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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 11:40:00 AM

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Hi Blushes
Oh I know, however, I do know that there are posters here who are in Ds relationships or Ms ones where the partner serves in the forces etc. To me, they are still 24/7. But it's a different 24/7 dynamic. I think many people have a set idea on what 24/7 is and I don;t believe there is only one kind of way.
I see Darcy and live with for half the time. It just isn't practical for us to live in the same house every day at the moment - however our lives are connected 24/7 with work as well as decisions and, well, everything.

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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 11:40:00 AM

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What a wonderful and positive post. Thanks!

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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 12:42:24 PM

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I will echo what others have said. I never had any real delusions of fantasy because I never really did that hurdle thing. It just kind of happen the first time and the other two times I already had experience to know like all things in life that things can be the same, better or worse then my expectations.

In terms of going from non 24/7 to 24/7 the biggest problem I have seen is the realization that most of the time things are just not as heighten with 24/7. Most not living together or turn on and off the power exchange things tend to be able to anticipate, prepare and get use to when play time or other things are done. Plus get breaks in between. I think expectation that 24/7 is going to feel always like when you are in power exchange mode or having to do things whether dominant or submissive when you are not prepared or feel like doing them is often where specific problems can come up from both people.

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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 12:50:27 PM

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It's cool you are wondering and asking. And many blessings with your move in a few months.
oh - and you got mail.

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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 1:39:58 PM

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You are a true Lady. :)

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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 2:30:16 PM

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I've never thought of fantasy in regards to the relationship---it's life and I simply go with the flow. A relationship takes two---I can only control my end of the relationship so anything I fantasized about is probably not going to live up to my expectations.

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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 3:04:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: toservez

In terms of going from non 24/7 to 24/7 the biggest problem I have seen is the realization that most of the time things are just not as heighten with 24/7. Most not living together or turn on and off the power exchange things tend to be able to anticipate, prepare and get use to when play time or other things are done. Plus get breaks in between. I think expectation that 24/7 is going to feel always like when you are in power exchange mode or having to do things whether dominant or submissive when you are not prepared or feel like doing them is often where specific problems can come up from both people.

Yes, that is a good point. One thing Capnspankins and I have figured out this time around is that it's good to have a ritual in place that will mark the beginning of the total power exchange (TPE) and we mark it by changing my collar. I basically have three collars.

I have my sterling silver Tiffany & Co. chain with padlock that I wear during the day and out in public. I have a "light service" collar which is a thin black collar with a simple silver ring and it's comfortable enough to sleep in. Then I have my heavy service collar which is thick and heavy and has several attachment points on it. After we have finished our mundane daily chores, and the kids are in bed, Sir tells me to get one of my other collars. It really helps us both get into our roles, and helps me remember my rules.

During the rest of the day, I have rules I have to obey, and we do little things to keep the 24/7 fun going like he'll give me a kiss and a spank goodbye, or I'll address him as Sir when nobody else is listening.

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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 3:36:12 PM

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It's much better and extremely different.

All the things that I thought would be trying, ended up being the least of my problems. And my biggest hurdles were things I would have never dreamed would be difficult to get past or through.

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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 3:53:54 PM

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I had no idea what it would be like so there is no basis for reference with me.

There are good points and bad points, the good seem to outweigh the bad and I guess that is what matters.

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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 4:06:09 PM

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who are 24/7. Is it better than you thought it would be or does it not live up to the fantasy that you thought it would be?

soon as i am fortunate enough to have a Daddy who is worthy of this princess, i'll let you know!!

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RE: For those of you - 1/7/2008 5:33:05 PM

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Changes from month to month with whatever is happening in our lives. Today with a stomach virus making the rounds, nothing is happening. A couple of days ago it was great, following him around on his errands, nuzzling him constantly.

It's real life which is what I expected.

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