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takenbyjohnr07 -> For those of you (1/6/2008 10:21:03 PM)

who are 24/7. Is it better than you thought it would be or does it not live up to the fantasy that you thought it would be?



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: For those of you (1/6/2008 10:22:50 PM)

Yes :)  But a lot more of the former.



AquaticSub -> RE: For those of you (1/6/2008 10:23:32 PM)

Some parts are different but I didn't really have a fantasy that it would be all that different from a "vanilla" relationship. By the time we were ready to move into a 24/7 relationship I had been lucky enough to listen to people talk about their successful relationships here and realized that, from the outside, it probably wouldn't look all that different than what we had before.



BitaTruble -> RE: For those of you (1/6/2008 11:44:58 PM)

I never fantasized about 24/7 so there were no expectations to meet. I will say that the journey with Himself has been an amazing one filled with moments of wonderment, bewilderment, excitement, lust, pain, boredom, heartache and everything else that every other sort of relationship goes through. BDSM as a whole though .. my fantasies have been and continue to be far exceeded by my reality. I guess I'm not that imaginative. [8D]

Celeste




Elorin -> RE: For those of you (1/6/2008 11:48:35 PM)

Attempts at 24/7 didn't live up to what I thought I would experience. I'm either too bitter and not willing enough to submit or he isn't willing to put into it the effort that I require as a sub. Either way, the experiment is over and it was a failed one.



CuriousLord -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 12:10:53 AM)

24/7's great. (To be fair, I've never tried non-24/7.)



MissMorrigan -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 12:43:20 AM)

Although we officially moved into our first home together eight months ago, we had been living together for approx. 3 prior to that. We never had an ideal or fantasy of how it would be as such, but have found it more difficult than expected due to outside intrusions beyond our control. The great part is growing individually as well as together, enjoying the results of the groundwork we put into achieving what we have together.



onthenosetone -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 12:56:55 AM)

It's perfect, i'm living my dream[:)]



wisteriaV -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 5:05:36 AM)

This never had a fantasy aspect to it for me. I came into this without any concept of being nothing more than pleasing and serving my Master. Over the course of time however, the fantasy makes for some excellent play.



xxblushesxx -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 5:21:17 AM)

I'm with those who said that they read a lot, and knew that 24/7 wouldn't be like the stories.
We enjoy it, but we didn't have expectations of our lives becoming 'the story of o' or anything like that.
You have to know going in to it, that it's a real relationship. Some days you will not feel well, or be grouchy, and other days your partner may not.
It's not all floggers and cuffs you know! *g*

~Christina



mhawk -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 5:21:17 AM)




the only thing that is difficult right now for me with being 24/7 is this. my Lord is away during the week so our time is very limited on the weekends when He is home,His job requires Him to be out of state alot.so the O/s relation between us tends to be under some stress at times.the reason i say that is because His wife/my Mistress is to act in His authority when He is away,hence the connection between my Mistress and myself is much stronger than it is with my Lord,He knows it pains me deeply but when He is here we do make the effort to spend as much time together as we can.





PanthersMom -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 5:38:55 AM)

i think fantasy is always better than reality, in fantasies nobody has a bad day or gets the flu or has bad habits that drive you nutty.  but real life is much more fun in that it is a new challenge every day that you face together. 

PM



CalifChick -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 11:08:03 AM)

Perhaps I'm misunderstanding your question... or perhaps I'm just being bitchy.

Why would it be any different than any other relationship where two people live together?  There are always fantasies of what it will be like, and then there is reality, which hopefully more closely resembles your fantasy than not.

Or is this really a question about slipping into "vanilla" roles while living together versus being who you really feel you are inside?

Cali



RCdc -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 11:18:34 AM)

Hello takenone, glad your trip rocked.
 
I do not live with Darcy right now - but that does not stop me living 24/7 as it is called.  24/7 is a mindset, not simply physical.  There are couples here where one half of the partnership is away and serving for their country or work away from home for days at a time but for them they still serve 24/7.  So what I am asking, are you wanting to know more of the physical aspects, or something else?
 
the.dark.



Owner4SexSlave -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 11:26:11 AM)

At times it was better, other times it was not all I had imagined it to be with somebody.   The imagination is never the same as reality though.   



xxblushesxx -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 11:28:52 AM)

Hello Dark;

While I suppose 24/7 could be considered a mindset, I'm fairly confident the op was interested in people who actually do live together. (if I'm mistaken I apologize)
To me, it's much easier to serve in the abstract, than when someone is right there in front of me doing something annoying or just being a jerk.
Talking on the phone and the internet is fun, and you can (almost) always put your best foot forward when you do. But, it's much much different when it's day to day every single day and your partner is cra....oh uhm...nm...*lol*
It's much easier to idealize the relationship when you are not together every single day. Email and phone may feel the same, but the other person can't annoy you by leaving toothpaste in the sink, or complaining about how you (insert anything).
It's a totally different dynamic, I'm afraid.
One is not better than the other (except in how the individuals involved feel about it.), but they certainly are quite different.

~Christina



takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 11:29:53 AM)

Hi1 i guess i was just wondering about everything. i am in my first real time D/s relationbship and it is going very well. Which i am so very grateful for. We have decided to move in together probably by May and i was just wondering how it was for others. i could use all the advice and experience anyone is willing to give me. :)



takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 11:31:49 AM)

You both have great points and you both are right.



gorgeous1 -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 11:33:49 AM)

Capnspankins and I tried 24/7 about five years ago and it didn't work out because I think we both had too many expectations that couldn't possibly be met on the level of excellence we both wanted.

Now we are re-committed to the 24/7 experience/experiment, and I think we have it right this time. Sir presented me with a list of 100 or so rules and protocol and goals and we are taking it one step at a time. It's better to tackle one or two things at a time and perfect them, and enjoy the journey.

I think the most important thing to remember is that extending WIITWD to the point where it permeates our mundane every-day lives is a delicate balance. I have said it before, and I'll say it again- 24/7 is an illusion- delicate gossamer draped over our everyday responsabilities to our jobs, family and community. The trick is to find harmony, and to be able to read eachother's moods. There are times when my husband had had a bad day at work and to drop to my knees at his feet and expect him to be Master would so not be a turn on! As for me, how do you think I'd respond to "kneel, slave!" right in the middle of trying to answer the phone and yank a batch of cookies out of the oven before they burn?

We have no lofty expectations. All we expect is to have fun, and enjoy the journey and to be able to smile and wink wickedly at each other when we're at a restaurant together because we both know I have welts on my ass from last night's caning and I'm not wearing any panties!



CalifChick -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 11:34:10 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

While I suppose 24/7 could be considered a mindset, I'm fairly confident the op was interested in people who actually do live together. (if I'm mistaken I apologize)


Actually, Christina, most of the time we do NOT know what this OP means, until she comes back and posts a followup to clarify.  Or to seemingly ask a question only to be able to come back and do a "look at me" on how it is for her. 

Of course, that's just my view.  YMMV.

Cali



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