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RE: Question for subs - 1/7/2008 9:12:42 AM

OmegaG

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

If being true to who you are and fulfilled in yourself means staying at home and living primarily that sort of life, then you're leaving the best mark you possibly could.

What's the point of "leaving a mark" if you are empty and dead inside?

That's somewhat like asking women how they can choose not to bear children because doesn't that make them feel useless and like they aren't serving the world (and yes, I've had people ask me that question).

Someone's "leaving a mark" is another persons "hell on earth." You would do well to remember that.

What LA said (which is better worded then the statement that formed in my head). I never went to school so that a history book would mention my name 200 years from now, I went to school because I had a love of the subject. It is no different then why I choose to serve my Master, I have a love for him and where I fit in his world. I care not for the footprint I leave for others to observe, I care for the happiness that is gained from the path I choose.

Further, I am not validated by what others think of me. A successful business woman, a successful mother or a successful slave have all achieved, of course in our culture only the business woman is appreciated by society at large. Just because society doesn't hold value in a path or life choice does not make it less of a desireable option, IMO

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RE: Question for subs - 1/7/2008 12:56:48 PM

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I may be nobody special. Not recieving awards, not a well known person and of humble means too. Today a 17 year old african american male who is a ward of the state hugged me. The odds stacked against him and already the father of a 3 month old. He was barely staying awake because of late night feedings. He gave me a hug and I taught him about the immune system. Another one of my students was shot in the foot on the way back to his hood but he still wants to come and learn from me.

I think I leave a footprint and effect many.

If you want to learn
I want to teach.

Let me teach you about the impact of those who walk softly but affect the lives of many positively.

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RE: Question for subs - 1/7/2008 1:11:11 PM

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i'm in 2 24/7 committed relationships and never once has either dominant required me to "give up" my career. nor would they ever ask me to. that being said, i'm in a way focusing myself exclusively on mine with my success and achievements as a music/band reviewer. they take pride and joy of all the accomplishments i've achieved - mostly with the guidance and assistance of Daddy. i enjoy what i do and shall continue reviewing when i move to Oregon.

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RE: Question for subs - 1/7/2008 1:13:42 PM

toservez

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Happen all the time in all types of relationships.

I have known female practicing doctors to quit all together to be stay at home Moms. I knew a woman going to law school with no interest in becoming a lawyer but thought she could grab a lawyer husband easier. I mention both of these examples because of just how many and wide spread the reasons can be.

For me personally I absolutely love my career. I even bluntly put it in my profile when searching for a Master that I would work full time in my career of choice if not married and some other things. It is though now clear my path is heading toward working part time or quitting all together more sooner then later. It is something I know I will struggle greatly with but I am guessing the end most who quit their careers do so because life has taken them in a direction that their overall happiness and priorities in life cannot also fit with a career.

No one can have it all when a career is part of the equation.

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RE: Question for subs - 1/7/2008 11:13:11 PM

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Well thank you all for your answers. I didn't mean to offend anyone, sorry if I did. This thing is so alien to me that I had to ask it. It looks like I understand a bit more of the inner mechanic. thank for the sincere answers.

If it's any consolation, it's equally alien to me to imagine someone preferring a career to life as someone's wife/submissive/pet.... You mean, some people would actually go to work if they had another option that didn't involve being homeless? Bull pucky!

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RE: Question for subs - 1/9/2008 9:31:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

What's the point of "leaving a mark" if you are empty and dead inside?

This is the key. It's how I felt before I realized I was submissive, and before I realized it's ok to be submissive.

Being true to one's own nature can often be difficult, full of judgements from others, and frightening; but there is no greater way to leave a "footprint" than to feel free to be who you were born to be.

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RE: Question for subs - 1/9/2008 4:46:32 PM

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I haven't read the replies but the original post inspired me to reply. I use to converse with someone who was very interested in, but did not understand much about D/s when it went beyond the leisure activity time, the '24/7' in this case. When I tried to explain what my own idea of a 24/7 power exchange relationship would be like, long term, he replied with: "But don't you want to make something of yourself?" I was quite offended in some ways but held myself in check so I could go think on his question, and my own response.

If a mother spends her life raising children, teaching them, taking care of her husband, devoting her time to her family, was her life a waste?
If a woman bears no children, has no husband, and instead spends her life working for charity, helping complete strangers, was her life a waste?
If a woman works hard in school, goes on to university, has a masters, wins a noble peace prize for something, was her life wasted?

Were any of these women happy doing what they did? If they had been unhappy doing it, would it have made their actions more or less valued by the people they touched in life? This is obviously slanted to my own perspective, but it comes down to, make your life a happy one. The only 'waste' is when you cannot enjoy and appreciate what you are doing with your life, no matter what it is.

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