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MistressOfGa -> RE: Age Difference on the Path (1/4/2008 12:56:34 PM)
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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince
What is considered a reasonable age difference for a solid D/s relationship?
Indeed there will be the normal "whatever works" inputs, but at core we all operate with a range that we consider appropriate.
Myself being one of the more"elder" of the dominant group have a fairly rigid parameter that will work for a long term relationship, but since so many profiles tend to make age a criteriain their profiles, it a subject for a consensus review.
CP
CP,
I met pup on CM when he was just 18. I am 30 years older than he is. At first we had no problem with age and then we had some and now it just plain doesnt matter. I collared him just before his 19th birthday and he is going on 21 now. We found that at some conventions he couldn't get into, but that didn't bother either of us, since we only go to enjoy the classes and lectures. When I placed his permanent collar on him, I did it with the confidence of a 27 year old. He loves me unconditionally and without question. Recently we have been having problems because as he was "growing up" in our relationship, he was getting more confidence about himself to the point of arrogance. I distain that feature in a submissive. I am re-training him using age regression and humiliation. It is working. I have seen an improvement in him rather quickly. Each new day, he thanks me for believing in him enough to take the time to set things right between us again. But I have wandered off topic, I do that on occassion <s>
I do not think that there should be an age limit. If I had limited myself to subs who were 40 and above, I would have missed out on the best years of my life. But then again, each person is different. What may be too old for one side of the slash, could be a perfect age for another.
If I knew then, what I know now about him, I would do it all over again. He is worth every bit of my training, energy and belief in him. Sometimes he loses sight of the path that we have built together. I don't blame that on his age, I blame it on the real life issues he has. He is in collage and works hard to keep his grades up. I have always told him that "School comes first! Not his Mistress." It works for us. I want him to be the best person in life that he can be and I am proud to have had a hand in developing him.
30 years is a huge age difference, but only if we allow it to be. My family knows of our relationship, they know he is my submissive. But after all these years, they have stopped asking "Why", and are now asking "Why Not?" <s>
ETA: My 50th birthday is tomorrow. I don't feel a day over 30 :)
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