LadyPact
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This is the second thread I've read today that falls into the catagory of what I'm calling 'they know, but they don't want to know'. In other words, supposedly consent is happening, but the truth is that at least one person doesn't have a clue of what's going on. Now, honestly, how realistic is it that someone who is ignorant of the situation able to give consent?
At best, what you seem to have is a situation of where the primary sub has looked at her situation with her Dominant, and realizes that he has needs. (This is assuming any of what you were told was true.) If she is really that open and understanding of a person, I don't think she's the type to 'hide' from the truth if she suggested and accepted the situation with her Dom and you. If she's invited other females in with her Dom prior, I highly doubt she'd really see you any different light as she did any of the others. Are you beginning to see all of the holes in this particular bit of swiss cheese?
Now, let's take a look at your end. For starters, you didn't go into this with "all eyes open" as you say. Unfortunately, you went into this being fed exactly what he chose to put on a spoon. Now, you seem to have a dish of your own that you would like to serve up. You have some strong alterior motives on your end. Funny how you suddenly have an urge to "serve them both" after you let that bit out about how you've "fallen hard". Your intentions are based on nothing more than the selfishness of wanting more time with him, and very little to do with your background that you probably could be helpful to someone who was ill. No where have I seen any actual consideration or compassion from you in regard to this primary sub. I have to wonder if you've thought about that much.
My suggestion is this: First move, how about everybody start being honest? Start with being honest with yourself about your intentions, your feelings, and your perseptions. Once you have firm ground there, if you're still involved with this Dom, get him to be honest with you about those same things. The primary sub doesn't even have to be included in that part. I'd be willing to bet that if she *is* seriously ill, I'd be willing to venture that there are several medical bills and records of lab tests, etc. If you haven't seen any proof that she, at one time, was willing to 'share' his Dom with others, ask for some pics. He can blur the faces of the females to keep their identity hidden. (Before anyone says a word, I absolutely would do this, after all of the other things that appeared to be bs.) Does he have online correspondence that was ever kept to prove the primary sub consented before?
Once you get those things out of the way, maybe then you could ask if the primary sub might want to meet you, for a simple coffee, among the three of you. If it really is on the up and up, she might be willing to at least say hello, without going into the details.
Maybe if you do all of these, your eyes will really be as open as you would like to claim them to be.
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