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Journals? - 1/6/2008 6:22:05 PM

PrizedPosession

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How many people here keep a journal? not like the ones on CM but ones your Masters look at?
if so what do You usually write and how consistent are the entries?
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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 6:46:29 PM

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I was in a relationship where it was a requirement. Every day, even if just a few lines. I found it enjoyable and I liked having that ritual in my life. Sometimes he would comment on it, sometimes not. There was something for me that was freeing in the revelation of my feelings in that manner. I was sometimes asked to write about certain things but usually I wrote what I wanted to write about. I still journal but not on a consistent basis.

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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 6:50:37 PM

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When i signed my contract with my Mistress one of the conditions was that i shall keep a journal and after any sessions or time together i am to write my thoughts on my experiences and share these with her within 24 hours of being together.
I tell her what i thought of how she treated me and my feelings on the things we did if i liked or hated them she wants to know..i feel relatively lucky in that my Mistress seems to take a genuine interest in my thoughts and feelings.
So far i i have found this to be beneficial as i sometimes find it hard to get things out person to person and this is a good outlet.

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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 6:53:05 PM

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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 6:59:10 PM

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i keep a journal on CM, because it is easy access and doesn't take up space on my computer. i was not asked to do this, nor was i asked for my password on this count so that my Owner could read my journal entries and what i write on the forums. i gave it to him anyway, as a sign of my love and devotion to him. i don't know if he reads what i erite or not. The journal is basically for me to air my thoughts and my feelings. i write every day that i have access to a computer. i write about my life and my love for my Owner and how he makes me feel. It's very fullfilling and satisfying for me.

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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 7:00:00 PM

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I keep a journal for my Owner. It is not her requirement...rather it's something I want to do for her. It's on livejournal.

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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 7:11:05 PM

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thank you all very much for your responses. i keep one as well and i was wondering how many others do it too. its required of me since Master and i are currently apart because of school.
yet again i offer my sinceriest gratitude for answering my question.
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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 7:16:29 PM

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i write a daily journal entry (i use livejournal, too!) in a Dear Diary style, as though my Master doesn't look at it. i write about what i'm feeling and doing that day. If Master asks me to write about something specific or do some research, i post that to my journal as well. W/we don't live together, so i give feedback on the times W/we are together, my feelings before and after, comments on what W/we did and why i enjoyed (or didn't enjoy) something W/we did. If i find a quote, hear a song i think is meaningful to O/our relationship, or take a special picture of myself for Him, i include that, too. my journal is a safe place for me to say anything i want, to express my anxieties, my hopes, and my joy. Master sometimes makes a comment, but not usually.

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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 7:28:12 PM

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I do not have to keep a journal. He has read my blogs, but those are public for the most part. He has also responded to them.

I do write movie and book reviews when he requests these of me.

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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 8:28:56 PM

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I think females in general really like journaling- it lets them say "lookit me!" without actually having to say it.

But I think too often submissives become dependent on the journal, RATHER than using it as a launchpad into more meaningful and direct contact. If the dom doesn't take the impetus to bring up issues in person, I find that the issue doesn't really get raised at all- leading the sub to think that the dom doesn't care or isn't interested, rather than simply directly bringing it up.

I also feel it raises too many expectations- if a dom misses a reading or doesn't give some feedback on it, subs often begin to feel let down or insecure.

I think encouraging someone to express themselves through writing is a fabulous idea. But it should not become a crutch or substitute for actual discussion of issues, and should not become a burden or symbol of attention for the dominant to take on.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1352137/mpage_1/key_journal/tm.htm#1353043
Keeping a journal?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_324861/mpage_1/key_journal/tm.htm
Journaling for subs

http://www.collarchat.com/m_496605/mpage_1/key_journal/tm.htm#496785
Keeping a Journal

http://www.collarchat.com/m_563275/mpage_1/key_journal/tm.htm#563324
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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 8:35:08 PM

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i kept a journal even before i found my Mistress..i have always found it a great way to make sense of issues in my mind and keep track of important feelings and memories..Mistress has total access o my journal, SHe reads it everyday and comments frequently on its contents...She does not require it of me but does encourage me to write in it everyday

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RE: Journals? - 1/6/2008 8:41:32 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: PrizedPosession

How many people here keep a journal? not like the ones on CM but ones your Masters look at?
if so what do You usually write and how consistent are the entries?
-bobcat

I keep an LJ that he can read if he feels like it. The entries are pretty inconsistent. I talk about whatever is going on at the time. Nothing all that interesting.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 3:17:09 AM

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i have my journal on a blog that only He and i access. i am not required to post on any set schedule, but sometimes He will mention that i need to post or give me a writing assignment to be posted in it. Often, i will write down my fantasies or dreams that i remember... my favorite form of being bratty is to try to arouse Him with what i have written. *grin*

i resisted the idea for quite a while and He was wise enough to let me come to it in my own time. i write as a hobby and didnt want to turn somethign i enjoy into 'work'. But it really is helpful to have a place to write out what i am thinking and feeling with no pressure or chance of repurcussion. my Master has said that nothing i say in my journal will lead to discipline nor make Him angry, i am free to express myself in any way.

What is written varies -- what i was thinking or feeling, my favorite parts of the last session, an emotion or instruction that i am having trouble with, a particulary vivid dream.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 4:19:02 AM

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I've always journaled in one way or another. Writing things out helps me to work though thoughts and ideas that I'm not able to process if they are sort of tangled.

In the beginning of our relationship, I was required to write a journal entry after each of our meetings (Sir and I live about an hour and a half apart and get together most every weekend) with reflections, reactions, etc from our time together. After a time, the entries started to sound very similar to one another and we found that our communication had advanced to a point where the journal wasn't really doing it's original job anymore and my journal "assignment" was put on hold unless there was something specific he wanted me to reflect on.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 6:25:31 AM

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I keep a journal. Ive found out recently that if I write my thoughts down then send a copy of it to who I'm really trying to communicate with....it makes my life easier as I'm not writing to a specfic person.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 6:34:05 AM

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quote:

Reposted:
I think females in general really like journaling- it lets them say "lookit me!" without actually having to say it.

But I think too often submissives become dependent on the journal, RATHER than using it as a launchpad into more meaningful and direct contact. If the dom doesn't take the impetus to bring up issues in person, I find that the issue doesn't really get raised at all- leading the sub to think that the dom doesn't care or isn't interested, rather than simply directly bringing it up.

I also feel it raises too many expectations- if a dom misses a reading or doesn't give some feedback on it, subs often begin to feel let down or insecure.

I think encouraging someone to express themselves through writing is a fabulous idea. But it should not become a crutch or substitute for actual discussion of issues, and should not become a burden or symbol of attention for the dominant to take on.

I whole heartedly agree with the above. My Daddy does not require me to journal, so I don't. If I did journal it would be in the style fasn8nsub mentioned, writing TO the journal as if Daddy wasn't going to see it.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 7:36:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: PrizedPosession

How many people here keep a journal? not like the ones on CM but ones your Masters look at?
if so what do You usually write and how consistent are the entries?
-bobcat

When i was w/LrdV, He would have me make daily entries about my thoughts on my transition from vanilla to submissive. Each day i rec'd a new task or W/we'd chat on the phone/online and i'd have to record my thoughts on O/our conversations. he would read these at his leisure/then share HIS thoughts :)

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 7:53:33 AM

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i agree with you lucky. i'm not required but i do enjoy writing and i dont think someone should use the journal instead of communicating with their Master.
-bobcat
again thanks for the responses

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 7:58:38 AM

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i used to have to write a journal every day when we were first together...He has always said it was more for me to work out my thoughts/feelings and for Him to see where my head was at...and also to look back on growth....now i do it when/if i want and have found i tend to use it to manipulate so don't bother much anymore...we talk about things as needed but if i want to discuss something i am having difficulty bringing to Him i will journal it and He can bring it up to me...

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 8:01:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: PrizedPosession

i agree with you lucky. i'm not required but i do enjoy writing and i dont think someone should use the journal instead of communicating with their Master.
-bobcat
again thanks for the responses

i don't see it as using it instead of communicating but as an addition means of communication. i have trouble talking about my feelings... things get all mixed up and it doesn't come out right and... *sigh*

But writing them down gives me the chance to go back and edit so i say is actually what i mean. i can change a word to one that is more accurate, delete things that detract from my point, make sure i didn't forget something.

Additionally our relationship is a bit long distance. We may have several contacts in a day through email, chat or phone... or none at all for two or three. The journal is always there. Communication is something we both work at, constantly, and the journal is just one of the ways we do that.

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