sillisub
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ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig
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I was referring to deception... That is what I discovered after I got there ok...
And I was referring to this statement:quote:
It only serves to weed out, (and quite well I might add), the women who are not exactly forthright with their motives... Those who would indiscriminately have me hop a plane to visit them with no concern for anything but themselves... and the many who had me fly out there so they could get ""LAID""... Thats right GET LAID!!!! Now I love sex but I am not going to fly all over the country on my nickel for it I understand that people aren't always honest, but you made it sound as if their motive for having you indiscriminately fly over to meet was just to get laid, which I thought unlikely (but possible I suppose).
So, I imagine the problem is generally expectations on both parts gone wrong; what did she think she would get from you, and what did you think you would get from her? If not for unfulfilled expectations, than meeting someone simply to get to know them, and having a better feel for weather you two are a good match should come with minimum expectation (aside from being single, appear as one described, being available as one professed)... I could be wrong, but this is my opinion.
I'm glad you've never had a problem detecting chemistry, I unfortunately have met people that I didn't feel that certain je ne sais quoi with from email/phone to real time meeting.. M
I suppose one could say everything in life is in "general" expectations on some level or another... I think its time to take a break, if someone tells me its cloudy outside I have the full right to believe it is in fact cloudy outside... If I see it is sunny then the expectations you put in my head are false... That is deception... and I suppose if both parties have lied then you could legitimately say "on both parts gone wrong"... However that is not what I said in previous posts... and you think women are somehow above those kinds of actions?
As far as motive is concerned, when I get there they are grabbing my dick and trying to stick it in within a few short hours of being there I would say that its pretty clear what the motive is...
Is there anything else you woudl like to know judge judy?
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ORIGINAL: Alixandria
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Original: sillisub
Whats up with the "dissipate his silly fantasies"
I dont have fantasies, at least not in the manner you are descibing that need to be dissipated... I have no preconceptions going into this with anyone... Only what has been told to me and what I can see from observation... I may be into worship but at the same time I also know you put your panties on one leg at a time just like all the rest of us.. well unless you are sitting down I suppose LOL :)
What's up with the "dissipate his silly fantasies" is that without exception, even though I tell the guy I'm an ordinary looking 50 year old woman who has no expectations about a first meeting, I get a long harangue (ok, the harangue is meant to be playful) about how disappointed they are that I didn't show up in a latex catsuit. Really. In fact, a thread I've been meaning to start is how to overcome the sheer burnout factor of going through this experience again and again.
I can't address your lack of fantasies because I don't know you, but again, without exception before the meets I've described above I get assured that the fellow has no pre-conceived ideas either.
Alix
I swear, either I have totally lost my ability to write clearly or everyone out here reads with tunnel vision...
Without going back to find the exact quote, I said something to the effect of "at least not those kinds of fantasies" read: I do not fantasize about the person I am meeting...
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