Sabella
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We don't discuss directly beforehand what is going to occur. He digs pretty hard in my head for my "buttons". This has taken years, literally LOL because I've HAD a "speaker's block" about revealing things I find erotic. Once that wall starts coming down tho watch out! So usually the introduction of the scene may start DAYS before we even begin as he starts working on a particular interest or fantasy - getting us both hyped up about it.
Have you tried journaling? Try starting one that's just fantasies. What's in your HEAD, what twists your kinks - no matter how bizarre or mundane. What are you thinking, feeling, what sensations, colors, settings make you zip? Is it just you two? are there more people involved in your fantasies? Initially putting it down may be very hard and feel incredibly awkward - that's ok. The more you do it the easier it WILL get. Work on giving more information verbally "I LOVE it when you do that" is a great start. That's not directing, that's offering genuine appreciation.
Reading erotica is helpful as well, there may be tons of things out there that you have no clue about until you find out! It's like trying a new fruit that you've never heard of, never know til ya try ;)
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“The giant Grof was hit in one eye by a stone,
and that eye turned inward so that it looked into his mind and he died of what he saw there.”
From The Forgotten Beasts of Eld, by Patricia A. McKillip
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