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What should I do? - 1/4/2008 5:04:47 AM   
heartsemerge


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Status: offline 		I seem to have a problem here. You see, everytime that I befriend a new girl, and I tell them and introduce them to my Master, it seems they stop talking to me and proceed to contact him. Now he doesn't ask them to do this, nor is it understood that is how it is suppose to be. I introduce them to him, as a *just* in case we find her interesting and we want to try and seduce her. However, this has happened two times already and I view it as disrespectful towards me. Not on his part, but on theirs. They just stop talking to me all together, and proceed with contacting him. It would be different if they still were talking and were friendly to me. Instead, they totally bypass me, and go straight to him.

Clearly I am bothered by this. So what should I do?
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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 5:06:23 AM   
TreasureKY


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Status: offline 		Stop introducing them.

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 5:08:25 AM   
heartsemerge


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Status: offline 		obviously. But am I overracting, or is this just not ridiculous?

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 5:15:46 AM   
wisteriaV


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Status: offline 		Go to the source and ask the other person you introduced to your Master. Ask them why they stop talking to you and what not.

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 5:18:29 AM   
MsBearlee


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I have experienced several people who find it disrespectful to the Dom to go discussing such 'possibilities' with the slave.  An invite to dinner for both of them would go to the slave to deliver to the Dom, but a request to play would go only to the Dom.  There's sort of an odd protocol-thang going on there.
 
While I tend to agree with you, and prefer to keep my partners involved in the process of getting to know new people, but then I've been told I'm not 'domly' enough.  Go figure...
 
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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 5:23:18 AM   
Wisenlilminx


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Status: offline 		This has happened a lot to us. Many women pretty much ignore my wife once the introductions or play have happend. We write them off as partners. What else can you do?

While I've considered discussing it with the gal, I realize, if she doesn't have a clue, she's not right for us.



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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 5:23:44 AM   
Focus50


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From: Newcastle, Australia
Status: offline 		The fact that your master has you trolling for others on his behalf is likely sending a message that he's looking to "trade up" at the first opportunity.  Small wonder they don't respect the messenger....
 
Damn girl, you're young and pretty yet apparently not enough to satisfy him.  I have another opinion of him but there's no mystery why your actions aren't fostering respect for you as an individual....
 
What you should do is find someone who actually appreciates what he already has - "bird in the hand" and all that....
 
Focus.

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 5:31:24 AM   
BossyShoeBitch


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Status: offline 		that used to happen to me except it was my husband that used to decide he was going to befriend my friend (or family member) without me being in the loop at all..  After a decade or so, it finally  dawned on me that was a no no and was his fault, not theirs.  In your case, the only thing to do would be to not introduce them at all or to tell your friends what has happened in the past and how much it has bothered you.  Maybe they will get the idea and be respectful of your feelings once they meet Him?

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 5:33:02 AM   
ligar59


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Status: offline 		Well, your profile suggests that you want to use these subs as a stepping stone and when you are done getting your "experience", you are going to toss them aside like a disposable camera. I don't think most people are in to being simply used and forgotten. I would suggest that your Master take you down to your local club and see if you can find someone who would just enjoy the possibility of having the experience you are offering, without the expectation of having any kind of long lasting relationship or emotional bond.

Just my .02 worth

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 6:42:35 AM   
came4U


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quote:

I introduce them to him, as a *just* in case we find her interesting and we want to try and seduce her.


Oh I get it now.

So you have this grand sneaky plan that a gal would not be the wiser and it seems these girls aren't playing by your rules.  Gottcha,

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 7:30:09 AM   
divi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: heartsemerge

I seem to have a problem here. You see, everytime that I befriend a new girl, and I tell them and introduce them to my Master, it seems they stop talking to me and proceed to contact him. Now he doesn't ask them to do this, nor is it understood that is how it is suppose to be. I introduce them to him, as a *just* in case we find her interesting and we want to try and seduce her. However, this has happened two times already and I view it as disrespectful towards me. Not on his part, but on theirs. They just stop talking to me all together, and proceed with contacting him. It would be different if they still were talking and were friendly to me. Instead, they totally bypass me, and go straight to him.

Clearly I am bothered by this. So what should I do?


First im gonna say toughen up and well don't introduce people to your Master

Second:
Well this has recently happened to me.. I have a friend who I met and they actually talked up their ex to me about what a great person he was and I fell for him.  It didn't mean to happen it just did. 

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 7:35:20 AM   
divi


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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 8:01:45 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		this slave would encourage you to present the information to Master and ask Him what He thinks you should do.
 
it's what this slave does, and it has worked out fabulously each and every time.
 
personally, if there is going to be another in the mix for any reason, this slave would prefer that they focus on getting to know Master and not worry about chit-chat with the slave.  it is much more important that they get to know what His interests and limits are, as His desires, entertainment, pleasure and potential friendship are what the thrust of any interaction with others would be about.
 
it isn't in this slave's job description to dictate how/when/if others interact with Master...that is for Him to decide and enlighten others about.

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 8:16:04 AM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		I tell any boy that we are talking to that they must be able to get along well with my boy.  Also I expect him to get to know my boy as well, if they don't try they are no serious about joining us and I move on.

Mike

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 8:54:49 AM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		Heartsemerge, I can see that this is frustrating to you. I also would have issues with what you describe. Seriously the very best thing you can do is talk to your "D" type about it, and how you are feeling.

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 9:05:02 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		If these ladies are aware that you and your Master may consider "seducing them" then they do view you as the stepping stone to get to the Dom. Many Dom's have their subs/slaves find other playmates and this is what sometimes happens.

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 9:23:49 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I would say what the others say.  If it is a problem drom't introduce them to your Dom.  Easy way for it not to happen.

Matt's littleone

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 9:33:23 AM   
goodgirl08


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Status: offline 		Interesting, my overwhelming problem so far has been meeting single women and couples who are only interested in ME. Basically they are trying to snatch me away from Master and convince me to play without him which is absolutely not okay. It's really weird.

There was one couple who seemed okay for a while but then, lo and behold, they started to question what Master's 'role' would be in our play...they just didn't see how he fit into it, blah blah...so I told them very nicely that they could feel free to email him and talk to him personally about it. And of course they disappeared.

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 9:44:45 AM   
backseatbebe


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Status: offline 		why hasnt anyone said the Dom should say something?
someone is insulting what is his, yet hes cool with it even when you arent
i suggest the Dom speak up about the errors in other subs ways, since this is something you and your Dom want
i also suggest you discuss the concpet of having a sub sister in more detail with your Dom, are you two equals or are you the alpha sub (or maybe they wil be), etc
because if they cant respect the chain of command, is this someone you really want included in your life

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RE: What should I do? - 1/4/2008 9:59:43 AM   
sakidorei


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Status: offline 		i guess my question would be ... is your motive to introduce them as a second sub or for you to Top them to fulfill your switch side?  If you are looking to investigate topping them yourself with or without your Dom then i'd be very clear with them at the onset that you are exploring YOUR switch side ... not acting as His sub to potentially play as a sub with her and your Dom.  (if that makes sense)  If you are talking to other girls in hopes of switching perhaps you should be a bit more clear and firm about the expectations you have (set with your Dom of course) for interaction with both of you.
 
As to the annoying factor: i've always had female acquaintances who wished to strike up a friendship with me to get to know my Owner ... ~shrugs~ most of the time it's only mildly annoying because i realize they only see me as a stepping stone to get to know Him better and so i keep my expectations low.  i geneally take it with a grain of salt and it really doesn't bother me ... He's a big Man and He can deal with His fans as He sees fit.  It's not for me to run interference for Him and well ... i can't really say that i blame them ... if i think He hung the moon ... i can't really be too surprised that they might as well.  Good luck to you!
 
~saki
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