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How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/23/2005 5:19:13 AM   
loveandhonesty


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Status: offline 		Dear, Strong Lady’s


I notice that i find it difficult to respond on a profile listed on Collarme.com.

When i read that the Lady’s receive 40 or more e-mails a day, i understand that you must make a hell of an impression to get picked from this e-mails.

I think carefully when i respond, for instance will or can i relocate? ( when you feel the vibe and there is the connection, definitely yes).
Real love crosses all boundaries

Can i fullfill the list of demands, what does the Lady expect from me?

Is there time to develop a relation, or is the Lady’s life so filled, that i am only there to relief the Lady from the stress of the day?

I believe in equality and find strong independent women attractive, i read lots of intelligent witty, comments from the Lady’s

Maybe there are a lot of fakers, but what about the “real” interested people?

Just some thoughts of me,

With warmth, love and respect,

Sincerely, Silvester


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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/24/2005 9:34:59 AM   
LadyAngelika


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Status: offline 		That is a good start. You also have to be patient. Try to be original in your message and you might want to read up on a post such as this one: 10 Steps For Making A Good First Impression

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/24/2005 9:48:41 AM   
MsHoney2you


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Status: offline 		Silvester,
May I suggest you simply be yourself? Explain your wishes, what draws you to a Dominant woman, what appeals to you of her character? Then share from your heart. What is so difficult with being honest? Suggest you toughen up a little, be as honest as you know how to be and jump in. If you are living in a fantasy she will let you know soon enough. If you truly seek to get to know her, the 100% of her, then she needs to know the 100% of you as well.

He who hesitates is lost... (or some such phrase) so jump in and see what happens. Whtat's the worst that can happen? She says no? You still live and breath and move on to the next in your new, totally honest way.

Ms Honey

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/25/2005 4:04:05 AM   
loveandhonesty


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Status: offline 		Dear lady, , Angelika,,

Thank you for replying my topic.
Its important for me to know what a Lady desires, expect, knowing her feelings, share thoughts and i find it very useful to read some guidelines.
Maybe i am wrong, but when i write a letter and following the guidelines, and i receive a lot of e-mails, its not me. I have to be myself and write what i feel from the heart.

With warmth love and respect,

Sincerely Silvester.

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/25/2005 4:05:52 AM   
loveandhonesty


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Status: offline 		Dear Lady, Ms, Honey,

First i have to make a compliment about your appearance, Its strong, confident, humorous and full of life. When i write its me, i can’t be someone else. Every person is unique.
When you find the right match, you know it from the start. I take my time.

With warmth, love and respect,

Sincerely, Silvester

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/25/2005 4:29:14 PM   
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How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady?





on your knees....

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/25/2005 7:37:46 PM   
LadyAngelika


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I have to be myself and write what i feel from the heart.


That's the only way to do it. If that doesn't catch a woman's attention, then she is simply not the woman for you. I believe that if your words are sincere, they will catch the attention of the right woman for you.

- LA

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/28/2005 8:37:02 PM   
lonewolf05


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ORIGINAL: MistressGrace07


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How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady?





on your knees....

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there ARE those on here that wilkl scream bloody murder if ya do that. it isn't proper to behave that way until ya know someone they whine n bitch.

so i dont until i get there in person.
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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/28/2005 10:53:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		We are all different in how we like to we approached, but sincere, and interested in ME, not just any Domme, will catch my attention the quickest...

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/28/2005 11:33:46 PM   
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May I suggest you simply be yourself


quote:


He who hesitates is lost... (or some such phrase) so jump in and see what happens. Whtat's the worst that can happen? She says no? You still live and breath and move on to the next in your new, totally honest way.



I think your on the money for both, Ms Honey... I think out of pure desperation, many try to be ''all things to all women'' and hell.... women can see right through that. I think in more than just being yourself, you need to define exactly what kind of woman you like, and then pull the trigger! With any of life's endeavors, waiting around just doesn't do any good.


- The Ranger


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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/28/2005 11:49:14 PM   
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We are all different in how we like to we approached, but sincere, and interested in ME
My sentiments exactly! Well that and "be yourself"; not so much because I feel everyone is likeable when they are being "real", but you will save us both time, money and energy if we are both honest/ourselves, and find we cannot stand "the real." M

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/29/2005 5:07:53 AM   
LadyAngelika


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I think out of pure desperation, many try to be ''all things to all women'' and hell.... women can see right through that.

Can we ever! I need to feel like *I'm* being courted, not the Domme. I think many forget that there is a human being behind the whip.

- LA

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/29/2005 5:11:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

I think out of pure desperation, many try to be ''all things to all women'' and hell.... women can see right through that.

Can we ever! I need to feel like *I'm* being courted, not the Domme. I think many forget that there is a human being behind the whip.

- LA


So true!

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/29/2005 5:19:20 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

I think out of pure desperation, many try to be ''all things to all women'' and hell.... women can see right through that.

Can we ever! I need to feel like *I'm* being courted, not the Domme. I think many forget that there is a human being behind the whip.

- LA


One of my favorite warnings to submissives is "I am NOT a life support system for a whip"



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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/29/2005 5:20:32 AM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren
One of my favorite warnings to submissives is "I am NOT a life support system for a whip"


Good one! I might borrow that one if you don't mind.

- LA


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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/29/2005 5:32:37 AM   
JohnWarren


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnWarren
One of my favorite warnings to submissives is "I am NOT a life support system for a whip"


Good one! I might borrow that one if you don't mind.

- LA



Feel free to file the serial numbers off and claim it as your own [smile]


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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/29/2005 5:39:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		I use the simple word

Hello :) and send a pic and if they dont reply then I think ahwell and move on...

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/29/2005 5:54:14 AM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		How does one approach a strong dominant lady...

How about just like you would anyone else you are attempting to make a positive impression upon.

In regards to the volumes of emails that these women may receive, yes it is wise to make a good first impression. The best way to do so is actually read what she has to say within her written profile. If she has not provided a great deal of info then you should write a letter that conveys interesting facts about yourself. Do not write paragraph after paragraph of all the kinky little thoughts that you would like to do, have done or fantasize about. Quite a large number of these dominant women would rather know the color of your eyes or the type of food you enjoy or music you listen to or what hobbies you enjoy.

The one thing that irks me is so often I receive a note from someone that will state, "I know I am most likely not what you are looking for...", Hmmm, ok, if you feel you know me so well that you are able to determine my choices for me why bother writing in the first place? Promote negative about yourself & you will receive negative in return. Wouldn't you think that the dominant women receiving such would be just a little miffed that this submissive is already making conclusions for her rather than she making her own ???

I do not browse women's profiles but I gather that many will provide quite a bit of info if people would just take the time to read. I know I do & I also put some info in my profile that I would expect the reader to follow up with in their first communication with me so that I know they took the time to read what I have provided. So often when involved with a real-time relationships instructions & expectations may not always be clearly spelled out & defined so when it is & one doesn't take advantage of precise instructions, it really makes me wonder how they would follow instructions.

MstrssPassion

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/29/2005 10:44:53 AM   
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I use the simple word

Hello :) and send a pic and if they dont reply then I think ahwell and move on...





What are you giving a Domme to reply to...?

That type of email is something I will universally ignore.

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RE: How to approach a Strong, Dominant Lady? - 8/29/2005 10:58:24 AM   
MaitresseEden


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quote:

use the simple word

Hello :) and send a pic and if they dont reply then I think ahwell and move on...



This says :

1. I didn't take the time to read your profile.
2. I shallow and assume people only base there interest in others on physical attractiveness.
3. I'm too lazy to bother making any effort in finding someone who meets me needs.

Messages such as this are a dime a dozen and flood my mail box daily, There are deleted without as much of an afterthought or care. If I recieve multiples like this from the same person, which often happens.. ( I guess they assume that repeat stupidity will score puts the odds in thier favor) I will simply ignore them.

Ms. Eden

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