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tygertoy -> When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 12:51:15 PM)

I've been reading through the profiles, and time and time again I keep seeing the same old thing..."I want kinky sex" and or "must have a stable income" (though poster says nothing about having the same).
Or "Do what i say and worship me, I am everything" (however there is very little mention, if any at all of the submissive having any value). Now maybe its just me, but I thought this was supposed to be a fair exchange for both the submissive and the Dominant.



kc692 -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 12:55:18 PM)

It's kind of hard to respond, when you have no profile to even look at.....



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 12:57:16 PM)

In answer to your subject line- probably the same time it became a "lifestyle" at all.

This is supposed to be whatever makes people fulfilled. If the people respond to those profiles and that's what they want, why do you care? Makes it pretty easy for you to screen out the ones that won't work for you.



tygertoy -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 1:51:24 PM)

I care because im curious and im not completely closed off to another's point of veiw. Looking back at my post, im seeing that I should have worded it alot differently. I didn't mean to come off quite so opinionated.



Lordandmaster -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 2:08:53 PM)

The long-time users on here are a little tired of neophytes coming on and complaining about this and that on their first or second day.



ToBDesired -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 2:32:32 PM)

Where is your post Tygertoy. At least others have come forward with what they want. You don't even have a profile. Sorry, but that's how I see it.



junecleaver -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 2:36:58 PM)

Because some people don't want to play fair. Take it or leave it.



Angrylibrarian -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 2:45:06 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: tygertoy

RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy?



When I got here. Sorry. I'll clean that right up.



pinkpleasures -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 2:56:22 PM)

quote:

I've been reading through the profiles, and time and time again I keep seeing the same old thing..."I want kinky sex" and or "must have a stable income" (though poster says nothing about having the same).
Or "Do what i say and worship me, I am everything" (however there is very little mention, if any at all of the submissive having any value). Now maybe its just me, but I thought this was supposed to be a fair exchange for both the submissive and the Dominant.

tygertoy


Read mine, miss.

http://www.collarme.com/bdsm/v/146902/details.htm

i'd give you other examples, but not without the person's express permission.

pinkpleasures



pinkpleasures -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 2:58:49 PM)

quote:

I care because im curious and im not completely closed off to another's point of veiw. Looking back at my post, im seeing that I should have worded it alot differently. I didn't mean to come off quite so opinionated.

tygertoy


i'm confused then..what's the question?

pinkpleasures



Mariposa -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 3:18:34 PM)

Agreed. Now, this next bit has nothing to do what Emerald just said, but adresses the content of the original post. It says fairly clearly in my profile that I am looking for play partners, i.e. kinky sex. I don't want a relationship right now necessarily. I certainly don't want a 24/7 dynamic or what have you. I want what I want, and I'm honest about it (as are the money dommes, the goddesses and all of the other women who are constantly maligned in the forums). Stating what you are looking for in your profile allows people to contact you or pass you by. Everyone wants something different. Why should a site such as this be limited to those seeking "the One" or even just a steady relationship? Sorry, kids. Rant over.



pinkpleasures -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 3:34:32 PM)

quote:

Agreed. Now, this next bit has nothing to do what Emerald just said, but adresses the content of the original post. It says fairly clearly in my profile that I am looking for play partners, i.e. kinky sex. I don't want a relationship right now necessarily. I certainly don't want a 24/7 dynamic or what have you. I want what I want, and I'm honest about it (as are the money dommes, the goddesses and all of the other women who are constantly maligned in the forums). Stating what you are looking for in your profile allows people to contact you or pass you by. Everyone wants something different. Why should a site such as this be limited to those seeking "the One" or even just a steady relationship? Sorry, kids. Rant over.

Mariposa


Any desire (short of legal boundaries) that is expressed in a profile here should not diminish anyone's value, dignity or worth. If it does not match Y/yours, don't contact the person described. E/everyone is entitled to be treated with respect and dignity, unless they do something outside the pale..and then the Mods can handle it.

pinkpleasures



MstrHellsFury -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 3:39:08 PM)

this will be short...simple..to the point...if it's not what you're looking for..move on...what the heck does it matter if it doesn't attect you in any why shape or form...I hope this doesn't offend you..but if it does...oh well...just putting in my .00002cents...

(this is just my opinion and does not reflect the views of the station or it's management)

Fury



HalloweenWhite -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 3:40:04 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: pinkpleasures

quote:

Agreed. Now, this next bit has nothing to do what Emerald just said, but adresses the content of the original post. It says fairly clearly in my profile that I am looking for play partners, i.e. kinky sex. I don't want a relationship right now necessarily. I certainly don't want a 24/7 dynamic or what have you. I want what I want, and I'm honest about it (as are the money dommes, the goddesses and all of the other women who are constantly maligned in the forums). Stating what you are looking for in your profile allows people to contact you or pass you by. Everyone wants something different. Why should a site such as this be limited to those seeking "the One" or even just a steady relationship? Sorry, kids. Rant over.

Mariposa


Any desire (short of legal boundaries) that is expressed in a profile here should not diminish anyone's value, dignity or worth. If it does not match Y/yours, don't contact the person described. E/everyone is entitled to be treated with respect and dignity, unless they do something outside the pale..and then the Mods can handle it.

pinkpleasures

Good grief! lol, Ill bet the O.P will think twice about crossing you with an opinion again lol.



HalloweenWhite.



NakedOnMyChain -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 3:50:47 PM)

Hmm...well, I'm not quite sure whose profiles you've been looking at, but I'd recommend taking a look at the profiles of the ones who post in the forums. Those are the ones that are active in this community and take an interest in something other than, as you so eloquently put it, the "meat market". Chat with us, share interests, and get to know us a bit better before you go making any more rash denunciations.



OscarHargraves -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 4:59:09 PM)

I can understand some of those profiles when someone has been latched onto by a person who is mostly there to sponge money or whatever. After that happens you might want to add 'stable income' to your requirements too. But like most everyone else said, WHO CARES? If it's not what you want move on to the next profile. Or, better yet, just create a really good impressive profile of your own and sit back and wait for the answers to come rolling in!



kc692 -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 6:15:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tygertoy

I care because im curious and im not completely closed off to another's point of veiw. Looking back at my post, im seeing that I should have worded it alot differently. I didn't mean to come off quite so opinionated.


I think if you would care to reword it to accurately explain your position, we would be happy to look at it with "fresh eyes". That's one thing with this forum, you ask for opinions, you get them, good and bad, smiles.....Welcome to collarme and the boards.


Edited for damn typos....



Leonidas -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 6:20:59 PM)

It was on May 17th, 1968. That's when George Griffin of Sebastapol California said "hey, I have an idea, you're tied up and naked anyway, what if I went ahead and fucked you now?". Since that day, it's been all downhill.



Ojedieu -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 6:42:18 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Mariposa

Agreed. Now, this next bit has nothing to do what Emerald just said, but adresses the content of the original post. It says fairly clearly in my profile that I am looking for play partners, i.e. kinky sex. I don't want a relationship right now necessarily. I certainly don't want a 24/7 dynamic or what have you. I want what I want, and I'm honest about it (as are the money dommes, the goddesses and all of the other women who are constantly maligned in the forums). Stating what you are looking for in your profile allows people to contact you or pass you by. Everyone wants something different. Why should a site such as this be limited to those seeking "the One" or even just a steady relationship? Sorry, kids. Rant over.


Can't agree with you enough here. As long as people are honest about who they are and what they're looking for, I have absolutely no problem with it, however much I might not like it myself. The ones I have problems with are those who are looking for the magic words to make every sub/slave or master/mistress melt and want to be with them. Rather than just being themselves, they are looking to project a false image and lure someone to them under false pretenses. My profile is pretty specific about what I'm looking for, and granted, it cuts out a lot of potentials, but at least I know most of those who contact me and have read my profile have no delusions about what I'm willing to provide and what I want.

My advice to any newbies or those looking for the "magic words": Just be yourself, be very honest about who you are and what you are looking for. There will be a person out there that thinks you what you describe would be wonderful. It may take a while, but they are out there, and the more specific and realistic you can be about who you are and what you are willing to provide for the other, the better a match you'll end up with.


Edited for clarity



mossy -> RE: When did this lifestyle become a meat market or an excuse to be lazy? (8/23/2005 11:20:02 PM)

[&o] UH<<OH<<i must be getting lazy......and missed the thread about income and kinky sex........where is the meat market?[;)]



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