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RE: Transference and D/s - 12/30/2007 3:46:35 PM

hejira92

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I dunno,the idea of being identified with someone's father is kinda squicky to me...........

Prepared to be squicked, most love relationships will eventually have one partner or the other have parental transference...So the likelihood that this has happened in one of your past long term relationships is rather high

ewww..

I remember Master telling me of the girl before me; she had once said to Him "I wish you were my father". He had never been so squicked in His life. But after getting involved with me, He began to see the paternal side of ownership and the transference that naturally happens.

I had many issues to deal with concerning my father. Physically, Master is very much like him- the first man I've ever been with who is (in the past I've chosen the physical opposite type, but with all the psychological problems)- so one of the first deep issues we dealt with was my transference issues. I had to face head-on the the reactions I might have being sexually handled by someone who felt so much like my father (I had been abused). We both learned a great deal and the trust that we established has stood us well through other difficulties since. Master now understands and incorporates the "Daddy" aspects of owning me and I can acknowledge my past without being a slave to it.

I think knowing that tranference happens and examining the underlying lying issues can be extremely helpful in establishing a healthy D/s relationship. For me, being open to it has been theraputic and healing. And one of the benefits of D/s. But just MHO.

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