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cellogrrlMK -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 8:16:10 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I'm a submissive collared to my Master 24/7. It may be a regional thing, but our circle of friends consists of a majority of submissives in 24/7 relationships.



Me too.... collared AND married, so we are together all the time..... and while he calls me his "slave" I do have a life and a career which I know he is proud of. I'll ask his opinion on certain career things, but he also knows I know way more about it than he does and more often than not he agrees with the choices I make.

Does that make me a "slavissive" or a "sublave"? LOL

cello



cellogrrlMK -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 8:17:51 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DesertRat

Recognizing a weakness--like poor spelling--and working on improving it shows strength, in my opinion. Conversely, acknowledging it and taking no action suggests laziness. If I were a slave, I would not want a lazy Dom/Domme.

Bob


DAMN you're good Bob! [;)]

cello



RiotGirl -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 8:22:00 AM)

some one who knows what they are doing



whippedattitude -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 8:32:29 AM)

i look for the one who offers a rich environment on a few different levels. The first being a place where it is safe to just be *me* to exercise my slave hood bound with an outlet for my masochist tendencies. Secondly i seek someone who will push me to make me an all around better person. Lastly i only play and operate in a DRAMA free zone, if you cant Master yourself we are going to have MAJOR issues..

Warmly~m~
It’s all about the attitude



Angrylibrarian -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 8:35:05 AM)

You might also consider not going straight to ‘slave’. There are probably plenty of places to meet women in your area and most women have at least a little submissive in them (especially in the bedroom). Find your local groups, do some driving to a nearby city where there are a lot more people involved in this life, try meeting women face to face. (Take the time for both of you to enjoy a relationship where you can both actively seek out another partner together and separately without hating each other!) Along the way you are bound to meet one if not more women who are not horrified to date two people. Treat it like a regular relationship where you actually have to romance and get to know a girl and not only will the end result arrangement be more satisfactory, the getting there will be much better.

Sites like these have spoiled us a little into believing we can order up our beasts (just like in the good old days! or now days if you travel to Thailand or Romania). It's better if you just use this site to meet and explore and talk and not set your vision on the end product. Look for play partners and treat them right. That's how you show you are a good owner.

Be discreet as is right for your life but don't be ashamed. Example; I'm at this bar and there a girl there I used to know. We get talking and there’s a little something there and we get around to the "do you have a girlfriend?" So I say, yes. I live with two women, actually slave girls. I'm sure you've heard of that sort of thing (I say into the widening eyes), I mean how could you not have heard of such things. " It was a very good evening and she still calls.

Trust me, people are a lot more open then you think and they have rich fantasy lives. The number of truly uptight ass hats is small. Thank whichever deity you worship for that one.



pinkpleasures -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 9:28:05 AM)

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Hi pink. Am sitting here fresh out of the fastest bath you have ever seen and almost nakid <RWL> Well knees are wrapped...

IronBear


O, yum, yum, yum. i think W/we should declare a "Naked Dom and Master Day", when all the Doms and Masters must be naked whilst posting. Digital and video proof required, LMAO.

Gawd..Men are sooooooo sexy when They have Brains and Kindness.

pinkpleasures

p.s. Thank You for Your kind answer to my "collar" question, Sir.

p.p.s. The "Naked Dom and Master Day" suggestion is a joke...a running gag from another chat site. Let no Man get His boxers/briefs in a twist, please. LMAO.



NakedOnMyChain -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 9:39:43 AM)

Just be yourselves. It's a fairly specific field of people looking to be owned by a couple, so that narrows it down in and of itself. There are people looking for that type of relationship, but sometimes you need to actively seek them out, instead of waiting for them to come to you. I don't think it's fair to say that slaves don't like you because you don't lie and are down to earth. Keep in mind that you can be wonderful people, and the attraction might just not be there. Just be yourselves and keep fishing.



quietlilone -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 9:59:45 AM)

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You might have better luck participating here on the boards (with posts other than yet another "why can't I get a date" post). Many of the more serious minded (read not just looking for quick sex) people on the site do. Maybe you'll meet one of them



Wow, I can't believe I am actually going to put this...I would have to agree with you Leonidas. I have found out more about the ppl on collarme through the board then through mail. Very good suggestion.



Now where's my chocolate? *wink*



pinkpleasures -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 10:07:42 AM)

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You might have better luck participating here on the boards (with posts other than yet another "why can't I get a date" post). Many of the more serious minded (read not just looking for quick sex) people on the site do. Maybe you'll meet one of them.

Good luck.

Leonidas


Sir; i respectfuly disagree. None of the Doms and Masters i am friends with before i came to the boards are on the boards themselves. Some are in chat (especially user-created rooms); some just use the "search" function under "Home". i see no difference in the caliber of Men or women regardless.

pinkpleasures



justatoy2 -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 10:27:08 AM)

well i certainly can't speak for all slaves or for anyone other than myself. But i can say this....i don't know a great deal of slaves that are actively seeking a couple. Most want a one on one relationship, not to be a play thing for a couple that are already involved. It makes me think, just what is in it for the person comming into an already established relationship. But then we get into the whole poly discussion, etc. Perhaps your best best would be to get involved with local groups and try to find someone that way. Your chance of finding what you are looking for through a personal ad o/l are slim. Good luck.



Leonidas -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 5:31:50 PM)

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Now where's my chocolate? *wink*


Why, it's in Long Beach, California. Didn't you know?



OscarHargraves -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 5:36:44 PM)

Again DR, Well said.

A person's spelling and grammar here are often the first impression that someone else gets of that person. What kind of a first impression do these people want to make?



sanita -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 7:33:46 PM)

i am agreeing with Fawne here.

kinkyohiocpl, You may have everything in place to be the perfect fit for some slave out there. but a slave browsing would not know it from Your profile.

imagine going to a bookstore, and browsing books. the ones that get a bit more attention, that actually get cracked open, and a few pages read, are the ones with interesting stuff on the jacket or back cover.

ok, and sometimes the ones with interesting illustrations on the front cover... but those also usually give more information about what the book is about.

of course, there are the books with just a picture of a crop, or a quirt, or a rope on the front, which, when i look more closely, turn out to be novels about horse racing.

by all means, hold to Your standards, and be honest and down to earth. but know that there are so many facets in this lifestyle, that sometimes a sub, or slave, or bottom, or sammy just wants to know if they'll be interested in Your genre. what are You looking for? what are You offering? what are You demanding? and what will win Your pleasure, if that is what Your slave will be providing?

here's hoping You find what You are looking for.

edited 'cause yarghhhhh!



LadyNyneve -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 8:02:32 PM)

I would have to wholeheartedly agree with OsideGirl. It took my partner and myself years to find a service slave to introduce into our relationship. The true slave personality looks naturally for strength and confidence and your profile does not convincingly convey either of those traits. It is extraordinarily difficult to manage the needs and very intense human emotions that the poly relationship brings. Above all things, the poly relationship requires vast amounts of patience; the opening post to this thread suggest that perhaps that something you might need to address as well.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

I'm a submissive collared to my Master 24/7. It may be a regional thing, but our circle of friends consists of a majority of submissives in 24/7 relationships.

To the OP:

I guess the first thing is that men outbumber women 3 to 1 in this lifestyle. So, after you've taken out the Dominant females, the number of women that are interested in couples is very small. Because of that, it's difficult to find the person to fit your relationship. It took us 3 years to find the right person for us.

Even though you're both Dominant, this is still a poly relationship and you will need to deal with the issues that a poly relationship brings up. Some of those issues are what keep submissives from poly relationships.

Good luck in your search.





kinkyohiocpl -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 9:02:03 PM)

Profile has been updated or is in the process of being updated. You can all chime in once it is approved and you can check it out.



zaynab -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 10:29:29 PM)

Hi IronBear Sir,
From what I've seen so far on this site, most people have different versions of what a name, label, activity, etc. etc. etc., means. Someone will tell me what a sub or a slave really means, and someone else will tell me the exact opposite.

To me, the word slave sounds sexier but the word sub has less letters to type. So, I'm a sub. *smile



IronBear -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/23/2005 10:36:36 PM)

Hi zaynab, The answer to that is as varied as there Dominants and submissives/slaves. For me a slave is measured along Gorean standards but that is no the case for everybody.



apricott -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/24/2005 4:20:43 PM)

We feel the same way.
As a slave see's our profile,
What is it that makes them say no way.
I mean I do not expect that every slave is for every dom but what is it they are looking for?
I am also not saying that we have it or can even provide it.
it would just be nice to get some input.
April



MstrHellsFury -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/24/2005 4:49:15 PM)

well I guess I'm a day late and a dollar short on this one...seems like the opinions expressed pretty much cover the gamet..from lack of information to spelling...so I'm not gonna add anything new or insightful..although I did think of anothre reason..but you have enough on your plate to digest for now...take little bites...


Fury



pinkpleasures -> RE: What in the world do slaves want. (8/25/2005 4:20:01 PM)

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well I guess I'm a day late and a dollar short on this one...seems like the opinions expressed pretty much cover the gamet..from lack of information to spelling...so I'm not gonna add anything new or insightful..although I did think of anothre reason..but you have enough on your plate to digest for now...take little bites...


Fury


i have spoken before on my attitude concerning spelling errors/acronyms/grammatical errors, etc. Generally the person posting can be understood; has communicated an idea; and deserves to be responded to substantively, without A/anyone criticising his/her errors as a way of dismissing the post/person. E/everyone can read a certain amount of typonese; and if Y/you really cannot understand the post, Y/you can always ask for clarification.

Not E/everyone here has a college education, and that is totally immaterial to the value of T/their opinions.

The bottom line is all the members deserve respect unless/until T/they say something beyond the pale; and then just don't answer; the Mods can handle it.

pinkpleasures



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