexual prime starts around 35 ... and that it was her "biological" clock ticking.. (at least thats how scientists explain the increased sex drive in women in their 30's... but it might just be because they stop caring what everyone else thinks and realize they enjoy sex and their own sexuality!)

I know personally, I married older, for many reason's. Mostly because I can't relate to most people my own age.... Master is 13 years older than I am. I really do respect and admire people older then myself, I spent my whole life around people older than myself, but they also learned from me too, you know? a friendship, or relationship of any sort isn't usually just one sided.

Though, I will say, the last 2 years of being married, and a slave have gone a long way from teaching me to control my temper, my outbursts, and my sarcasm. (Which I have plenty of... I just am not allowed to be an asshat. *chuckles..* usually anyways... )

Regards, well wishes and I hope you guys all have a wonderful new years!

slave emma

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apologize if it came off as bashing, that was not my intent, but stastically, the "older" you are, the harder it is to change habits, or change in general when you get set in your ways.  (statstically... it gets harder to "change" as you age, at least thats what I was always taught in my psych classes. -- habits are easier to change when you are younger, and the longer you do them, the harder it gets to break them. -- this is what I meant by adapt. I will try to be mores specific in the future to prevent any miscommunication!)

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well, I can tell you, The Orgasms will get better. This I garantee!

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I can't speak for everyone, but it may be the case that as people get older, the younger start to get younger. I'm only 21, but even I have noticed this.

An example of this from my experience is when I was in junior school. When I was in year 2 (roughly about 6 or 7 years old) all the kids in the top years seemed so much older and more mature than me. As I grew up, went from year 2 to year 3, then onto years 4, 5 and 6 I became very confused - I remembered how tall and mature the older kids had seemed when I was in year 2, and I couldn't understand why I wasn't the same. I thought the older kids had been getting younger and younger as I'd moved up the grades, but it wasn't until I looked at the then year 2s and realised that they looked so little. You don't notice yourself age so much, but you certainly notice the young people around you getting younger and younger.

Another very simple example... when I was about 14 I had a crush on someone, and all the adults around me used to smile at me really patronisingly and say "awww, isn't that cute?". It infuriated me at the time because I was so adamant that I was in love with this girl, and this was the one I was going to spend the rest of my life with. I was so angry that they wouldn't take me seriously, because I was not a child, dammit!!!!

And now... well... now I look at 14 year olds, professing their undying love to so-and-so, saying that this one is forever, and I smile, and I think "awww, isn't that cute?"

I didn't really notice much change in myself between the ages of 14 and 21, but I notice how much younger 14 year olds look to me, now, and there's a shockingly big difference.

I think that might be part of the reason some older people aren't too keen on the idea of younger people being into BDSM. I think it's a knee-jerk reaction to the age difference. Plus, a lot of people from older generations didn't have things like the internet when they were younger, where they could read and learn about the lifestyle. A lot of people had no opportunity to get into it at a younger age because of that. A lot of people were introduced to it later in life.

Like I said, I'm 21, turning 22 next month, and I have been into the lifestyle for about 3 years, now. I started reading and learning about BDSM from about the age of 15. I don't think I, or anyone else my age, is any less worthy of being taken seriously than someone who has been into the scene for 20 years. I may have less experience, but I am here because I have a true passion and love for the lifestyle, and I treat it very respectfully. As long as that's the reason younger people are on the scene, they deserve the same respect as everyone else. :)

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well, I can tell you, The Orgasms will get better. This I garantee!

Ha!  No kidding.

As for "bouncing back more quickly", I can certainly say that in my 20s and 30s I was ridgid, filled with apprehension and inhibitions, and much more narrow minded.  In my 20s and 30s I would not have been able to bounce back from the traumas I went through last year, quite as smoothly as I did.  I find the older I am, the more open minded I become, the less fearful I become, and the more flexible and adaptable to change I become. 

I do not judge others based on their age.  I have friends in their 20s and friends in their 60s.  I accept people into my world based on their philosophies, energy, approach to live, and ability to love.

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

well, I can tell you, The Orgasms will get better. This I garantee!

Ha!  No kidding.

As for "bouncing back more quickly", I can certainly say that in my 20s and 30s I was ridgid, filled with apprehension and inhibitions, and much more narrow minded.  In my 20s and 30s I would not have been able to bounce back from the traumas I went through last year, quite as smoothly as I did.  I find the older I am, the more open minded I become, the less fearful I become, and the more flexible and adaptable to change I become. 

I do not judge others based on their age.  I have friends in their 20s and friends in their 60s.  I accept people into my world based on their philosophies, energy, approach to live, and ability to love.

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We have never judged you on your age. You are mature and respectful and never whiny or chest thumping or any of those things that make us roll our eyes.

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ownedgirlie : I do understand exactly what are saying about apprehension, and narrowminded ness, this is why some people who are drawn to this lifestyle can't truely let go enough to do it, because they aren't "ready"... but that could mean they are 20.. or 45... that again is a "ready" thing in my mind.. (I could be totally mid understanding what your saying..) but Im afraid all the time, I am just willing to face my fear. which is what you mean right? you meet it head on? some people NEVER find the strength to do that... your a strong woman, I respect that.

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ownedgirlie : I do understand exactly what are saying about apprehension, and narrowminded ness, this is why some people who are drawn to this lifestyle can't truely let go enough to do it, because they aren't "ready"... but that could mean they are 20.. or 45... that again is a "ready" thing in my mind.. (I could be totally mid understanding what your saying..) but Im afraid all the time, I am just willing to face my fear. which is what you mean right? you meet it head on? some people NEVER find the strength to do that... your a strong woman, I respect that.

I misunderstood - physically vs. emotionally/mentally.  While you may be mostly correct about that, would you agree that that is a generalization, and not a universal truth for all?

As for fear, I have sought my fears and faced them head on.  That's the only way for me to overcome them and move beyond them.  I was once talking to a close friend about coming up against an internal wall and not yet figuring out how to get over, around or under it.  She advised me to do none of the above; rather to burst through it so it no longer exists.  And that's a practice I have routinely engaged in, when encountering fears that hold me back.  It's really quite liberating. 

In my 20s, I was too busy actually building those walls and then running away from them.  :)

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As long as that's the reason younger people are on the scene, they deserve the same respect as everyone else. :)

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then there is that chip that a load of them have most people on here at 40 just walked into the life so know even less than someone at 20 whos been working it for 5 years.

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but thats just what ive seen an if yall dont like it well blow me

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick
And I surely didn't post in a forum demanding to know why I wasn't taken seriously as a Dominant (several recent threads), pitching a stomping little fit.

Was the internet around then?